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AIBU to worry my partner's lifestyle could affect fertility and health?

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ag1908 · 04/07/2026 23:22

My partners diet & overall lifestyle isn’t great. We have been together for 7 years and not once and I really mean not once has he eaten a piece of fruit, veg, drank any water in that full time or done any exercise.

we have a young child together and would like to conceive another, but I’m worried that maybe his lifestyle could be impacting fertility to an extent? He vapes, drinks alcohol multiple times in a week, eats a lot of salt and processed food, drinks anywhere between 3-4 energy drinks a day, on top of pre workout purely for energy.

I’ve tried to gently suggest cutting down on certain things as I want him to obviously be healthy for our child and also encourage good lifestyle choices for her. I’m not sure if it’s wrong for it to bother / concern me?

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MrsMorrisey · 04/07/2026 23:55

Oh he sounds gross. He probably doesn’t realize he feels crappy til he stops all of that. It’s amazing how much a body can endure.
All you can do is offer advice and suggestions, not much else, he doesn’t care enough to change because he doesn’t see the negative effects yet.

JLou08 · 04/07/2026 23:28

It's not wrong to be bothered by it. It's completely normal and rational to be concerned about the health of someone you're raising a child with and planning to grow old with. His health impacts on you and your DC.

Childanddogmama · 04/07/2026 23:28

It is concerning, but unfortunately can't imagine you will have much luck in getting him to change.