AIBU to feel overwhelmed by my husband's constant monologuing?

My husband does this. It generally doesn't bother me, and when it does I just tell him I'm relaxing in this room so he needs to be quiet or go somewhere else which works!

Mine is like that, got fed up of it about 15 years ago so stopped talking to him, don't think he's noticed yet

Sometimes the only way - depends how you feel about him deep down

Sometimes we don't realise how much certain traits will affect us before they become a permanent fixture in our lives - personal experience 😒 - BUT if you haven't an opportunity to SAY it, maybe write him a letter/note/card explaining how it affects you and what your expectations are going forward?

He needs to take his frustration there, and when he's ready to be civil he can enter the house.

Find a well paid job ...in another city/ country preferably.

My friends husband is like that, drives me mad!

If this isn’t new, I don’t understand why you married him?!

on the practical front the only thing you will have to tell him how you feel and that it’s a pattern he has, and then when it happens you can say in the moment “you’re monologuing again” or “I wasn’t finished” (if he interrupts you with his own crap) or “is this very important for me to listen to right now, as I need some quiet time”

This sounds like my hubby. I walk away and he is still rattling on. I just think twice about raising any subject with him. Its a man thing. They think we are always looking for the solution. Get a pair of earbuds!!

Or “There We Are Then”
TWAT!
And walk off

Record him for a day and play it back to him, loudly! Let him know how it makes you feel.
Or ... do your own incessant monologue, louder than his, then let him know how you feel. If you don't say something how the hell is he to know? But personally, I'd rather rip my own face off than suffer this self righteous bullshit for years to come

He sounds very selfish. It's time for you to be selfish too. Tell him (as gently as possible) that this total lack of self awareness has become too much for you, that you can't possibly agree with him all the time and that you need him to stop articulating every single thought he has.

He sounds like a boring blowhard!

I just wouldn’t marry someone like this. If it’s a change just tell him to shut up and give you some peace so you can think your own thoughts not listen to his

My MIL is like this, every conversation winds right round to her every single time. Exhausting. She’s lovely but lives alone so you get a weeks worth of conversation in a few hours.

Always put him right afterwards when we’re on our own. Took a while for him to take this in the good natured manner it’s meant

If I'm in close proximity I will give dh a gentle prod that others can't see. He knows that means give someone else a chance. He doesn't take it badly, he knows he talks too much.

A friend has similar - she just says “it’s my quiet time now”

My husband is like this. He voices everything that crosses his mind. A constant flow especially on a long drive. Pointing things out, explaining when the last time he drove down this road. Many, many things that anyone else would just think, to themselves, without having to voice it. Unimportant things.

I've explained to him that it sometimes drives me nuts, it's really wearing and have got him to promise that if I ask him to be quiet for a while he won't take the hump, just stay in his own head for half an hour. I daresay he finds it difficult but he does make an effort, bless him.

DH works in an open plan office all day and is still like this

DH does this. It makes me feel quite unwell sometimes. Like I have no headspace at all.

He's diagnosed with autism now.

It makes it hard to spend an evening with him because there's just no space for me to think my own thoughts (let alone articulate them).
He's kind hearted but I just can't cope that he has to verbalise every single passing thought

Like if he is shopping for something online he will verbalise every single step he takes and thing he looks about and thinks about. Whereas I would hunt around and narrow things down then maybe ask his opinion/tell him if I found a bargain

Or after he has spoken to his dad on speaker phone he will then retell and go over every single bit of the conversation

He means well. But my brain feels like it is going to explode sometimes

Noise cancelling headphones, if he complains tell him they are staying put unless he quietens down, if you can't afford to leave then you have to find an effective way to block him out, even if it's only for short breaks

My dh can be like that at times but not all of the time otherwise he'd be under the patio by now. I have had one hour car journeys where it's constant regarding his driving to the point I can't tell him he's taken a wrong turning as he won't shut the fuck up! I just look out the window and think about something completely different. I switch off.
It's exhausting and draining. I try to switch off. If he's looking at me during conversations like these, I make sure I don't nod as this just encourages him to continue. He also doesn't like it if I disagree with his opinion. I just tell him that is my opinion, it's different to his but that it doesn't make either of us right or wrong, just different. He doesn't like it but I refuse to agree to keep the peace.

It's stressful at these times but in your position I don't know how I'd cope. Sorry that's not of much help. Meditation might help you and you could always say you don't want to be disturbed whilst you're doing it. This will give you some peace in the least.

Get rid k ow your worth

Hi op sounds awful peri won’t be helping but don’t agree to everything and every now and then call him out on his rudeness say hey I wasn’t finished speaking or can you give your mouth a break my head hurts or can you work in a office because being together a lot would cause issues especially if he gets on your nerves. Don’t accept it op.

Lots of guys I know are like that. Particularly the ones with high pressure jobs. Love my DH but often have to steer conversations back to the instigator when he hijacks them. Always put him right afterwards when we’re on our own. Took a while for him to take this in the good natured manner it’s meant. I’m also not a stranger to the sentence not now darling!. Nobody is perfect

Sounds like Colin the Energy Vampire, from What We Do In The Shadows