AIBU to refuse a Year 9 staying up for the 1am match?

That's the parenting dream isn't it? They leave and go off and succeed rather than turning into the boomerang man children kids we see everywhere.

That's the parenting dream isn't it? They leave and go off and succeed rather than turning into the boomerang man children kids we see everywhere.

You just sound like a twat now. Poor kid

The response was not aimed at the attempted sarcastic or humorous (if you wish, although it was not particularly funny either) last post by OP. My comment was about the series of elaborate posts she left on this thread and the general attitude...
But it's my opinion only anyway.

Is there anywhere you could buy a sense of humour near to where you live?

No.
I wouldn't allow him to watch it no matter how much he begged. I even sat outside his bedroom door all night to ensure he didn't leave his room to sneak out and watch it. I removed his phone and ipad from him overnight and locked them in a drawer so that he didn't watch it on screens whilst in bed. I hid the TV remote control somewhere he'd never find so that there was no possible way he could turn the TV on in the lounge even if I fell sound asleep whilst guarding his bedroom door.
It was an effort, I must admit. But these are the efforts required to maintain control over my DS at all times. After all, this is what I am; a controlling mother!

OP you do come across as quite insecure - not controlling for the sake of control but because your DS seems to be the only one you can excercise the feeling of control over. Also you are not easy to have a conversation with...

After all - you did come here for an opinion, and after the YABU type of posts started piling up you turned defensive.
It's OK - you are the mother and ofcourse you know what is best for your kid, his patterns and routines - noone here can make a better judgement call on this topic than you.

But people were just trying to nudge you a bit to relax and let it go this one time - just for this boy - not to be the one at school tomorrow not having anything to say when most other kids are commenting on what turned out to be an amazing match!
Regardless of all your (absolutely unnecessary) explanations and sharing details around DS's sleeping habits - it is an absolute fact that being up for a few hours just once during a random night - won't do him any harm. As for the school clearly some would have called in sick, and some would be a little tired as your DS - so what... it's not like he would be the only one.

Btw - when you go on holidays do you also make sure you always get on early afternoon flights not to disturb his sleep? If not you should because this matter is clearly very important to you.

Anyway this post is coming from a person who had too often missed out on friends birthdays and celebrations as a kid (often being the only one in the class missing out!!), group teenagers' holidays, going out evenings as an older teen - all because my mother knew better than any other mother and was in her mind a "better mother" - more caring mother, more protective mother.

I now live thousand miles away from my family and while I maintain super regular contact with the rest of my family I can tell you that I never have an urge to call my mum, or talk to her, not much to talk about to begin with...there is just so much resentment. I do check in occasionally because other family members ask me to.
I was also on the surface a very successful kid, and always smiling.
Anyway good luck with your attitude, and I do hope the kid watched the match...

No.
I wouldn't allow him to watch it no matter how much he begged. I even sat outside his bedroom door all night to ensure he didn't leave his room to sneak out and watch it. I removed his phone and ipad from him overnight and locked them in a drawer so that he didn't watch it on screens whilst in bed. I hid the TV remote control somewhere he'd never find so that there was no possible way he could turn the TV on in the lounge even if I fell sound asleep whilst guarding his bedroom door.
It was an effort, I must admit. But these are the efforts required to maintain control over my DS at all times. After all, this is what I am; a controlling mother!

Oh gosh I hope this is sarcasm it was so amazing

No.
I wouldn't allow him to watch it no matter how much he begged. I even sat outside his bedroom door all night to ensure he didn't leave his room to sneak out and watch it. I removed his phone and ipad from him overnight and locked them in a drawer so that he didn't watch it on screens whilst in bed. I hid the TV remote control somewhere he'd never find so that there was no possible way he could turn the TV on in the lounge even if I fell sound asleep whilst guarding his bedroom door.
It was an effort, I must admit. But these are the efforts required to maintain control over my DS at all times. After all, this is what I am; a controlling mother!

No.
I wouldn't allow him to watch it no matter how much he begged. I even sat outside his bedroom door all night to ensure he didn't leave his room to sneak out and watch it. I removed his phone and ipad from him overnight and locked them in a drawer so that he didn't watch it on screens whilst in bed. I hid the TV remote control somewhere he'd never find so that there was no possible way he could turn the TV on in the lounge even if I fell sound asleep whilst guarding his bedroom door.
It was an effort, I must admit. But these are the efforts required to maintain control over my DS at all times. After all, this is what I am; a controlling mother!

No.
I wouldn't allow him to watch it no matter how much he begged. I even sat outside his bedroom door all night to ensure he didn't leave his room to sneak out and watch it. I removed his phone and ipad from him overnight and locked them in a drawer so that he didn't watch it on screens whilst in bed. I hid the TV remote control somewhere he'd never find so that there was no possible way he could turn the TV on in the lounge even if I fell sound asleep whilst guarding his bedroom door.
It was an effort, I must admit. But these are the efforts required to maintain control over my DS at all times. After all, this is what I am; a controlling mother!

No.
I wouldn't allow him to watch it no matter how much he begged. I even sat outside his bedroom door all night to ensure he didn't leave his room to sneak out and watch it. I removed his phone and ipad from him overnight and locked them in a drawer so that he didn't watch it on screens whilst in bed. I hid the TV remote control somewhere he'd never find so that there was no possible way he could turn the TV on in the lounge even if I fell sound asleep whilst guarding his bedroom door.
It was an effort, I must admit. But these are the efforts required to maintain control over my DS at all times. After all, this is what I am; a controlling mother!

No.
I wouldn't allow him to watch it no matter how much he begged. I even sat outside his bedroom door all night to ensure he didn't leave his room to sneak out and watch it. I removed his phone and ipad from him overnight and locked them in a drawer so that he didn't watch it on screens whilst in bed. I hid the TV remote control somewhere he'd never find so that there was no possible way he could turn the TV on in the lounge even if I fell sound asleep whilst guarding his bedroom door.
It was an effort, I must admit. But these are the efforts required to maintain control over my DS at all times. After all, this is what I am; a controlling mother!

No.
I wouldn't allow him to watch it no matter how much he begged. I even sat outside his bedroom door all night to ensure he didn't leave his room to sneak out and watch it. I removed his phone and ipad from him overnight and locked them in a drawer so that he didn't watch it on screens whilst in bed. I hid the TV remote control somewhere he'd never find so that there was no possible way he could turn the TV on in the lounge even if I fell sound asleep whilst guarding his bedroom door.
It was an effort, I must admit. But these are the efforts required to maintain control over my DS at all times. After all, this is what I am; a controlling mother!

No.
I wouldn't allow him to watch it no matter how much he begged. I even sat outside his bedroom door all night to ensure he didn't leave his room to sneak out and watch it. I removed his phone and ipad from him overnight and locked them in a drawer so that he didn't watch it on screens whilst in bed. I hid the TV remote control somewhere he'd never find so that there was no possible way he could turn the TV on in the lounge even if I fell sound asleep whilst guarding his bedroom door.
It was an effort, I must admit. But these are the efforts required to maintain control over my DS at all times. After all, this is what I am; a controlling mother!

No.
I wouldn't allow him to watch it no matter how much he begged. I even sat outside his bedroom door all night to ensure he didn't leave his room to sneak out and watch it. I removed his phone and ipad from him overnight and locked them in a drawer so that he didn't watch it on screens whilst in bed. I hid the TV remote control somewhere he'd never find so that there was no possible way he could turn the TV on in the lounge even if I fell sound asleep whilst guarding his bedroom door.
It was an effort, I must admit. But these are the efforts required to maintain control over my DS at all times. After all, this is what I am; a controlling mother!