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Wedding make up too early - bridesmaid dilemma

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saminamama · 04/07/2026 06:24

Being bridesmaid for a dear friend of 12 years

of 6 bridesmaids 2 of us are staying in the hotel.
it is the first night with my DH away from both children during a really stressful phase in our life financially (youngest is 10 months old) and so booked the hotel of the wedding (I paid for this)

when I agreed to have makeup done (me to pay for this - £60) I didn’t realise I would be put on the very first slot - 7am. The maid of honor is in hair at this time because she also booked the hotel, but some of the other bridesmaids aren’t getting anything done until 9 or even 10am!

i have asked the bride to cancel but she has said no it’s too late I still need to pay,

so I’m still going to have to pay

so because I have booked ‘the hotel’ I have ended up pulling the short straw if I was in the premier inn up the road it would have been fine

aibu - get the makeup done and crack on at 7am
yanbu - pay and don’t get the makeup done value sleep instead

OP posts:
shitshow1976 · 04/07/2026 06:42

Good morning op, you're obviously wide awake. Go get your make up done!
I would see it as massive treat especially if things are rough financially. I've never had my make up done professionally.
Go and enjoy the experience and look fabulous!
Have an amazing day, you'll sleep well tonight!

MimiSunshine · 04/07/2026 06:41

6 bridesmaids plus bride. The make up artist will definitely be busy the whole morning but with that number it was always going to be an early start and someone has to go first I’m afraid.

also what time were you planning on sleeping in until that day?

you can wake up at 06:30, have a quick shower and be in the chair by 7am. You can go to bed at a decent time and have 8-9 hours sleep.

Honeyhonayboo · 04/07/2026 06:41

Well someone needs to be first and you’re not the only one.
You’re making a bit of an unnecessary drama over this, your night away from your kids is irrelevant. It’s one day, what’s wrong with just sucking it up for your friend?

user1497787065 · 04/07/2026 06:38

Is The problem that you think your make up won’t last or you need to get up early. My DD had the first slot for make up as a bridesmaid for her friend and it was 5.30am. At least you can look fab at breakfast!

SweetnsourNZ · 04/07/2026 06:28

If you really can't get out of getting your make-up done early have a chat with the makeup artist. They should be able to give you tips for the day and maybe even have some samples for touch ups. Professional makeup should last well into the day anyway especially with the modern long lasting formulas.

TheHungryHungryLandsharks · 04/07/2026 06:28

It’s 7am and your ‘dear friends wedding.’

Not 3am and someone you barely know.

7am is hardly early and I doubt the makeup artist is going to be sitting around between 7:30 and 9 waiting for others to arrive. Stop causing bride another headache (there’s almost certainly more than enough causing her stress already), smile and suck it up.