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Original poster

AIBU after being reported for apparently targeting a member of staff

504 replies

Vintageshirtsearch · 05/07/2026 21:25

OK no one is going to believe this to be true but I need to share it. I was spoken to today by my line manager as I've been reported in our 'call it out' policy. I made a member of staff feel targeted and picked on.
I bet you won't be able to guess what I did that made them feel so bad.
It's so crackers I actually thought my manager was joking.
Anyone want to guess?

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SardinesOnButteredToast · 05/07/2026 21:40

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 05/07/2026 21:31

Just. Tell. Us. We're not four year olds in a guessing game.

You sent an email in Gen Z speak, Capitalising. Each. Word. And. Using. Copious. Full. Stops in a tedious manner?

Original poster
Vintageshirtsearch · 05/07/2026 21:39

When I said I laughed it was not in a mocking way or derogatory at all, it was more an incredulous one

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Secretsquirrelshh · 05/07/2026 21:38

Ate a cake in front of them while they were trying to lose weight?

Owly11 · 05/07/2026 21:38

I like your dress/shirt/whatever

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 05/07/2026 21:38

Asked them what they were doing for lunch? #triggering..

Original poster
Vintageshirtsearch · 05/07/2026 21:37

During a coffee break, another staff member said they thought Taylor Swifts wedding was over the top and a bit ridiculous. I said "yeah I agree" the complainer said it was to keep it private and I laughed and said "in madison square garden" the other staff member said he didn't get the hype over taylor swift and I said I didn't either. End of conversation.
Apparently this deeplynupset the complainer as they love taylor swift and they felt mocked.

OP posts:
Owly11 · 05/07/2026 21:37

Are you doing anything nice on your holidays?

HellsBells13 · 05/07/2026 21:37

Oh come on, please don't keep us in suspenders!

Obeseandashamed · 05/07/2026 21:37

Forgot to say please?

MinnieCoops · 05/07/2026 21:37

Irritated them by playing a dull game?

ChrisInghamStoleMyBeanie · 05/07/2026 21:36

either tell us or get in the bin x

MotherofPufflings · 05/07/2026 21:36

Did you use a full stop in a message?

worldshottestmom · 05/07/2026 21:34

What is it?

GetOnWithLife · 05/07/2026 21:34

Used caps in an email?

Gazelda · 05/07/2026 21:33

Did you ask them to guess what task you’d like them to do next?

5128gap · 05/07/2026 21:32

You asked them a mild personal question as small talk?
You asked them in a meeting what they thought about something?

waltzingparrot · 05/07/2026 21:32

Did you ask them if they'd had a good weekend?

Oldgalgames · 05/07/2026 21:32

Said something like "oh have you had your hair done?"

Owly11 · 05/07/2026 21:31

Said 'good morning how are you?'

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 05/07/2026 21:31

Just. Tell. Us. We're not four year olds in a guessing game.

Darragon · 05/07/2026 21:31

Did you say hi how are you?

GeishaTrumpet · 05/07/2026 21:31

Vintageshirtsearch · 05/07/2026 21:29

No one is right yet.
I don't want to be annoying and drag it out but it's so much less than anything mentioned so far
The complaining person is 30 and I am 50 so both adults.

You looked at them funny?

Original poster
Vintageshirtsearch · 05/07/2026 21:29

No one is right yet.
I don't want to be annoying and drag it out but it's so much less than anything mentioned so far
The complaining person is 30 and I am 50 so both adults.

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ohyesido · 05/07/2026 21:29

You asked them not to spend twenty minutes of every working hour making tea for themselves and twelve coworkers, only for them to complain and tell your boss you told them they’re not allowed to make themselves a cup of tea?

Timeforabiscuit · 05/07/2026 21:28

Talked to them stood up, while they were sat in a chair?