AIBU to feel hurt by DH laughing at my small weight loss?

So you think it’s good for OP to have an unachievable weekly weight loss goal and then feel awful every week when she falls short? Sorry, but I don’t think setting someone up to fail is being supportive.

Perhaps her DH has influenced OP on goal setting as she mentions she updated him all week on her efforts and he seemed happy that she fell short.

A few pp deflecting the thread into discussion and advice about weight loss when the real issue of the thread is OP's marriage and the fact her H is unsupportive of her to the extent she thinks he hates her.

Another for a loss is a loss.
It's a bugger when you don't lose as much as was hoped for
But it isn't a gain..so well done and keep at it

Why do you think he hates you?

Hi @Throwawayquestioning .

Well done for deciding to get healthier and fitter. 👏

Be aware that it can take 2 or 3 weeks before seeing much/any loss.

Weigh yourself weekly at the same time of the day, in the same clothes or naked - first thing in the morning is best, before eating or drinking anything, after your morning pee.

Try to eat good protein with lots of veg and/or salad, no carbs.

Drink lots of water.

Try the 5:2 diet, and eating in eg a 10 hour window.

Consistency is key.

Expect to lose around 1-2lbs/1kg a week.

When I have dieted seriously, I did this eating plan and also walked at least a mile every day. I lost 3 stone in 5 months.

Your DH doesn't sound very supportive, which is a shame. Maybe he is feeling bad because he's not trying to lose weight too - does he need to?
Ignore his unsupportive attitude. The most successful dieters are doing it for themselves, not for anyone else.

Good luck!

Dont share it with him anymore. Keep going for you. You dont need his reassurance.

I once lost 20 stone overnight...
Didn't miss him at all.

Did you intend for this to read so mean and unsupportive?

im sorry your husband is so unsupportive OP. I would keep up your good work anyway and results will follow.

Of course YANBU, how hard is it to recognise that someone has worked hard and to congratulate them on their achievement?

I genuinely don't know why he wouldn't be pleased for you, unless he's a total twat or he really does resent or dislike you in some weird way.

Well done for making a start.
If you are swapping out unhealthy fatty carbs for salad fruit and veg then that’s a huge achievement and even if the weight isn’t dropping now then it will do so and you will feel so
much better. It may also help reduce your appetite and blood sugar swings in the longer term.
Is he supportive in other ways or is it just your weight loss that he’s a dick?

I don't really think this is about weight loss, is it? If you're both feeling resentful about looking after the kids (one gets more sleep than the other etc etc) then it will manifest in digs like this.

I guess it depends on what the small loss was. If it was just a few 100g and you are saying you're pleased it's heading in the right direction etc I probably would've laughed a bit as well - that's a glass of water. Weight can change dramatically (by several pounds) just from doing a weights session (you put water weight on). I guess it depends what he said next - if he reassured you and said it's early days etc then that's very different from chuckling and then walking off or mocking you. But to be fair, a blow by blow account of your diet each day is pretty tedious for anyone to listen to.

He's a prick and has contempt for you.
You feel it and you see it.
Why are you questioning yourself?

“Not to worry DH, I am used to small, being married to you”……

You won’t lose much in a week anyway. It’s more normal to lose 1-2 pounds. Just ignore him

You misunderstand. You can’t register any loss in only one week if you’re doing it healthily. You only know that you are losing weight if the scale drops 4lbs+. Generally, as a pp mentioned, it takes 3-4 weeks to see any effect of any weight loss efforts.

OP, is this a one- off or is he like this about other stuff.

When I did a calorie deficit diet I weighed myself everyday. It definitely varied due to my cycle, in the phase between ovulation and my period I would rarely lose anything, then would have a significant drop around day 2/3. Be proud and keep going. It’s not just about the numbers, it’s about how you feel and your health on the inside.

Being honest isn’t knocking down a person. I’m sorry I don’t believe in lying.

4lbs loss in one week? Is that even possible 😅🤣. Definitely not possible safely.

I always find it helpful to think in terms of packets of butter. If you lost 1lb that’s 2 packs- that is quite a lot of fat that is now not clinging round your heart or sitting on your hips.

I just wouldn’t tell him in future.

2lb is quite a lot to lose in one week.

He sounds unsupportive but I don't think a loss is a loss. Not for me. If other people do that's fine for them.

And have scoffed at myself and been frustrated trying my hardest and seeing a 1lb or less. I could weigh myself 12 hrs later and be a few lbs heavier or weigh myself the next day after a poo and be fractionally lighter than the day before.

The issue you have isn't about your weight however, it's about you thinking your DP secretly hates you.

Well done for knocking the OP down when she is already feeling hurt.

For me this would depend on what you mean by a small loss.

My sil once text me to celebrate a tiny loss and I thought she was joking to be honest