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To say the anti-football lot need to calm down a little?

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nowillpowernoproblem · 06/07/2026 06:20

I didn’t stay up for the match because there was no way to make it work with my job, but if I could’ve I would’ve.

I can’t understand the actual visceral anger on here about it? It’s one night - kids won’t drop dead at school, workplaces won’t fail, but a lot of people will have just had a brilliant night.

I just don’t understand why some people can’t accept that others enjoy other things and it doesn’t need to be a big deal?

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Scarfitwere · 06/07/2026 10:41

Not angry but am tired of the whole thing, was hoping England would get knocked out last night so it would be over (at least for England) and people would largely shut up about it!

Pinkchickenwine · 06/07/2026 10:36

ObelixtheGaul · 06/07/2026 06:49

I think it's the opposite. There's nothing wrong with enjoying the game or staying up for it, but all the hysterical over dramatic nonsense about it being 'historic' and the kids will remember it all their lives, etc. It's a tournament that happens every four years, it was only the final 16, which England have reached a few times.

Some of the carry on on the thread about whether or not her son should stay up (and I did think he should) was ridiculous. We don't get this silly about any other sport.

It's great that we are doing well and people like watching it, but there might be less vitriol if people didn't seem to have lost all perspective over a fairly regularly occuring sporting event at a relatively early stage in the contest. I could have understood it if it was the semis or the final, but at this stage it really isn't this massive historic never to be repeated moment.

Beating Mexico at the aztecs, altitude, heat, the fact they’d only lost 2 games in 89 competitive games, is good reason for the “dramatical nonsense” TBH.

I doubt the poster you refer to let her son watch it, she asked AIBU then flounced when the majority said she was. She wanted everyone to agree with her, they didn’t.

Error404FucksNotFound · 06/07/2026 10:36

tbh, I think it's nuts to care so much about any game you're not actually playing in, I honestly don't get it. BUT. I do understand that lots of people care a great deal. My brother in law is one. He is football crazy. It is hugely important to him. I don't understand why, but I understand that it is. iyswim.

The world cup is what? Once every 4 years? So a few days every 4 years? Let people enjoy it. If they want a day off it's not going to solve any of the world's problems but neither is it the end of the world for some kids to be knackered for a day or two.

What does bother me though is the violence that goes with it. It is fact not opinion that violence increases, especially domestic violence, and that is a big problem. Maybe football matches should be screened in coffee shops rather than pubs.

Frequency · 06/07/2026 10:33

LuckyHazelFox · 06/07/2026 10:14

I hope the teachers being negative don't pass that awful attitude onto the pupils. Last night's display from England was one of the most spectacular things to witness for our country. I'm sick of England being shit on just for being England. We played with skill and tenacity; played as a team and came together. We weren't expected to win but we bloody well did. The bulldog spirit was back. If you're English, whether you like football or not, you should be proud but as usual, all the negatives will be highlighted.

No one is shitting on England. People are pissed off by their lives being impacted by something they have little to no interest in. I would usually want England to do well because it makes other people happy, but after this morning, I am praying they get kicked out before their next stupid o'clock in the morning match.

I'm not a teacher, FWIW, but I am passing my shitty mood onto everyone because I'm pissed off and exhausted.

The thing I'm pissed off most about is that I'm usually a very easy-going, live-and-let-live type person. If my neighbours had said to me, "We're watching the match at home and will have mates around. We'll try to be quiet, but there might be some screaming." I would have done what they did and gone to bed early in case I got woken up at 2 am.

But they didn't. So I didn't. And now I have had around an hour's sleep, and I'm feeling pretty shitty towards anyone who as much as thinks about football in my presence.

Bloozie · 06/07/2026 10:31

toolioo · 06/07/2026 06:28

I watched it, just got in and am now going to start work. Just don't give it head space and enjoy the game/life without the unnecessary noise. That's what I have learnt to do. If I watched this world cup with twitter on in the background, for example, it would be under a cloud of immense hatred for England, of racism and of abusive language towards anyone possible, however I don't. I go to the pub, have a brilliant laugh, and ignore the rest. Mostly life is good this way.

Absolutely everything in life is better without Twitter in the background. I am an immeasurably happier human since I stopped using it about 2 years ago.

I didn't stay up and watch the football. I intended to, but the delay was too much for my tired eyes. I'm going to watch it tonight though and I agree wholeheartedly with the OP.

The world won't end if kids and adults are tired today because they shared a positive experience overnight. We really don't share enough positive experiences as a nation right now. I am NOT a football fan, I hate the culture around it - but I hope everyone that stayed awake and saw it unfold is buzzing today, and I hope the dopamine fills your heart for as long as possible, before everything is FUCKING MISERABLE again.

Sereine · 06/07/2026 10:31

Netcurtainnelly · 06/07/2026 10:24

How people can say sports boring is beyond me.. I think people are odd who say this. It's unscripted.That game last night had everything. You couldn't tell which way it was going to go.
Perhaps some more people will get into it now.
If they don't never mind, but to say boring. Wow.

Because it's artificial. People are coming together to play a competitive game which has its own rules which not everyone else necessarily understands, and not everyone actually cares who wins..

Do you watch every sports match or other competitive activity that comes your way? You could make very similar comments about local matches, tennis, netball, water polo, bowls, curling, chess, you name it. Would you be equally fascinated by all of those?

Netcurtainnelly · 06/07/2026 10:24

How people can say sports boring is beyond me.. I think people are odd who say this. It's unscripted.That game last night had everything. You couldn't tell which way it was going to go.
Perhaps some more people will get into it now.
If they don't never mind, but to say boring. Wow.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 10:24

Angela Rayner on LBC just now made a comment that "we may all be nursing sore eyes or sore heads after last night..."

No, all of us aren't. Not even the majority of us are. I think that's what gets up a lot of people's noses - the assumption that everyone either is, or should be, glued to the football over any other sport or activity.

If you enjoy it, good for you. Crack on. But allow those of us to moan when our jobs don't allow us to finish early (I know some that did on Wednesday) or our jobs/schools don't change start times for the other sports or other events we prefer. Because football.

LuckyHazelFox · 06/07/2026 10:20

ThreadGuardDog · 06/07/2026 10:19

They haven’t won anything. This was the last 16. Let’s have a little perspective.

Oh dear. Like I say, negative and clearly no idea about the game.

ThreadGuardDog · 06/07/2026 10:19

LuckyHazelFox · 06/07/2026 10:14

I hope the teachers being negative don't pass that awful attitude onto the pupils. Last night's display from England was one of the most spectacular things to witness for our country. I'm sick of England being shit on just for being England. We played with skill and tenacity; played as a team and came together. We weren't expected to win but we bloody well did. The bulldog spirit was back. If you're English, whether you like football or not, you should be proud but as usual, all the negatives will be highlighted.

They haven’t won anything. This was the last 16. Let’s have a little perspective.

billycat321 · 06/07/2026 10:18

My daughter is now in her 50s but I still remember being left alone at a crucial stage in her birth as the nurses all disappeared to watch Red rum win the grand national, so it's not just football!

ThreadGuardDog · 06/07/2026 10:17

TheCurious0range · 06/07/2026 09:05

My son's school closed when it was 25 and breezy

I imagine it would have been a little more than 25 and breezy in classrooms surrounded by plate glass and with no aircon.

RubyPowderPuff · 06/07/2026 10:16

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 06/07/2026 10:07

If you said that to me I'd be making an official complaint.

I was responding to OP, right on page one where thy stated it's no big deal, the world can turn a bit slower and work doesn't need to be done on time....
It's just sarcasm.

FIFAS · 06/07/2026 10:14

DH and DS have seen football games. They don't go and act violent over it.

SleepingStandingUp · 06/07/2026 10:14

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 10:02

It's also true that more people get off their arses to go and watch a live theatre performance in this country than get off their arses to go and watch a live football match.

Because one is more freely available on telly perhaps? And is local? I'd pay for theatre at cinema over live theatre jsit cos of cost and travel even tho I love theatre. If I had a good telly and I could stream it directly to my house, I would

LuckyHazelFox · 06/07/2026 10:14

I hope the teachers being negative don't pass that awful attitude onto the pupils. Last night's display from England was one of the most spectacular things to witness for our country. I'm sick of England being shit on just for being England. We played with skill and tenacity; played as a team and came together. We weren't expected to win but we bloody well did. The bulldog spirit was back. If you're English, whether you like football or not, you should be proud but as usual, all the negatives will be highlighted.

ThreadGuardDog · 06/07/2026 10:13

Gloriia · 06/07/2026 08:46

Violent men are the problem, not football.

Dv goes up at Christmas, during summer holidays, when there's a heatwave etc etc. They don't need a reason or a trigger.

Yes obviously carry on checking in with service users but maybe work with other organisations on the source which is violent men, rather than emails when there's a footie match.

Denial is a river in Egypt.

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 06/07/2026 10:12

Sereine · 06/07/2026 10:08

I think @RubyPowderPuff was being sarcastic.

Ok

Sereine · 06/07/2026 10:08

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 06/07/2026 10:07

If you said that to me I'd be making an official complaint.

I think @RubyPowderPuff was being sarcastic.

SleepingStandingUp · 06/07/2026 10:08

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 06/07/2026 10:07

If you said that to me I'd be making an official complaint.

Well, yes, I think that was her point given she was being sarcastic

SleepingStandingUp · 06/07/2026 10:07

nowillpowernoproblem · 06/07/2026 06:38

Oh no! One day of a little less watching films at the end of term! However will they cope! Genuinely I don’t know whats gone wrong in this country lately

My kids are still having regular lessons.

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 06/07/2026 10:07

RubyPowderPuff · 06/07/2026 06:31

I work in healthcare. I just tell the patient to hold on a bit longer as my colleagues enjoyed the football last night and called in sick. I will also tell them that their the world won't crash and burn if less gets done.

If you said that to me I'd be making an official complaint.

Americasfavouritefightingfrenchman · 06/07/2026 10:06

nowillpowernoproblem · 06/07/2026 06:43

It’s the end of term. They’re not doing anything, I know that from my niece who has spent the last week doing absolutely naff all.

I don’t have kids, but this is what I mean. It’s not irresponsible to let your kids watch the football, they won’t die from one day of less sleep and the school won’t burn down!

So while I agree that it’s ok for kids to take the day off occasionally for a special occasion it’s also untrue they are doing nothing this week.

Accounts from kids about what they are up to (particularly while arguing a day off will be fine) are not necessarily reliable

Sereine · 06/07/2026 10:03

Ponoka7 · 06/07/2026 09:39

@Sereine
My grandchildren don't go to an under achieving primary. On the post were an OP was contemplating taking her children out of private education, she listed what their school did. My grandchildren's school, only fell short on trips out. Yet they aren't doing much this month. Year 6 have done the transition week, taken home their crap, had the dragon's den/speak out, school fair, so nothing is left. I think litter picking and semi forest school is on the cards. This morning the school is showing the match, but tbf, we are top of the county/country under 12 football teams.
If anyone wants to see a violent game, watch yesterday's rugby, St Helens vs Wigan. It was a case of trying to kill each other, whilst throwing a ball about.

Why on earth is this addressed to me? I had nothing to do with the thread you were responding to. It was @Pushmepullu who asked ir your grandchildren's school was underachieving.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 10:02

snowmichael · 06/07/2026 09:51

> Why should those who couldn't care less about football...
Who are, after all, the vast majority
Ipsos Mori conducted a large (12,000-ish people) poll
Slightly under 85% said they would be watching none, or very little, of the world cup
This is almost identical to the same poll conducted four years ago, slightly higher than for the same question about the olympics
Yet the whole country is supposed to rearrange things for the minority who do watch it

It's also true that more people get off their arses to go and watch a live theatre performance in this country than get off their arses to go and watch a live football match.