AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

Honestly OP it’ll be the ruin of him having one nights disturbed sleep!

He’ll fall behind in his studies, important time of year July in schools, big teaching time,

He will forever remember it, the year he couldn’t watch the game!

Id suggest, you all get up and watch it together.

Early nights them alarms set and “make memories”!

I wouldn’t unless he is allowed to sleep in. Ten hours a night is within normal range for a teenager.

Get a grip! It's a football match!

We are away with a 2 hour ahead time difference. They had a nap this afternoon and will be up at 3 to watch it. Obviously we don't have to be up in the morning BUT we would have let them stay up if we were home (year 7 and 10). I would have been staying up and I leave at 6am for work. We would have gone bed early and woke up at 0030 and gone to bed after for a few hours. It's a one off. I wouldn't have let them call in sick/go in late though. Part of life. Want to do something, deal with consequences.

Yes - good idea he can fast forward all the breaks and half time! I’d be doing this.

I bet a lot of these kids staying up will fall asleep and miss it anyway!

i do think a lot of people have had a long nap today - roads and streets have been eerily quiet!

It is a one off so I’d let him. I’d say he has to go to bed at the usual time and set an alarm and watch it in bed, if that’s what he wants to do. Then there’s a real possibility the alarm will go off and he will realise he’s too tired to actually get up and watch or he’ll get up, watch, and fall back asleep in front of the TV during half time. And if he does watch the whole match, so be it! He may find it’s worth feeling groggy tomorrow.

@BlackTulipss Is there a class WhatsApp? You can soon find out if Everybody Is Staying Up
Or, tape the match and get him up at 4:45 am to watch it before school
Or, just be a parent and say No

God let him live. It's one night. Make a big deal of it. Then if they win, he'll have a great memory to look back on. 'I remember when Mum & Dad let me stay up to watch England beat Mexico...on their turf. Good times'.

If they lose it'll be flushed from his memory like it never happened.

We are so much not a football house that I was baffled by the message from school announcing that it’s normal school hours on Monday. As in had no idea who it might not be.

But that said I’d probably tell my teenage DS that if he woke himself up and got up to watch it, then went to school without complaining the next morning, then that would be his decision and at his age he is allowed to try out things like that.

the morning I found it hard to wake him then realised he’d gamed in the night, the “punishment” was to get up and get on with the day without complaint. Any complaint and we works have talked about alternative consequences for poor choices.

DH is leaving for work at 05.30 in the morning, he has gone to bed and I will get him up for the match, so if it’s a late kick off due to weather, he can have a longer sleep. He won’t bother going back to bed after the match.

DS and DD1 have already finished school and college, they are night owls, so will be up. I work nights, but not tonight, so I’m used to sleeping when I can.

DDY9 loves football, so she is going to bed at 21.00, I’ll wake her for the match. She has a lift to school in the morning so doesn’t need to get up until 08.00, she’ll be fine, probably won’t even feel tired until she gets home. She will go to bed early tomorrow if she needs to.

When high school do school trips that return late, the kids always have to be in school as normal in the morning. My DC like a nap, so are pretty adaptable when needed.

Sorry, am dominating here for a second. I can't believe the way in which this thread has developed, even for Mumsnet. So much shit, judgement and ridiculous preconceived ideas.

Do your thing OP. Do what you believe is right for your child.

Unbelievable.

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dont be an uptight fun sponge - it could be a wonderful memory its not like he is operating heavy machinery the next day

i am a teacher ( who will not be staying up ) i have planned a whole day of easy non taxing lessons for those that turn up

Only on mumsnet can a parent who dares to say no to their child be called controlling.

My DS is 15 and asked, jokingly, if he could watch the match. I chuckled and before I could even say no, he told me he knew the answer. My son also has SEN and need a good 9 hours sleep. He can watch England's crappy performance on catch up after school.

Its not even a semi-final. It is also nowhere near the same league as a lunar landing or eclipse which others have alluded to. SMDH

My 12 year old is, he's off to bed at 8pm and will be woken up at 12.45 and then back to bed after! It's not a final, but he absolutely loves football!

Consider this - who is going to need to look after your son tomorrow? Is he going to give the teachers a hard time because he can't cope with lack of sleep with SEN? If the answer is yes, you are correct in not letting him stay off. If simply he is going to just be a bit tired, then wake him up to see the game. If he goes to bed at 8.30 he will already have had 4.5 hours sleep then another 3.5 hours post match - not masses but still enough that a 14 year old should otherwise be able to cope with. Who knows? If he takes a quilt and pillow to the living room he might just fall asleep anyway in front of the TV.

I'm with you on all of this. Send him to school totally knackered, He won't want to do it again.

(an ex secondary school teacher)

Sorry, that was mean on your DS but you get my drift.

I’m letting my 10 year old! Only happens once every 4 years. We are bringing our duvets down and memory making!

This whole situation is ridiculous. What on earth is going on? It's bluddy football. I find the situation regarding football unendurable at the best of times, but it really has now gone mad.

I'm sure that my ex will refer to it as 'an important game', but every football match was 'important' to him.

It's total bollox. Do not allow your children to be ruled by it. Perhaps take them to the Bayeux Tapestry exhibition instead where they can get some worthwhile education in their history and the development of humanity.

You're not being unreasonable in that I don't disagree with you, but I think the PP that suggested waking him up for the match then straight back to bed was spot on. I'd follow their advice!

It’s one day. Let him stay up, he’ll live.

Quite likely the final for England given the circumstances, sadly, but you never know!

No, you're doing the exact right thing. Parenting isn't convenient and your child's job is education, not watching a bunch of man-children millionaires flopping around the pitch at 0100 in the morning

Don't ask anyone what they think. They have no investment in your children or their future.

Nope my year 9 son is going to bed normal time and he said if they some how win he will just watch highlights online. However looking at the weather in Mexico City there is a good chance it will be delayed and he might see some before school

Let him do it and see how tired he is tomorrow. A life lesson about why you shouldn’t always have what you think you want

15 year old and 11 year old setting alarms to get up here. Plus it’s the end of the summer term. The least important few days of the school year!