AIBU to take a sick day when I feel overwhelmed?

OP HAS a legitimate issue, although it’s unlikely management will see it that way. They’re likely to bang on about “everyone has problems. Get over it. Stop being such a baby.” And such like. What a charmed life you must lead to never get sick, exhausted, or overwhelmed. It’s ONE DAY. I sincerely hope that you are no one’s employer.

And the reason, which is proved over and over again in this thread, is that far too many people bullshit and take the piss. Every time someone throws a sickie or bullshits, it makes employers more cynical. As I said, this thread proves them right and sadly means those that have legitimate issues don't get the support they need.

Yeah, good luck with that. Management is famous for having empathy about your personal life.

The vast majority of workplaces would replace any worker tomorrow if they dropped dead today with barely a second thought. Take a couple of days to rest (a D&V bug tends not to invite much further questioning), then start looking for a new job if you can and consider seeing your GP and getting signed off for longer if needed, before the stress makes you ill 💐

But those doubts about her ability to do her job would surely be correct if she is so overwhelmed by it she needs to take time off? Sometimes honesty is the best policy.

Depending on her workplace, admitting to being depressed and overwhelmed might taint how she’s viewed by management and colleagues. Might cast doubt about her ability to handle tasks.

Food poisoning, maybe something spoiled in the heat. Prawn salad? You hate to miss work, but you’re vomiting and, erm, other things. It’s not contagious, so you can show up fine the next day.

But she is concerned about the stigma from an unsympathetic boss if she is honest about MH issues.

People tell small lies all the time. Giving one reason for needing a day to decompress and heal instead of another, which might lead to judgement, is hardly a lie that impacts the company. The day of sickness would be taken, whatever its cause.

What matters is that she gets well enough to return to work as fast a spossible, and a duvet day could be exactly what she needs. Just because our society, or her company doesn;t understand this doesn't mean it is irresponsible. It could be far more responsible than ploughing on and ending up on long term sick with a breakdown or the stress causing a physical illness that severely impacts her.

I’m quite shocked by the lie suggestions too when it’s clear OP has an actual reason she could be signed off for!

I’d tell them the truth , just say you’ve got a lot going on outside work and need a day or two off - can you just book annual leave ? I know when you don’t get paid it’s tempting to keep ploughing on but your rate should have provision for holiday pay.

MN advocates lying all the time. It is shocking.

Please don’t do this. We have a colleague who gets her partner to phone in for her. It’s ridiculous.

Go to the GP. Burst into tears in front of them. Tell them all about the separation from your DH, how horrible he is, how awful you feel, how you are massively struggling with the DC, plus anything else that is making you overwhelmed or anxious.
Ask the GP for a sick note for a couple of weeks off, as you are just too overwhelmed and anxious about life and everything, and can't cope with work.
Keep up the tears throughout. You will get the sick note, which will give you the proper break you need to actually get your mental health back on track.

Don't underestimate the real and genuine distress and anxiety that a marriage break up is causing you. No one will thank you for 'soldiering on', so just don't.

I'd say migraine. But today might be a bad idea, they'd assume you were up watching the football

I used to pull a lot of sickies and I always said either stomach flu (you must take 2+ days), if you want one day “up all night throwing up” gives you clear to go in the next day (just make sure you look a bit shit). A weird one I used to do is I would hold my nose and say I can’t come in my nose won’t stop bleeding 😭. Probs best to do the first one, one time I tried the second and my manager told me “put a fucking tampon up your nose Cat and get to work!”

I really hope you’re okay though, you can pull through this. We all have rough patches, and the heat will just be making it worse. Sending hugs.

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I’m quite shocked at how many if you are coming up with ideas for lying!

Why don’t you just take AL?

Dentist?

I wouldn’t use migraine as the reason. Unless you are a migraine sufferer it will just sound like wishy-washy bs.

I can use migraine as the reason because I actually get migraines - and have had them at the office, in full vomiting glory.

Upset tummy is best reason - just say “it’s only the bottom end at the moment but I feel very queasy there’s no way I could travel to work as I need to stay near the loo.”

I would go to the drs and tell them how you’re feeling. They’d likely sign you off sick.

Sounds like you need more than one day.

'Up all last night with diarrhoea and vomiting' would mean you can be OK by the following morning. But it sounds as if you need a bigger solution to finding life so stressful and exhausting.

Absolutely take that day to rest! I agree with others though, will one day be enough?

If you're a contractor and only paid for the hours you work, surely you can take a day off & not give a reason ?

I get it @Cerc you just need a bit of breathing space without your DH and kids around. I’d agree that a migraine would be the best bet for a one day illness. Make sure you use the time to be kind to yourself and make any plans you need to make about your current situation.

Going forward, it sounds like a crap place to work, and I appreciate you’ve got a lot on your plate, but it would surely be better to find work somewhere else.

Please ignore those that have posted without any empathy. The fact is, you’re not ok, and if I was your colleague and knew you were going through a tough time, I’d have no problem covering for you. All the best