AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

My girl is Yr 6 and planning on going to bed as normal and then get woken up for the match and back to bed after. She will be going to school as normal as we are both in work tomorrow. She has sports day tomorrow so no brain work required. I figure it's a one off and in 4 years she will be 15 and maybe not interested ever again so why not embrace it now?

This did happen before in 2014 , I think.

My DSs have no memory of whether they stayed up or not. One was 13. And both of them have memories like elephants when it comes to scorelines.

DH says they didn't.

It was a Saturday night.

ETA - DS1 now says there was 'no way' he stayed up.

Let him stay up and miss school. Chances are he won't be able to stay awake anyway. Maybe a sleep earlier on. I think it would be cruel to say no.

But he will remember if his mum wouldn't let him at 14.

I read the first page of replies really shocked at how many were saying let them stay up, until I realised that the OP said “Year 9” and not “9 Year Old” so yes that changes things lol.
I am a teacher with a Year 9 tutor group and we are off timetable tomorrow doing a full day of PHSCE in our tutor group. I am assuming that attendance for this day is going to be very poor indeed.

Personally, I won’t be staying up although I do usually watch every England match. I might be more tempted if I thought we stood a chance of winning. But I don’t want to have to drag myself through a long and challenging school day whilst feeling both depressed AND tired.

He may not remember the game but he'll remember being the only kid who wasn't allowed to stay up and watch it. They will be messaging each other in real time surely? The end of year 9 was when my friends and I started sneaking out after our parents had gone to bed and going clubbing in town and we'd manage to go to school just fine. It was the early 90s so I'm not saying it was a good idea but he's not a baby.

Maybe you just have a bad memory then when it comes to enjoyment? I remember being woken up for the Tyson/Bruno fight. I remember all sorts of things from 92/93 football season of Sheffield United which was more or less a none event but I remember it because I loved going.

Also, the majority of children in the UK won’t be able to fly to Mexico and have tickets will they, what do you suggest to those children? Just suck it up you saddos and get to bed cos you’ll not remember it next week 🙄

Exactly, so no worries about the next match, assuming they get through.

You do know that core memory refers to a memory from a significant event that has shaped a persons identify and world view? Watching Mexico v England on tv just doesn’t make the cut.

Btw, we are talking about football, not soccer. It’s usually someone from the US who calls it soccer, so I highly doubt you will have any significant memories from 1988. It wasn’t a World Cup tournament, it was the Euro’s.

As an England fan who has travelled extensively to watch them over the years, I think it would be great for the for the OP’s child to stay up and watch, but let’s not kid ourselves it is going to be any sort of life defining moment.

My year 8 is planning to go to bed early and set an alarm for it. Noone else will be up watching. We said it's his choice but so he has clear rules not to wake anyone and he has to do school as normal with no moaning. I am hoping he watches it in bed and basically just falls asleep again instantly.

I reckon about 70% of the kids that reckon they are staying up for this will fall asleep during the game, even more if kick off is delayed due to the likely thunderstorm.

I don't care in the slightest about football, but I'd let him. One off exciting things like this are the things kids really remember. Send him to bed early so he can wake up for the match, he'll be tired the next day but he'll get over it!

Let him stay up for goodness sake. This memory will stay with him forever. Get some nice snacks and things in for him as well.
If we had made it this far (Scotland) I can assure you every kid in the country would be staying up.

Same - I can’t imagine being ticked up in bed for 7. My dc didn’t even do that at age 5 😅

Just watch the game and go to school and tell him he has to go to school. What a wimp to expect a morning off!!!

Mines y7 and me and DH have discussed with him what they want to do, and they’ve decided they may make up the sofa bed downstairs and sort of try and go to bed early, set an alarm for the match and then attempt to get another hour or so after. However, there will be no going in late to school.

It is a once in 4 years thing, it’s the end of the school year so they won’t miss much anyway. Sometimes real life is more important than school.
Also year 9, so they’re 14? Surely they can cope with one late night?

When I was 14 I was going clubbing on a Thursday night, getting in and having 2 hours of sleep before school 😂 as you can see I had a laid back didn't care Mother

I had exactly the same experience with the boxing. My dad would wake me up and make me a hot chocolate and we'd watch the fight together then I would go back to bed. Do I remember the fights? Nope. But the core happy memories of spending that quality time with my dad have never left me.

I would let him. I can't see England winning this one. Playing the hosting nation at their own ground, that also happens to be at altitude? It's been a decent run, but it's not coming home this year.

If your DS usually getting 11 hours and he's waking up at 6am he must be asleep by 7pm. Get his Dad to let him sleep until just before 1am, get him up for kick off, watch the game, then get some more sleep before getting up for school.

Sure he's going to be tired, but that's the price he's going to be paying, along with many others of his cohort.

I'd let him stay up but explain that it is business as usual the following day. He wouldn't be the first 14 year old to survive a day on very little sleep but I wouldn't go along with the "sick" until lunch time idea. I'd be letting him meet the natural consequences of staying up late watching football, not erasing that by sleeping in.

This reminds me of when I started clubbing at 16. I was allowed to go out on a Thursday as long as went to college on the Friday - those were some rough days but I did it!

For secondary school, I think you let them. They’ll soon work out if they can cope and then get to school.
For primary age, it’s too late and unless they take the next day off it’s too much (probably still is even if they’re off school).

I'm sorry, what??? 11hrs??? Thats not healthy. Up to 8hrs. More than that is actually as unhealthy as too little sleep. He's not 10.

Let him watch it. What's the worst that can happen? He's tired in school for one day. He can go to bed earlier on Monday night.

I think 14 is plenty old enough for them to make their own decision and face the natural consequences.

Therefore my year 9 is more than welcome to stay up and watch the match. He doesn’t have a bedtime anyway, he’s too old for that. But, I will not be calling school for him in the morning. He either makes it to school on time but very tired, or he goes in late and faces the consequences of detention.