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AIBU to raise concerns about an Airbnb after kind hosts helped us?

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Bunnyfuller1 · 04/07/2026 17:06

So..we booked an AirBnB near Nimes. Our wonderful Ryanair flight was delayed 2 hours, which was then a domino effect to getting out of the airport to where we were collecting our car. The hire place closed 5 minutes before we got there, despite me pleading with them and updating them all the time.

i had been in contact with the AirBnB owner since before the holiday and he had asked me to keep him updates to our arrival time. When I had updated him with our situation he immediately offered to collect us from the railway station, and offered us dinner. An absolute gem, we are so grateful. We sorted our car out the next day, so all good there.

The problem is the AirBnB itself - it’s a small gite attached to the owner’s house. The grounds are very neglected with stuff everywhere. The advertised aircon is actually one portable air conditioner with a pipe taped to the door to vent. The owner has given us a couple of fans which make it possible to sleep Everything is very tired r unfinished or needs repairing. Bedside tables are plastic chairs.

Theres a pool which is very cloudy, and again everything around it is unkempt. The cherries on the cake are their 2 labradors which they mostly keep control of, but they take into the pool twice a day.

We are really torn - owners are so welcoming and nice (a bit too chatty sometimes) but we’ve never stayed in an Airbnb like this before and as much as I like dogs, I’m not overly keen on swimming in water that two huge labs go in.

What to do - if the hosts were any different we would immediately speak to them and Airbnb and hopefully get moved to something better, but (I know, grow a pair) I’m really feeling bad and ungrateful over speaking to them. DH is fully for raising our issues, it’s me feeling awful.

what to do, dear MN, and if we were to raise it, how….

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GetTheACOn · 04/07/2026 21:19

No way would I tolerate a dog in a pool I used on holiday. I would have to say something asap, as it would be unusable for me. Gross.

RtHonLadyMuck · 04/07/2026 21:09

The problem is that for some reason, a lot of guests leave ratings of 4 or 5 despite the Airbnb not being particularly good. That was our experience the last couple of times. We were honest & rated them ‘3’. In terms of facilities and cleanliness they were just not up to Airbnb standard and it was really irritating that others had left such positive reviews, which were misleading and without which, we would not have booked. We are seasoned Airbnb veterans of over 12 years so have experienced a wide range from poor to excellent.

LoafofSellotape · 04/07/2026 21:05

PancakeCloud · 04/07/2026 20:35

But it’s an Airbnb, not a hotel? And presumably the price / listing reflected this is a family pool used by dogs (which I also think is gross tbh, but I just stay in hotels).

It's revolting whatever you pay for it unless it's your own pool / sole use in which case don't charge others to use it.

PancakeCloud · 04/07/2026 20:35

LoafofSellotape · 04/07/2026 18:24

Dogs being allowed to swim in a murky pool is NOT what is expect when booking.

But it’s an Airbnb, not a hotel? And presumably the price / listing reflected this is a family pool used by dogs (which I also think is gross tbh, but I just stay in hotels).

GisGasGus · 04/07/2026 20:01

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How would one do due diligence on whether dogs use the swimming pool?

poletpooh · 04/07/2026 19:58

Just don’t leave a review, that’s the easiest thing to do.
I know this may be weird but two huge Labradors swimming in the pool with me twice a day would make it the best holiday ever!

Mistymaglets · 04/07/2026 18:38

I think people here have little experience with Airbnb. Choosing accommodation in someone else's home is completely different to choosing ( and rating) a hotel.

A hotel runs on a business model and Airbnb runs a private hosting platform.

You need to be very clear when you book to stay with hosts in their home that not everything may be to your exact taste.
An Airbnb is much cheaper than a hotel for a reason. You have a right to expect a decent place to sleep in the location you want, but it's unrealistic to expect to be as comfortable as you would be in a starred hotel.
Sometimes on Airbnb the accomodation is extremely basic and sometimes you get an unexpected extras that a hotel would never offer ...like the hosts collecting you from the airport, offering you dinner and being very friendly and helpful.

I don't think hotel chains and Airbnb are comparable really and so you should keep that in mind when you review. If your review is even slightly negative it's not going to slightly affect the percentage rating of an anonymous franchise or chain. It's going to have a direct effect on the kind people who went out of their way to pick you up from the airport.

RoseField1 · 04/07/2026 18:30

Darragon · 04/07/2026 17:37

This is yet another Air BNB thread where people need to remember reviews aren’t mandatory. Just say nothing. It’s not your civic duty. They’re clearly good people on the bones of their arse and trying their best to change that. Getting them less bookings will mean less money for them to fix the place up.

As an Airbnb host I couldn't agree less. Don't charge people to stay if you can't make the accommodation clean, safe and welcoming. It doesn't have to be luxurious or fancy but there are basic minimum standards. Reviews are vital, and I don't agree OP should leave a 5 star. Leave 3 stars for the accommodation with a positive message about the hosts. People booking the accommodation in future won't thank you for a misleading review.

LoafofSellotape · 04/07/2026 18:24

PancakeCloud · 04/07/2026 18:02

What were you expecting from the reviews and photos?

Even if the hosts weren’t lovely, I’m not sure what grounds you have to complain and get moved without just making another booking? Nothing about what you’ve said seems outside the realms of normal for an Airbnb.

Dogs being allowed to swim in a murky pool is NOT what is expect when booking.

Goodmorningeveryone26 · 04/07/2026 18:24

I think you need to leave a pleasant review mentioning how kind and welcoming the hosts are, but with pictures showing the state of the place

Kim5678 · 04/07/2026 18:18

I would leave a review. I would feel bad as the owners have been very nice, but you’re paying for the accommodation not the owners, and it sounds like it doesn’t match the photos. I once went to an Airbnb which was filthy and awful, no one would have been happy to stay there and the grime on the doors (including what looked like poo stains on the bathroom one) had clearly built up over months. But it had no bad reviews so other people will continue to book and then be disgusted like I was. That was an extreme place, but I think people need to start leaving factual honest reviews like they would for a hotel or others will also waste their money on a bad experience

Ginmonkeyagain · 04/07/2026 18:10

As for expectations of Airbnb in France I think it can depends on what you paid and what was advertised. Remember Airbnb isn't a holiday letting compant but a platform for individuals to rent out spaces to sleep - it can be anything from an airbed in someone's living room to a very high spec private apartment.

Nimes has lots of hotels and professionally let apartments, seems like you chose badly TBH. I tend to use hotel or professional apartment companies as I do not want to share my holiday with owners or their animals.

MissCooCooMcgoo · 04/07/2026 18:09

"We cannot praise the hosts enough for their incredible kindness. When our flight was severely delayed and we missed our car rental, the host offered to pick us up from the station and even offered us dinner—they are truly warm, welcoming, and helpful people.
The accommodation itself is a small gite attached to the main house, but we found it to be quite tired, unfinished, and in need of some maintenance and tidying around the grounds. The advertised air conditioning is a single portable unit vented through a door, though the host did kindly provide fans to help keep us cool. The pool area is also quite unkempt and the water was cloudy during our stay. Potential guests should also note that the hosts' two lovely Labradors use the pool twice a day, which might not suit everyone.
Overall, an unforgettable level of hospitality, but the property itself requires some TLC and updating to match the listing description."

spritzwiththat · 04/07/2026 18:03

Does it say the pool is shared. I love dogs but don’t want to share pool water with them. Grim. Ask them to stop if it is described as your pool.
or move.

PancakeCloud · 04/07/2026 18:02

What were you expecting from the reviews and photos?

Even if the hosts weren’t lovely, I’m not sure what grounds you have to complain and get moved without just making another booking? Nothing about what you’ve said seems outside the realms of normal for an Airbnb.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 04/07/2026 17:59

Buscobel · 04/07/2026 17:56

The thing is, if you research carefully and set your criteria to reflect what you want, it’s disappointing when the reality doesn’t match your expectations or the photos.

You pay good money. I think you should be able to comment on the negatives.

Definitely. As long as it’s honest and backed up with comments about above and beyond hospitality. Suppose some guests are allergic to dogs, dog hair and slobber in the pool could set off these.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 04/07/2026 17:58

LBFseBrom · 04/07/2026 17:48

I get how you feel but as long as no harm has been done, I'd leave it. Presumably the pool was chlorinated.

If everyone just left it it’d be a sad state of affairs. If I was running an air b n b I’d appreciate honesty more as well as nice comments about hosts going above and beyond. With that at least they have chances to improve. My parents with their holiday home never charged apart from utility bills and they had a visitors book with comments which were all perfect - but they didn’t let it out to tourists.

Buscobel · 04/07/2026 17:56

The thing is, if you research carefully and set your criteria to reflect what you want, it’s disappointing when the reality doesn’t match your expectations or the photos.

You pay good money. I think you should be able to comment on the negatives.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 04/07/2026 17:53

To be quite honest they’re running a business and charging as such. Things like dogs in the pool would piss me off and broken bits of house eg definitely run down and inadequate air con would irritate me too. France has been unusually hot this spring summer so they’ve had more than enough time to sort out proper air con.

The saving graces is they were very nice collecting you from the airport and doing other things.

I don’t stay in Giles in France only French air b n b (nothing like this set up!) and with friends who have houses there which they’ve had residential courses in plus when my parents had a holiday home they let family and friends stay there. Everything re the latter was/is perfect from the pool if they have one down to the houses. Maybe it’s a French thing but as I said 2 air b n bs in Brittany and Normandy and various apartments in Paris have been nothing like the gite in OP. Once when I got a cheap air b n b in Paris near the Eiffel Tower it couldn’t have been more professional.

If you leave an honest review it’ll help others considering staying there.,

IglesiasPiggl · 04/07/2026 17:53

I have 3 review modes :
Really great and loved it - leave great review
Awful, misleading or unsafe - leave bad review
OK, didn't like that much or not my bag - don't bother with review

Just don't leave a review. They were nice people. If they had been rude then I would have left the bad review.

LightlyRoamingOcelots · 04/07/2026 17:48

Some friends of ours run an Airbnb as their home has a section that can easily be a private area. We were having a conversation about ratings because I commented that I heard Airbnb properties get delisted if their ratings score falls below a certain level and that makes the ratings useless because everything listed is 5.0 or 4.9 or 4.8 so there's hardly anything to choose. They explained that you aren't supposed to be rating it like a hotel where something really posh and splendid is 5 star but something more basic but functional is 3 star. It's supposed to be how well it meets the advertised description, was everything that was advertised present, did the owners go above and beyond, but a cheap and basic AirBnb that is a lot less luxurious than you might like can still be 5 star if it was correctly advertised. So I couldn't say whether yabu without reading the listing but any of the things you mention could be unreasonable to criticise in your review if they aren't in conflict with the listing.

PrettyLittleRose · 04/07/2026 17:48

Well every day is a school day, I thought the OP has mispelt GATE, and then other posters were doing so too. So I googled Gite, and it turns out ...

A gîte (pronounced zheet) is a furnished holiday home, cottage, or self-catering accommodation, primarily located in the rural or semi-rural regions of France.

I know you posh twats probably knew this, but I'm just a working class philistine! 😆

Edited because I can't even spell 'misspelt' correctly! 😂 The irony!

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LBFseBrom · 04/07/2026 17:48

I get how you feel but as long as no harm has been done, I'd leave it. Presumably the pool was chlorinated.

LoafofSellotape · 04/07/2026 17:42

Darragon · 04/07/2026 17:37

This is yet another Air BNB thread where people need to remember reviews aren’t mandatory. Just say nothing. It’s not your civic duty. They’re clearly good people on the bones of their arse and trying their best to change that. Getting them less bookings will mean less money for them to fix the place up.

I've been in far too many Airbnb's to know that any awful lot just can't be arsed to replace broken things and upgrade when needed.

Bunnyfuller1 · 04/07/2026 17:42

Darragon · 04/07/2026 17:37

This is yet another Air BNB thread where people need to remember reviews aren’t mandatory. Just say nothing. It’s not your civic duty. They’re clearly good people on the bones of their arse and trying their best to change that. Getting them less bookings will mean less money for them to fix the place up.

They’re actually not. Both academics, still involved in business and the main home has been completely renovated and has amazing aircon (owner took DH in to collect fans). Theres mess everywhere which the lady apologised for, but the main home is in much better nick.

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