I have a friend who is amazing however, I am not crazy about her friends or even her husband for that matter. She’s invited me to a bbq as she does every year and I think this time I will decline and just say I’m busy. I didn’t attend her birthday this year for the same reason. Anytime I have been out with her husband he doesn’t talk, doesn’t even say hello (she thinks he’s autistic but I get a snobby vibe from him). Her friends are just not my cup of tea and I struggle to find common ground, they’re quite reserved and middle class whereas I’m more chatty and have a very different job/ lifestyle to them. Some of them are on the obnoxious side and I just don’t have similar values. I have tried several times to enjoy their company at these gatherings but it’s getting to the stage I’m wasting a precious weekend day with people I don’t care for and I don’t have time for that as I work full time. Sometimes I feel I need to force myself to these things because i don’t have many friends left in my area (lots have moved out of the city) but surely I shouldn’t have to right?