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How can I divide my estate fairly between daughters and grandchildren?

479 replies

Ilikesundays · 03/07/2026 22:15

Would really appreciate your views! I’m in my 80s and have three dds and 7 gcs. All are over 20. Two dds are married: one has 3 DCs and one has 4. Youngest dd is unmarried and has no children. I want to make my will and be fair to all of them. I was thinking of leaving all my property (f/h house, no mortgage in London + fairly substantial savings) to the gcs + the unmarried dd and nothing to the two married DDs. But on reflection this seems very harsh and unfair to them . How would you manage it? They are all working, bar two gcs who are still studying p/g.

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 03/07/2026 22:17

You need to leave money to all three daughters equally and they can pass onto their own children as they wish. Imagine if you died tomorrow and then the children daughter have five babies later.
this is the only fair way

PurpleLovecats · 03/07/2026 22:17

I would divide it in 4. A third to each dd and a third shared between the grandchildren.

MaeveK · 03/07/2026 22:17

To avoid potential conflict between your children when you are gone, I would split it equally. Split it 10 ways equally and leave it at that.

FullLondonEye · 03/07/2026 22:17

Divide equally between all. Trying to decide what would be equitable instead of equal will only end up alienating some.