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To say the anti-football lot need to calm down a little?

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nowillpowernoproblem · 06/07/2026 06:20

I didn’t stay up for the match because there was no way to make it work with my job, but if I could’ve I would’ve.

I can’t understand the actual visceral anger on here about it? It’s one night - kids won’t drop dead at school, workplaces won’t fail, but a lot of people will have just had a brilliant night.

I just don’t understand why some people can’t accept that others enjoy other things and it doesn’t need to be a big deal?

OP posts:
hay5689 · 06/07/2026 13:22

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 13:17

And actually you were wrong here. The 2015 report showed more people saw a show at the theatre in the UK last year than watched a live football match in the English Premier League, English Football League and Scottish Premiership combined, not just one.

Edited

I’m not surprised at that given a football season only lasts nine months of the year and they don’t play six days a week.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 13:17

SkirlingGirl · 06/07/2026 12:33

The data (which is more than a decade old) showed that more people went to the theatre than watched one division (the premiership) of football in a year.

That ignores the fact there are actually 4 professional divisions in England, several semi pro divisions, countless amateur teams, a number of very well supported cup competitions and international matches. Oh and the fact that most football teams play once a week for part of the year and theatres are open every day, often twice a day, all year round.

And actually you were wrong here. The 2015 report showed more people saw a show at the theatre in the UK last year than watched a live football match in the English Premier League, English Football League and Scottish Premiership combined, not just one.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 13:13

In 2025, over 37 million visited professional theatres in the UK. That's excluding all amateur venues and theatre performances in arts centres.

Context: all sports combined in the UK attracted 79.4 million.

Let's not forget that there are lots of season ticket holders that go to every or most matches, which actually brings the number of individuals down. Yes, some people go to the theatre a few times a year but there are no season tickets; West Ham has 40,000 season ticket holders alone.

SkirlingGirl · 06/07/2026 13:05

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 12:43

Ten years old? You need to Google better.

In 2024 17.1 million went to watch a show in the West End of London while 15.6 million went to a Premier League football match around the country.

Yes, you're right, there are the lower leagues, but by the same token there are regional theatres too, those countless amateur theatres and groups in village halls.

Those West End figures cover just 40 venues. Yes, 6-8 performances a week but the smallest PL stadium seats 11300 people. Many West End theatres won't get that number of people through the doors in a week and when you compare the big stadiums, there's no comparison. They fill several times more on one Saturday than the largest WE venue can in a week.

Edited

Somehow I don't think regional theatres will quite make up the difference Grin bearing in mind the annual figures, just by adding in the EFL attendances takes you well over 30 million people a year.

Do you still think more people go to the theatre than watch football (which is what you said)?

RaininSummer · 06/07/2026 13:01

I loathe football but my colleagues are here today and my customers are turning up so all is well. I would be ranting a bit if colleagues had called in sick and caused work issues but lucky they are all responsible albeit very tired.

KettleHead87 · 06/07/2026 12:47

bittertwisted · 06/07/2026 11:09

First post nails it, perfect opportunity to virtue signal how middle class and superior they are
yesterday also gave the gift of lording it over inferior chav parents who cannot parent because they let their children stay up and watch the game

What a ridiculous and unfounded statement 😂. Have you seen the prices of tickets for football these days? The prices of the kits? If you think football is a working class sport then you clearly don’t follow it. The stadium seats are not filled with the working class. What a reach!

I really hope we win, I like the vibe even if I don’t care for the sport personally, but the attitude of the OP and some others on this thread are fucking terrible and not very ‘fun’ or ‘unifying’ at all.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 12:43

SkirlingGirl · 06/07/2026 12:33

The data (which is more than a decade old) showed that more people went to the theatre than watched one division (the premiership) of football in a year.

That ignores the fact there are actually 4 professional divisions in England, several semi pro divisions, countless amateur teams, a number of very well supported cup competitions and international matches. Oh and the fact that most football teams play once a week for part of the year and theatres are open every day, often twice a day, all year round.

Ten years old? You need to Google better.

In 2024 17.1 million went to watch a show in the West End of London while 15.6 million went to a Premier League football match around the country.

Yes, you're right, there are the lower leagues, but by the same token there are regional theatres too, those countless amateur theatres and groups in village halls.

Those West End figures cover just 40 venues. Yes, 6-8 performances a week but the smallest PL stadium seats 11300 people. Many West End theatres won't get that number of people through the doors in a week and when you compare the big stadiums, there's no comparison. They fill several times more on one Saturday than the largest WE venue can in a week.

SkirlingGirl · 06/07/2026 12:40

OooPourUsACupLove · 06/07/2026 11:39

As for the DV connection, I agree that when violent men watch football and likely consume far too much alcohol, then DV increases. The root cause is still violent men, very sadly (I'm a DV survivor myself) these men get even angrier at football and DV increases. I don't know what the solution is, unless men stopping hitting women.

100% agree that the fundamental problem with DV is the men who do it, and also with the good things clubs do in the community.

The downside of football specifically is that it has become in our culture a sort of Saturnalia where rules don't apply any more and all the normal controls and brakes on male behaviour especially come off.

Emotions are wilder, drinking is harder, bad behaviour is acceptable, because hey, it's football and passions run high.

Where did I say it's acceptable? Particularly in relation to the DV part of my post you chose to pick out?

SkirlingGirl · 06/07/2026 12:33

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 10:02

It's also true that more people get off their arses to go and watch a live theatre performance in this country than get off their arses to go and watch a live football match.

The data (which is more than a decade old) showed that more people went to the theatre than watched one division (the premiership) of football in a year.

That ignores the fact there are actually 4 professional divisions in England, several semi pro divisions, countless amateur teams, a number of very well supported cup competitions and international matches. Oh and the fact that most football teams play once a week for part of the year and theatres are open every day, often twice a day, all year round.

Swiftie1878 · 06/07/2026 12:21

Sirzy · 06/07/2026 06:39

Spoken by someone who knows nothing about schools!

A lot of primary schools will indeed be focusing on play and treats like movies today, to compensate for the fatigue of both the kids and the staff. Especially as it’s a hot one in most places!

KatiePricesKnickers · 06/07/2026 12:17

Frequency · 06/07/2026 12:10

And if that poster is a care worker/nurse/surgeon/truck driver who accidentally kills someone's loved one because they're too tired to concentrate at work, I suppose that's OK because it was England and it's important?

Get a grip. The pearl clutching on this thread is reaching ridiculous heights.

KatiePricesKnickers · 06/07/2026 12:16

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 11:21

Ashes cricket when the matches are in Australia. Rugby World Cup when matches are in the summer hemisphere. Ryder Cup.

There's loads of sporting events that are 'national' in the same way. But we don't do it for any of those.

That’s because they are not as popular as football.

LuckyHazelFox · 06/07/2026 12:13

Perimenopausal women up and down the country are driving quite capably surviving on hardly any sleep. The drama 😆 🤣

Frequency · 06/07/2026 12:10

LuckyHazelFox · 06/07/2026 12:08

Cracking up at the poster expecting London to stay silent during an important match. You choose where you live, so you have to take the rough with the smooth.

And if that poster is a care worker/nurse/surgeon/truck driver who accidentally kills someone's loved one because they're too tired to concentrate at work, I suppose that's OK because it was England and it's important?

LuckyHazelFox · 06/07/2026 12:08

Cracking up at the poster expecting London to stay silent during an important match. You choose where you live, so you have to take the rough with the smooth.

Frequency · 06/07/2026 11:57

JasperHale · 06/07/2026 11:44

Well, I live opposite one of the most (if not the most) flagged buildings in London. There was massive screen outside, and shouting and screaming ended at 4am. My alarm rings at 5:30. I wish I also had a choice of NOT knowing what the score was, and generally not knowing about football. I didn't choose to stay up until 4, yet still feel like a zombie thanks to someone else's "consideration ".

Exactly this.

I'm quite into gaming, but I don't think anyone would find it acceptable if I stayed up for a 1 am drop and then screeched my way through the first playthrough and ended the playthrough by loudly singing the theme tune to the game whilst managing not to hit a single note.

JasperHale · 06/07/2026 11:44

Well, I live opposite one of the most (if not the most) flagged buildings in London. There was massive screen outside, and shouting and screaming ended at 4am. My alarm rings at 5:30. I wish I also had a choice of NOT knowing what the score was, and generally not knowing about football. I didn't choose to stay up until 4, yet still feel like a zombie thanks to someone else's "consideration ".

OooPourUsACupLove · 06/07/2026 11:39

SkirlingGirl · 06/07/2026 11:26

You know as well as I do that many of the posts on here are based in snobbery. The mention of professions, tennis, rugby etc.

As for the DV connection, I agree that when violent men watch football and likely consume far too much alcohol, then DV increases. The root cause is still violent men, very sadly (I'm a DV survivor myself) these men get even angrier at football and DV increases. I don't know what the solution is, unless men stopping hitting women.

What doesn't get talked about is all the incredible work football community organisations do. Some examples of what my - small - EFL club does through programmes and events:

Supports young adults who aren't in work

Gets south Asian women and girls into sport

Delivers an intervention programme for primary children with emotional and social issues or at risk of exclusion

Supports women to improve their mental health

Get school children of all ages active by delivering sessions at schools

Runs schemes for excluded children

Gets children age 9 - 10 moving and learning.

Holding rehabilitation courses for people diagnosed with cancer

Running holiday clubs

This kind of stuff happens every day at every football club in the country, but it never gets mentioned on here.

As for the DV connection, I agree that when violent men watch football and likely consume far too much alcohol, then DV increases. The root cause is still violent men, very sadly (I'm a DV survivor myself) these men get even angrier at football and DV increases. I don't know what the solution is, unless men stopping hitting women.

100% agree that the fundamental problem with DV is the men who do it, and also with the good things clubs do in the community.

The downside of football specifically is that it has become in our culture a sort of Saturnalia where rules don't apply any more and all the normal controls and brakes on male behaviour especially come off.

Emotions are wilder, drinking is harder, bad behaviour is acceptable, because hey, it's football and passions run high.

NormasArse · 06/07/2026 11:36

Thepeopleversuswork · 06/07/2026 06:32

I’m not anti football (in fact I like watching football). But I do resent the amount of time, attention and conversation which you are expected to expend upon it.

Its hard for a football lover to understand how all encompassing it can be during a tournament if you either don’t like it or just don’t care all that much. It can become very draining and quite alienating when its all other people want to talk about and you just want to get away and talk about something else for a bit.

Also I find the tribalism around club football ugly and childish. Grown men fighting/arguing over it is contemptible.

I think some of us just wish sometimes there was a way to get away from it for a bit.

I haven’t watched any of it- it’s not difficult to ignore.

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 06/07/2026 11:35

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 11:21

Ashes cricket when the matches are in Australia. Rugby World Cup when matches are in the summer hemisphere. Ryder Cup.

There's loads of sporting events that are 'national' in the same way. But we don't do it for any of those.

Olympics when that’s in an inconvenient time zone as well.

I’m indifferent to football, will probably watch the final if England get that far but that’s about it. It does annoy me that the country seems to stop for very minor matches and that there is an assumption that everyone should be interested just because some people are.

TheEyesOfLucyJordon · 06/07/2026 11:32

toolioo · 06/07/2026 06:28

I watched it, just got in and am now going to start work. Just don't give it head space and enjoy the game/life without the unnecessary noise. That's what I have learnt to do. If I watched this world cup with twitter on in the background, for example, it would be under a cloud of immense hatred for England, of racism and of abusive language towards anyone possible, however I don't. I go to the pub, have a brilliant laugh, and ignore the rest. Mostly life is good this way.

Fantastic post. We should all be a little more toolioo 😍

JudgeJ · 06/07/2026 11:30

SadiraOfTyr · 06/07/2026 08:52

No it’s not. Most girls couldn’t care less and a very large number of boys also have zero interest in it.

Your sample 'most girls' and 'a very large number of boys' is not borne out by the ones going to the local High School and Primary School this morning, they generally looked beyond excited and pleased with the result, if they had watched the match live I am jealous of their stamina!

Thepeopleversuswork · 06/07/2026 11:27

LuckyHazelFox · 06/07/2026 11:14

In one sentence, you've just undone all your hard work in trying to rationalise your loathing for England football.

That poster I quoted has positioned everyone who doesn't want to watch football 24/7 as 'middle class' and 'virtue signalling'.

The prejudice is isn't with me.

SkirlingGirl · 06/07/2026 11:26

ThreadGuardDog · 06/07/2026 09:24

That still doesn’t mean that everyone likes it, or that they are ‘snobs’ for not doing so. Football is associated with violence on the terraces and bad behaviour on match days (l live close to a stadium and experience it first hand) it’s also the source of much domestic violence when the result goes the wrong way.

So in many ways it’s the opposite of what ‘sport’ should be, so l’m thankful we don’t have a national sport because football is far from the ideal model for that.

You know as well as I do that many of the posts on here are based in snobbery. The mention of professions, tennis, rugby etc.

As for the DV connection, I agree that when violent men watch football and likely consume far too much alcohol, then DV increases. The root cause is still violent men, very sadly (I'm a DV survivor myself) these men get even angrier at football and DV increases. I don't know what the solution is, unless men stopping hitting women.

What doesn't get talked about is all the incredible work football community organisations do. Some examples of what my - small - EFL club does through programmes and events:

Supports young adults who aren't in work

Gets south Asian women and girls into sport

Delivers an intervention programme for primary children with emotional and social issues or at risk of exclusion

Supports women to improve their mental health

Get school children of all ages active by delivering sessions at schools

Runs schemes for excluded children

Gets children age 9 - 10 moving and learning.

Holding rehabilitation courses for people diagnosed with cancer

Running holiday clubs

This kind of stuff happens every day at every football club in the country, but it never gets mentioned on here.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 06/07/2026 11:25

bittertwisted · 06/07/2026 11:09

First post nails it, perfect opportunity to virtue signal how middle class and superior they are
yesterday also gave the gift of lording it over inferior chav parents who cannot parent because they let their children stay up and watch the game

My dad was a builder, my mum was a cleaner, we never had foreign holidays (didn't have a UK one until I was 13). Our house was rented. We're as working class as you can get and my dad had no interest in football either, nor did four of his other five brothers.

It doesn't have to be about class at all.