Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To say the anti-football lot need to calm down a little?

336 replies

nowillpowernoproblem · 06/07/2026 06:20

I didn’t stay up for the match because there was no way to make it work with my job, but if I could’ve I would’ve.

I can’t understand the actual visceral anger on here about it? It’s one night - kids won’t drop dead at school, workplaces won’t fail, but a lot of people will have just had a brilliant night.

I just don’t understand why some people can’t accept that others enjoy other things and it doesn’t need to be a big deal?

OP posts:
katepilar · 06/07/2026 09:31

I dont know what exactly you have in mind that needs to calm down.

The whole professional fotball or hockey concept is extremely weird.

Thepeopleversuswork · 06/07/2026 09:31

KatiePricesKnickers · 06/07/2026 08:43

It’s the World Cup FFS!
Football may be the MOST important activity in young people’s lives.

Again that's your perspective, it's not a universal truth. It's not mine or my daughter's and you don't get to tell me I'm odd or unusual because the World Cup isn't more important than my holiday.

ThreadGuardDog · 06/07/2026 09:31

NeatPinkFinch · 06/07/2026 09:09

Wow that’s really nasty OP. I don’t think that poster needs further trauma from not being believed. You should be ashamed of yourself.

The poster didn’t actually say that was what happened either. OP is unwilling to accept that nobody needed to actually be sitting around watching the football. The game just being on would potentially be enough of a distraction to have an effect on care.

AfogatoFirenze · 06/07/2026 09:30

@Thepeopleversuswork

its not a matter of life and death you say?!?

pffft

its much more important than that! 😂 ⚽️

Sadcafe · 06/07/2026 09:28

I have no particular like or dislike of the football, what annoys me personally is the hype. At the end of the day, this was a last 16 match, not the final, if people want to stay up, it’s their choice, but put it into perspective, if it was the final and it was on at 1am I’d fully understand all the near hysteria that comes from fans and pundits, I’d possibly even join in, but it wasn’t. Good for the team on the result , but let’s try to remember we’ve won nothing yet

Frequency · 06/07/2026 09:25

ObelixtheGaul · 06/07/2026 06:49

I think it's the opposite. There's nothing wrong with enjoying the game or staying up for it, but all the hysterical over dramatic nonsense about it being 'historic' and the kids will remember it all their lives, etc. It's a tournament that happens every four years, it was only the final 16, which England have reached a few times.

Some of the carry on on the thread about whether or not her son should stay up (and I did think he should) was ridiculous. We don't get this silly about any other sport.

It's great that we are doing well and people like watching it, but there might be less vitriol if people didn't seem to have lost all perspective over a fairly regularly occuring sporting event at a relatively early stage in the contest. I could have understood it if it was the semis or the final, but at this stage it really isn't this massive historic never to be repeated moment.

This.

My workplace managed it very fairly, I thought. There was a Teams poll at the start of the tournament with options ranging from "I will watch every match no matter what and will call in sick to avoid missing a match" to "There's a football match on? Who's playing?" and including answers like "I'm only interested if they reach X stage" and the rota was organised accordingly, so if it wasn't for my neighbours and the fact the entire country seems to have lost collectively lost it's sanity I probably wouldn't care one way or the other.

I'm now off to ask for another Teams poll, which includes the answer, "I don't care about football, but my neighbours are massive inconsiderate twats"

And yes, screaming intermittently between 2 am and 4:30 am on a Monday is being a massive twat. IDGAF if it's because a bunch of blokes are doing well at kicking a sack of leather about. Unless there is a fire, I need to be aware of then screaming and chanting at that time in the morning is massively twattish.

If you enjoy football, great, happy for you. Don't inflict it on me.

Sereine · 06/07/2026 09:25

TheCurious0range · 06/07/2026 08:42

And yet schools were closed half of the week before last and the same this week, and even those that were open did very little. It's funny when it's the school who closes or just sticks things on for the afternoon, it's fine and won't be to the detriment of their education. DS didn't stay up he's too young, but the hypocrisy is real.

That's because in some schools education was not physically possible in the heat, especially those in badly designed buildings with lots of plate glass. No-one suggested that having to stop teaching was detrimental to education. If anything, it made it all the more important not to waste time today.

ThreadGuardDog · 06/07/2026 09:24

SkirlingGirl · 06/07/2026 09:15

This thread is full of MN football tropes.

Grown men kicking a bag of air

Rugby is preferable

Tennis is so much naicer

I've got a good job so of course I hate football

Etc ad infinitum

The snobbery always surfaces, it's not just that posters hate football, the undercurrent is always that it's just, well, common.

It is our 'national sport' in terms of participation and spectator numbers, way beyond any other sport. The World Cup is the most watched sporting event on earth by far.

Edited

That still doesn’t mean that everyone likes it, or that they are ‘snobs’ for not doing so. Football is associated with violence on the terraces and bad behaviour on match days (l live close to a stadium and experience it first hand) it’s also the source of much domestic violence when the result goes the wrong way.

So in many ways it’s the opposite of what ‘sport’ should be, so l’m thankful we don’t have a national sport because football is far from the ideal model for that.

capricorn12 · 06/07/2026 09:23

My concern is the amount of people on the roads today having had hardly any sleep.

SapphireSeptember · 06/07/2026 09:22

I've noticed @nowillpowernoproblem hasn't been back, they're probably at school now. 😁

BaffledAndBemusedToo · 06/07/2026 09:22

Thepeopleversuswork · 06/07/2026 06:32

I’m not anti football (in fact I like watching football). But I do resent the amount of time, attention and conversation which you are expected to expend upon it.

Its hard for a football lover to understand how all encompassing it can be during a tournament if you either don’t like it or just don’t care all that much. It can become very draining and quite alienating when its all other people want to talk about and you just want to get away and talk about something else for a bit.

Also I find the tribalism around club football ugly and childish. Grown men fighting/arguing over it is contemptible.

I think some of us just wish sometimes there was a way to get away from it for a bit.

All of this (apart from the first sentence as I don’t like football).

FIFAS · 06/07/2026 09:22

This world cup has sparked my interest in football..I used to just like cricket

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 09:21

So @nowillpowernoproblem either you've name changed for this thread or you've never posted here before. Clearly you came here just to rage bait people having just watched the match.

Football may not unite us like you claim, but your thread certainly has. Even those who agreed with your original sentiment now think you're a dick like the anti-football crowd do. Well done.

Ibrox · 06/07/2026 09:18

ThreadGuardDog · 06/07/2026 08:32

Neither is football.

Whinging seems to be, though...

Sereine · 06/07/2026 09:17

nowillpowernoproblem · 06/07/2026 08:01

It’s true though. It’s the end of term. The learning is done. The kids will not suffer for one day where a few of them are tired.

You've been told by several people who actually work in schools that that is not the case, yet you still insist that your version of the facts is true. And you still haven't apologised for dismissing the poster's awful birth experience, which less than two weeks after the Amos report on maternity services was unbelievably stupid.

You're not doing yourself or your argument any favours, OP.

ThreadGuardDog · 06/07/2026 09:17

Pushmepullu · 06/07/2026 09:12

Your niece is either very lucky or goes to an underachieving school. It’s not the last week of term. There are 3 weeks left. Learning has been severely impacted because of the weather. I hope your attitude is down to tiredness.

I hope your attitude is down to tiredness.

More likely that OP has been sent to school cranky because they weren’t allowed to stay up to watch the game. I’m sure ten minutes in the fresh air in the playground at morning break will do them the world of good.

BillyBites · 06/07/2026 09:17

And the thread was started by someone intent on bashing an imagined group of people who apparently need to "calm down a little."

No, we are perfectly calm.

SkirlingGirl · 06/07/2026 09:15

This thread is full of MN football tropes.

Grown men kicking a bag of air

Rugby is preferable

Tennis is so much naicer

I've got a good job so of course I hate football

Etc ad infinitum

The snobbery always surfaces, it's not just that posters hate football, the undercurrent is always that it's just, well, common.

It is our 'national sport' in terms of participation and spectator numbers, way beyond any other sport. The World Cup is the most watched sporting event on earth by far.

ThreadGuardDog · 06/07/2026 09:13

nowillpowernoproblem · 06/07/2026 07:48

lol, god forbid an adult isn’t uptight!

Absolutely. Don’t forget that full school uniform is mandatory until the official end of term.

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 06/07/2026 09:13

nowillpowernoproblem · 06/07/2026 06:38

Oh no! One day of a little less watching films at the end of term! However will they cope! Genuinely I don’t know whats gone wrong in this country lately

Where do you teach? Or where do your kids go to school? My kids school watch films on the last day of term, not two weeks before the end of term m.
Why don't you go in to school and look after 30 exhausted 5 year olds and come back later to tell us how you got on.
Yes, I hate football but don't give a toss if others want to watch it. Don't pretend though that a load of over tired kids is going to make an easy day for teaching staff.. Personally I think parents of primary school aged children were crazy to let their children watch it. Still my kids are like me, they hate football too so were happy enough going to bed.

Pushmepullu · 06/07/2026 09:12

nowillpowernoproblem · 06/07/2026 06:43

It’s the end of term. They’re not doing anything, I know that from my niece who has spent the last week doing absolutely naff all.

I don’t have kids, but this is what I mean. It’s not irresponsible to let your kids watch the football, they won’t die from one day of less sleep and the school won’t burn down!

Your niece is either very lucky or goes to an underachieving school. It’s not the last week of term. There are 3 weeks left. Learning has been severely impacted because of the weather. I hope your attitude is down to tiredness.

randomchap · 06/07/2026 09:11

Screamingabdabz · 06/07/2026 09:07

Jeez what a horrible thread. Sums up football for me - starts with an innocent game that is supposed to be good natured and brings people together, but all it does is raise aggression and tribalism against people who aren’t like you.

Insulting hard working teachers and people with genuine concerns about the social consequences of this match, you’re not exactly a glowing advocate for sportsmanship and egalitarianism are you op?

I’d suggest you’re the one that needs to calm down. Learn to prioritise empathy and humanity over a silly game where men kick a ball with their feet.

Here you're minimising what it means to people. To you it may be a silly game but it is the most popular sport in the world, and the World Cup is the most prestigious competition.

Can't you just ignore it? Get on with the stuff you find joy in? Rather than just childishly attacking something that brings joy to millions

Morepositivemum · 06/07/2026 09:11

Perfect28
As a teacher no they won't drop dead but they will be really tired and more likely to have behaviours which disrupt the learning of others. If you kept them up, keep them off school for the sake of the rest of us. Thanks.

Do you not just take it as one of those things in life? Even school has had eg school tours or big sporting events on a day that wasn’t a Friday and the kids have been grotty and irritable the following day of school, they’d asked to not go in and I said no you suck it up you’ll be fine, it’s part of life that something special might happen and the next day you go to work school, and you suffer, but it’s cool you got to experience the thing and you’ll remember both that and laugh about the following day!!

Ponoka7 · 06/07/2026 09:10

Sirzy · 06/07/2026 06:39

Spoken by someone who knows nothing about schools!

Absolutely. My GC's school is showing the match at 9am. I've had to struggle to get my year 6 GD in. They closed once the weather had cooled down, after forcing the children in, in full uniform. She might have been more keen if they had have been showing a film or actually doing something school related. Everything has been winding down for the rest of the school. Their school isn't unique.

NeatPinkFinch · 06/07/2026 09:09

nowillpowernoproblem · 06/07/2026 07:29

Because I find it very hard to believe a woman was in active labour and the midwives shrugged their shoulders and turned back to the football.

Wow that’s really nasty OP. I don’t think that poster needs further trauma from not being believed. You should be ashamed of yourself.