Would this put you off your partner?

Well... This is doing the rounds as a meme at the moment. 👏🏽 So either you've nicked it from that or he has!

Yes

This is stolen from X (twitter) doubt it happened

Yeah it’s gross. You don’t say that to a new partner.

I have noticed that sometimes/often/really often when men talk about sex they use language which is as coarse and crude as they can get it. For example - do women really want to be asked for 'a tit wank'? Or 'a gobble'? Answers on a postcard, please.

Yes, if my partner sounded like Jay from the Inbetweeners, he’d be dumped.

He’s in his 30s? Don’t waste your life on this bloke.

I don't know, I think my view is perhaps a little warped, but whilst indicating that the kebab is the better choice, he's kind of comparing these two experiences and is still willing to eat the kebab. I would never trust his opinion of food ever again.

I think his behavior was crass in choosing to talk to you that way. He's probably wanting to know if all that, his behaviours and eating preferences, are acceptable to you.

Well that's a big macho comment isn't it.

Strikes me as if its a bit of one upmanship... implies that he is such a sexual god that he has random women he's just met clamouring for him to.... well I can't even be bothered to repeat his crass description. but ICK

He's also implying that you know nothing about food, when you talk about the potentially unsavoury and unknown ingredients in a kebab, because he's been exposed to worse germs, is what he means I guess.... but its also saying that your "fears" are a bit stupid.

So he's school you, put your opinions down as ignorant and used this as an excuse to let you know that he's fancied by any woman he meets on a night out and is a total catch..

He's a catch. You heard it from the Horses Mouth.. although he was actually talking through his Horse's A**e

I've always thought that if you do that sort of thing, it would be with someone you know pretty well, for hygiene reasons if nothing else. But now you know that when drunk, he used to launch himself at various strange women's bumholes and feast thereupon. I'm going to guess that safer sex was not in his repertoire - can't imagine that after that he'd subsequently use a condom for intercourse. Please get tested. Please. And yes, his turn of phrase leaves everything to be desired.

Was he very drunk when he said that?

I don’t think I’d be impressed with a man who admitted to having such low standards that he tongued the arseholes of strangers in the same casual way you might order a ropey kebab. When men say things such as ‘I’ve banged worse’ etc, are women really meant to be impressed? Of course YANBU! Some of us want slightly classier men!

That would be a relationship-killer for me. Disgusting image that I don't need. Information I don't want. And worst of all, a sign that his personality and mine would not mesh well. That would be our last night out together.

🖕She’s right I’m afraid. Just grossly unnecessary

"Eat the arses"??? What does that mean exactly? Rimming? <bleurghhh)

So it’s the wording he used that upsets you?

In which case, surely you’d just ask him to not use that phrase again.

Or OP may not like hearing about any of his past sexual experiences, again you just tell him and move on.

It's extremely crass and major turn off - very disrespectful.

I know that comment would be in my head every time he attempted oral sex and I'd start thinkinv of STIs - it's an orgasm killer.

What makes you think their bar is low?
Not everyone is clutching their pearls at sexual humour. It's not about having a bar, it's about different values and personalities.

Does he eat a lot of crisps? The commoners’ kind?

Yes, it would put me off him. Cringy.

Grim!

Your bar is set very low! It's not the fact he has a past it's the fact he decided to share this in such a crass manner.

Dear Lord, that is not a mouth I would ever want near me again.
OP, he's a low class oik.
You have just had a peep at the real him.

This is not about having a past.
This is a man telling you that he is a vulgar, crass, uncouth lout.

At least it makes a nice change from the posts about boyfriends who only eat crisps, McDonalds, frozen gyoza and takeaways.

Vile thing to say. Would he like it if you said “I sucked the cock of loads of strange men” when debating the merits of a sausage roll? Is he always such a tool?