AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

He's not going to miss out on his Uni place because he stayed up late on a school night once, But if he did, he would remember with gratitude that you let him do it, and he will remember not just the match, but being part of the 'I'm so tired, I only got 2 hours sleep' cohort tomorrow.

BUt

You are not going to let him stay up
You are not listening to the majority on the thread
You are not prepared to be 'in the wrong'

Why bother posting?

You haven't bet on Haaland to score for Norway / Kane to score for England at 9 / 2. I have and I am half way there.

I agree that the first half was pretty dull

Really? I think it’s been boring, especially the first 70 mins or so

Meanwhile, you have all missed an absolutely stunning game of football. Norway V Brazil.

Lol I do know someone who still never really got over their parents not letting them go to a Billericay Town FC final in 1976 ( think it was) as he had school the next day and he was 15 at the time. Was the only one out of his group of friends to miss it and even better his dad worked for the club

Yep this is my SEN child too. Children are complicated little beings - they aren’t just one personality type.

Apart from the score filtering through to him via mates

Interestingly we told our year 9 and year 10 sons that they could stay up to watch it, on the condition they had to get up for school the next day, and in the end they have both decided not to bother.

I think sometimes saying yes gives them to space to decide whether they really want to. Whereas saying no makes it more desirable.

Why is a teen sleeping 10 hours so alarming to people? 8-10 hours is the norm for adolescents!

I have a Y9 dd and if she wanted to watch the match, I'd let her. She's old enough to understand the consequences (feeling very tired the next day) and would go to school and battle through it grumpily, I believe (based on how she is with lack of sleep).

I'm not watching any of the matches and don't particularly like football, but I understand it's a big deal to a lot of people and watching it live would be a special memory - and shared with many others.

As a 14yo, if I'd wanted to do this, I'd have probably just gone ahead and do it it without waking my parents!

I’d let him stay up and go in at lunch/have the day off.

We’re Scottish and my 9 year old had the day off after one of our games… however that might be once in a lifetime for us 🤣

All of these kids staying awake/waking up at 1am for a football match (not even the final) is a bit bonkers to me, but I guess I'm in the minority.

Yes I realise OP’s boy is14 ! I was referring to a poster I thought was talking about a 9 year old. IMO I’d let thekids watch, if they fall asleep before the winning goal - hard luck!

Maybe I’ll just come back later for the denouement

I know, but at this stage it is the only answer I have the energy left to care about 😂

He is year nine, aged fourteen. Look again.

Year 9 not a 9 year old!

That question has not been answered!

Wasn’t this an early morning game? I remember going in to school early to watch it at school

it was one of the most memorable games as a result

My 14, 13 and 11 year olds have all taken themselves to bed. I'm waking them up at 5am to watch on catch up before school. We only have one tv in the lounge downstairs and I don't want them shouting and waking us up or their younger siblings. They didn't argue at all. They don't have phones in their rooms overnight so its not like they're going to somehow find out the scores by accident.

For everyone who says it's not a big deal to let a child lose sleep and hinder his education.Guess what's not a big deal.
Football.
And anything and everything that has to do with football. Also, your children's education per your opinions.

It's entirely possible to value education while recognizing that social development matters too. This isn't a random weekly match; it’s a major tournament knockout game. Tomorrow, the classroom and the playground will revolve entirely around what happened tonight.Forcing a child to bed means actively choosing to socially isolate them from their peers during a massive shared cultural moment. Belonging and peer bonding are vital parts of growing up. We are talking about one single late night—unless we make the final, this isn't a recurring habit. One tired Monday has zero impact on their long-term education, but the memory of sharing a historic game with family and friends lasts a lifetime.
I say this as a mun whi has no interest in football and had two children who never missed a day from secondary school.

I'd be more concerned about dad being knackered tomorrow, I could cope with all nighters until I got to 30!!

What’s a 9 year old doing with a smartphone, and if he has one, why would he be allowed to have it in his room at that time anyway?

Well if they don't make it in they will have to face the consequences with school - detentions presumably. It's a life lesson!

Good luck forcing a 14 year old boy out of bed after three hours' sleep, particularly when it's for school purposes.