AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

No, I haven't. I've got some nutter telling me it's a serious matter and needs looking in to that a teenager needs 10 hours sleep a night.

Oh, I get that it's a one off in terms of a late night for this tournament. The shared experience with their peers and family (although not in OP's case, as she's said neither her nor DH will stay up) I also understand.

But I still don't think it's a bad point to make that this isn't going to be the last ever WC, it's not the final, it's not so rare that we get this far and it really isn't the seminal moment people are making it out to be. Yes, it's an exciting thing for children to do, but I suspect for some it's the being allowed to be up at that time that will have more appeal than the actual event, not to mention, as OP said, some children being told they can skive off for it in the morning.

I genuinely think parents make more of a big deal out of this than the kids do, to be honest, and if it wasn't being hyped up so much, most kids wouldn't expect to be watching it at that time.

As I said, I think it should be OP's son's choice at 14 to watch it, with the caveat that he still has to get up and got to school at the normal time. But if he doesn't watch it, he won't be the only one and it isn't like he's missed history in the making or anything. And if he does remember for a while that his mum didn't let him watch it, but his dad said he could, so what? I'm sure we all had those times, things we thought were so important, and our parents didn't agree but the naysayer won. I know I have. Why is this any more of a big deal than the concert dad agreed to but mum said no to, or the trip away with a friend, or whatever?

I don't think I know or know of any 14 year olds who sleep 7:30pm to 6:30am as would be required given his getting up time?

Lots of activities for 14 year olds (e.g. explorer scouts) wouldn't even start til 7pm. I'm pretty sure our cub group for 8-10 year olds used to run til 8pm and scouts (10-14) til 9.

No, I haven't. I've got some nutter telling me it's a serious matter and needs looking in to that a teenager needs 10 hours sleep a night.

Not when the 14 year old concerned wakes up every morning full of the joys of spring, has a massive smile on their face when saying good morning, chats away about looking forward to their day ahead, sings along to R1 in their morning shower, leaves for school on time every single day without any delays, comes home from school saying they've had a great day and chats about what happened during their day, happily goes off to their different sports clubs after school Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays, without fail, never too tired to go, goes to the gym with friends to exercise regularly, goes jogging with his DF and loves it, and goes on 4 hour mountain bike rides cross country at weekends returning full of vitality and enthusiasm, swims every week, is always in a happy mood, loves life, laughs throughout every day, eats a very healthy diet with a hearty appetite, plays music, makes music, has masses of interests and hobbies and is brimming with energy for all the above.....but needs 10 hours sleep and wakes feeling great after sleeping like a log......no. I don't think it's 'worth looking at'.
I think any GP would ask me why I had booked an appointment for him once they'd taken a full history.
Why are you medicalising a healthy teenager who is needing 10 hours of sleep?
Why are you projecting your health anxiety on to us?
''A serious matter''😂

Let him stay up to watch, it's only one night, won't kill him to have less sleep for once.

To respond to comments made:

1. My DH has no intention of watching it. Don't know why certain posters are saying DH will be watching it. I never said that. He won't be. Doesn't want to. I also won't be watching. DS would watch alone.
2. Posters saying why do I get to control things by saying no when DH is saying yes, why do I get the right to decide over what DH is saying, that signals me being controlling etc. Turn that around. If DS watches it because DH says yes even though I've said no, then does that make DH controlling over me and my opinion? Does that mean DH 'gets to control' by saying yes when I've said no? The misogyny from women themselves against other women is real. FWIW me and DH are having a completely relaxed chat about it and are listening to each other's points and are weighing up the balance, just like we always do about everything.
3. 11 hours sleep a night was a mistake from me editing that sentence in a rush. I meant to put 10 hours. Yes. Wait for it because this might blow your minds. DS who is 14 sleeps 10 hours a night. On week days, he puts himself to bed at 8:30 and is asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow, then wakes at 6:30. And you will be even more shocked out of your heads to learn that at weekends, he puts himself to bed by 10pm and sleeps like the dead until 10am Sat/Sun. Hold on to your coffees - this is 12 hours!!!! Every single weekend!!!! And no, he doesn't need blood tests and medical appointments before you wade in with that. He's a perfectly fit, healthy, sporty boy with lots of energy in the day.
4. I never said I would let him take the morning off school sick. I said other mums are allowing this. I never said I would. My question was about him staying up to watch it. Not about him not going to school tomorrow morning. He will be going to school regardless.
5. I am not controlling over DS. I'm a relaxed parent of a DS who has masses of independence and free reign. He is always listened to and I happily compromise what I think in order to listen to what he thinks. Again, only on mumsnet can a post about me thinking amy DS14 staying up till 3:30/4 am on a school night isn't a good idea could it turn into a deluge of criticism about me being a controlling parent. Controlling parents say a hard no, don't listen to reason, and don't reflect by asking if they're BU on a parenting forum.
6. DS is ND, needs a lot of rest to cope with school the next day, gets overwhelmed and overloaded quickly, has SEN which are impacted by less sleep, he also gets overstimulated quickly, and his brain tires more easily. Lack of sleep markedly increases all of the above. It is this that I'm weighing up when saying no to him staying up till 3:30/4. But because I'm listening to him asking to watch it, and because I am weighing up the sbove versus it's only 1 night, and because I am reflecting on my decision (as opposed to being controlling), I have asked AIBU.