To be upset no pictures of my son?

Did you not take pictures of him before he left?

Primary school. I think it's ridiculous they do that at that age. My son didn't even go to his Secondary prom.

She just means a leavers party.

A primary school prom?? What fresh hell is this?
Bring back the 80's of sweaty middle school end of term Disco's 😢

I don’t think they didn’t take pictures of your son out of nastiness, they did overlook him though because they were intent on taking photos of their own children.

It should have been a project that all children got a photo against the backdrop. But sadly in this case it wasn’t organised.

Maybe have a word with the head PTA mum. She should have been more organised.

Another one for DONT DO THIS

Read the post properly.

Perhaps he didn't want to be photographed. My son would do everything possible to avoid someone taking photos. All the way through school he didn't want to have photos on line, in groups or on school websites so I arranged for this not to happen. For his primary primary (ridiculous) I took a photo at home for the family only. It's a stupid thing to get hung up about.

Don't do this

Yes. I correct myself in my next post because I couldn’t edit. Useful comment though.

It’s not the op’s fault that the schoo/PTA decided to hold a leavers’ prom (leavers’ disco in old money - they’ve always been a thing). Given that there was one, i completely get why the op was disappointed that her son didn’t have a posed photo taken, when lots of the others did. Different if there were lots of general photos of the event, and her ds just didn’t happen to be in shot (until she made a request), but that’s not what it sounded like.

Yes, it probably is more important to the op, than her ds, but most of us have been there! If you didn’t get any pictures of him at home before he went, op, why not get him to put on the outfit he was wearing and take a nice photo of him yourself? Frame it with one of the informal photos from the event, and then put the whole thing to bed. It’ll hopefully become less and less of a niggle over the next few days.

As a mother of 3 older sons, I understand why you are upset about not having any good photos of him to look back on yourself but if it puts your mind at ease at all, he probably won't care. There's no need to be disappointed on his behalf.

Big difference offering to volunteer at the event but not doing the hard work of organising it. Then complaining

She said primary. They’re 11!

Second paragraph of the op - she did offer, but was turned down.

OP did volunteer

We had a year 6 prom for dd. I was even one of the organisers! I look back on it and do regret a bit how it snowballed from a disco in the hall to a prom with limo! I just kind of went with the majority. None of the parents objected. The kids had a blast.

But I do think it's unfair of the mums that went to not ensure they got photos of everyone. Easily done in a group photo. Some PTA mums are just there to benefit their kids and suck up to the teachers

Parents who do absolutely nothing to volunteer and help the PTA that go on to complain about minor things the PTA volunteers don’t do, are the absolute pits.

Your son’s not a trained model and this parent volunteer isn’t a trained photographer. If you were so fussed, you should have volunteered yourself!

So he wants photos? He has asked for this? Or is it all you?

You sound very over the top and no you should npt have emailed about this, let the child breathe

This is absolutely crazy. The consequence of attitudes like this is that no one will want to volunteer for events and the events won't happen.

Photographs aren't that important.

Did he want his picture taken? Did he join in when pics were being taken? There are no pretty backdrop pics of DD at her leavers party because she was too busy jumping around on the inflatables, kicking a ball around and running about in the field…. and I was actually there for a couple of hours!!

I know what you mean. It was DS’s Y11 prom this week and he isn’t in any of the publicly posted photos. They said photos would be available to purchase online after the event but we haven’t been sent a link. I got lovely ones at home obviously but I wanted to see him there having fun too! Having said that, he isn’t massively extroverted so he spent most of the night chatting with his small friendship group.

They didn’t post one of him getting out of the car because we have a humble 26 plate merc but the kid behind was dropped off in a lambo so immediately outdone!

Primary school prom? Is this honestly a thing now? Isn’t it just a leavers disco. It’s as bad as having a graduation when you leave Reception

I was so glad when my youngest went to secondary because I had already discovered with my older ones that all of the drama and nonsense disappears when they leave primary. There are better times ahead op.

I think you are investing too much emotion in this aspect. I suspect you are concerned about him being "left out" generally, and this is a catalyst for those worries.

Yes, it's not nice that some children were photographed more than others, especially if those were the children of the organisers, but as someone pointed out, the organisers are mostly all volunteers doing it in their spare time.

You can't capture every memory on camera, and if you did you wouldn't have time to look at the photos anyway, there would be far too many of them. Most of us don't have loads of photos from childhood.

As long as you have photos from family based events, holidays etc., I wouldn't worry about not having a photo from a primary school prom.