AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

Let him stay up, I doubt he will last anyway.

It doesn’t matter what other parents are doing. You are the parent of your child so you decide what’s best for them.

14?! I thought you were going to say he was 9 or something 😂

At that age I was regularly up til 2/3am on school nights. He’s old enough to make his own choices (and mistakes!) but he’d be being told he was to go to school as expected the next day. As others have said, good learning opportunity here for fulfilling your obligations.

Whichever way works but don't let them call in sick. Sends a very bad message about work ethic.

Totally and utterly unreasonable, its one night. They can be tired tgr next day, sane as all their school mates.

11 hours is a lot. Does he normally go to bed at 7.30pm or catch up over the weekend? I'd say let him watch it and have an early night tomorrow, but if he already goes to bed at 7.30 it can't get much earlier.

Let him watch it but he goes to school as normal the next day and deals with it does he really think “everyone” will get away with pretending they are sick the morning after 😂 he can go to bed at 9pm and set an alarm for 1am.

Yabu. Why can’t he watch it and go to school as usual? He’ll be absolutely fine on one night of shit sleep.

My son is the same age, we’re going to bed early and getting up for the match, then back to bed. It’s his last World Cup as a kid, no way he’s missing this. And none of the remaining matches are at this sort of time, if England get through.

wow, you must run a tight ship 😳this is pretty extreme behaviour control for a 14 year old!

mine finished last week so it’s not an issue for us but we would still be watching but heading into school. They can’t be doing much meaningful work at this point surely?

My 10 year old got up for the Scotland game. Went to bed at 9, got up just before 1 and then went back to bed! He was still up as normal the next day just went to bed earlier in the night

I’d let him stay up on the caveat he goes to school - nap this afternoon to see him through.
My adult DD went to bed at 4am last night after clubbing and got up at 7.30 to go to work.
DH is going to the pub which is round the corner from his office - I said he may as well go straight to work!!

I let my younger ones stay up in Scotland for our 2am game, but we had a day off school. I don’t care much for football but it was such an event! I agree with others at 14 that he should be able to do this and suck up the fatigue, I wouldn’t let him stay off though so just try to sleep around it and let him feel tired, he’ll manage.

It’s the last 16
Its not like it’s the final
While staying up till 3 to see them knocked out won’t kill him he could watch highlights on catch up before school and pretend he saw it live

I would definitely have allowed my children to watch the match if they were still teenagers. It’s these memories that they will remember forever.
Also unless you live away from pubs,streets etc there will be a lot of noise outside!
One shit nights sleep really isn’t a big deal!

Oh for goodness sake he's 14 and it's one football match not 10 lines of cocaine! I'd let him have the option of either stay up and watch it or wake up early and watch it on catchup but he will not be missing school for this. You'll be throwing cold water on him if needed to get him up for school and he needs to suck it up.

I don't belive in calling in sick. He's almost an adult and adults don't have the option.

I’m letting my 14 yo. Wake up just before the game then back to sleep when it finishes. I’m letting him go in at half 10

Is he a football fan? Has he been watching the other matches? If so yes I'd let him.

If he's just jumping on the band wagon for this one game to say he's stayed up most then night then no.

Perfect chance here to teach about choices, resilience etc... its ok to stay up as a one off, but you still have to function the next day....get up as normal and go to school.
Its a cop out to ring in sick, lie in and go in later....if he wants to stay up fine, but he has to manage the next day and get an early night on monday....great life lessons for work.

My kids have learnt this from a young age with their shows and competitions - sometimes a full on weekend, lots of late nights, even on the sunday, but they still go to school on the Monday.....

We also had this last year when we went to the F1, very full on weekend, 50,000 steps over 2 days, late nights camping etc, back late Sunday night, still up for school. Yes we were tired and groggy but we managed and slept great monday night....the memories and buzz drag you through....my youngest was only in reception too....

Yes we can have fun but that doesnt diminish our responsibilities or commitments, I see it as setting them up for life

You say he needs a solid 11 hours of sleep a night, and has to be up at 6.30 for school.

Has he got a7.30 bedtime normally then?

I’d also be letting him, to paraphrase another poster ‘he’s 14 not 4’.

My DCs are all staying up. It’s England in the World Cup.

As a teacher , I am not looking forward to tomorrow, must say.

Tired kids are not a malleable and easy to teach as many might think.

I have year 12 first thing , followed by year 9. Fun times.

Just be warned that, as the game is not being brought forward, if the predicted storms hit the game may finish a LOT later than 3am. If they go off for lightning they have to wait at least half an hour from the last lightning strike before they can come back out.

Let him watch it if he wants to!

We were all awake for a few hours during the night in the huge thunderstorms a couple of weeks ago and all survived. People get up early/miss sleep to get early flights for holiday. It’s one night and he’ll survive.

I’m planning on trying to get a couple of hours sleep before the game, a couple more hours after and then a slightly earlier night on Monday.

World cups are every 4 years.