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Decoy Wedding?!

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 03/07/2026 19:32

Apologies I haven't gone through any individual topic to see if there are threads.

But with all the shit in the world going on, and true escapism is anyone else thoroughly excited about the "potential" TS/TK nuptials?

I find I'm far too invested! Pathetic to be so interested? Very possibly but I don't care!

Again apologies if there's already something going... If there is can someone share!

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mydogisthebest · 04/07/2026 12:41

She can spend as much money as she wants but personally I never see the point of big showoff tacky weddings. It is meant to be about getting married to someone you love, someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Lets hope their marriage is more successful than most celebrity marriages

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 12:39

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 12:27

I wonder if the parents did. Why is vacuous celeb culture the basis of a lesson for children of that age? I think that is terrible.

Yeah imagining using current interesting events to help childrens’s education urgh 🤣

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 12:34

mtobrokeme · 04/07/2026 07:37

As a parent, I actually would like that. She’s taught a phonics lesson, on something the children she’s teaching will find fun and relevant to their interests, particularly little girls. I would imagine most parents would, being that the majority are not fun sponges and find misery in every little thing.

OP, I don’t like TS particularly, her music isn’t my bag, but I’ll enjoy a look at her dress and guest outfits!

At the age of, what, 5???

It’s not about being fun sponges. Five year olds being taught in school about celeb culture is odd, no?

QuintadosMalvados · 04/07/2026 12:31

BusyExpert · 04/07/2026 00:41

i could not be less interested.

This reminds me of the time I went on a long journey with my dh and his sister and her husband.

Really unexpectedly, as she's a bit of a strait laced bluestocking whose intellect is far greater than mine, she pipes up how much she admires Taylor Swift and how much she is a great role model etc.

I don't think she expected the two men in the car to reply so the onus was on me to say something in agreement but I was honestly speechless as I'd never expected her to say this and I don't give a shiny whatsit about Taylor Swift.

I was also too knackered to even say 'yeah she's OK.'

Cue a few moments of awkward silence.

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 12:27

LettingItAllHangOut · 04/07/2026 03:08

I’m not really a TS fan myself, but as a retired teacher I think this is a fun idea for a lesson. 😊

I wonder if the parents did. Why is vacuous celeb culture the basis of a lesson for children of that age? I think that is terrible.

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 12:26

JoyousWriter · 04/07/2026 12:22

Who?

Weddings are so boring.

🥇

That’s a token of our appreciation for your interest in only lofty and esoteric matters. 👏👏👏

DeathBanana · 04/07/2026 12:22

sweatervest · 03/07/2026 21:18

i am deeply invested too.
told a year 1 class that taylor is getting married tomorrow.
then we spent a phonics lesson thinking of words with /ay/ or /or/ in them.

year 1 class were almost invested. i was neck-deep in invested-ment.

I got my job by doing my interview presentation on Swiftenomics 🤣

JoyousWriter · 04/07/2026 12:22

Who?

Weddings are so boring.

MajorSamanthaCarter · 04/07/2026 12:12

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 11:55

Yeah they really need the money 🙄

Off a DVD? Is this 1993?

Surely the big money is made off VHS tapes!?

Everlore · 04/07/2026 12:00

My husband and I are both devoted Swifties, as are many of our friends, we have all been over-invested in the TS and TK love story and far too excited about the wedding of two strangers. I know it's a bit pathetic, but TS is a major part of our lives and I am glad to find we're not alone!
I also thought MSG may have been a decoy but it's looking quite convincing. I was hoping for a private ceremony at Holiday House, that would have been so romantic.
I do realise that none of this is my business but I am still far too excited about this wedding. I wish them both all the best, I feel like I have been through so many of TS'heartbreaks with her, thanks to her extraordinary music, that I hope she is finally going to get her happy ending. The Tortured Poets Department is my favourite TS album, I like The Life Of A Showgirl, but it is not in the same league as the four albums which preceded it, especially TTPD, but TLOAS seems to be a happy, loved-up album where as TTPD was very much an album of doomed love and melancholy. So, even though TLOAS can't compare to TTPD, I wouldn't want TS to stay sad just so she could write another album like it.

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 11:55

Yeah they really need the money 🙄

Off a DVD? Is this 1993?

Cailin66 · 04/07/2026 11:52

I get wanting privacy, I don’t get an awful city like NY in an awful venue MSG. No matter what they do inside MSG it’s not in any way a lovely place.

Why not a lovely castle, beach place, other country or island with a no fly zone.

I suppose this is all to make money off a dvd. Swift is a brilliant business woman, an ok songwriter. She seems nice. Hope they’ve a happy marriage and dying to see the dress …

user233675892 · 04/07/2026 11:49

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 10:14

This is where i thought she'd marry. I can just imagine the fresh sea breeze, as opposed to the fumes in Manhattan. It has five acres of land, so plenty of room for a marquee! I do wonder if Mr. Meat-head was behind the MSG thing.

The entire thing would have been drowned out by hundreds of helicopters and drones, the water in front would have been filled with long lens paparazzo jostling for space. The disruption to the neighbours would have been horrendous.

MSG has flight restrictions imposed all the time. You can't restrict airspace over a private residence.

SoScarletItWas · 04/07/2026 11:47

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 11:23

Why is wasted? She’s a multi billionaire. It’s their money to spend how they like.
The money will have paid people to provide goods and services. Why is that a bad thing?

They’ve also donated millions to charity.

Exactly. Woman uses her talent and hard work to become a billionaire, donates shitloads to charity all over the world, gives her crew life-changing amounts in bonuses, pulls off a commercial masterstroke to regain her masters which creates a system for other artists to benefit from and people are STILL finding things to froth about 🤷‍♀️

user233675892 · 04/07/2026 11:39

SoScarletItWas · 04/07/2026 06:30

I wouldn’t call it a decoy. I’d call it the ‘public’ version (by which I mean the massive celebration with all their celebrity guests) of a small and private marriage ceremony that’s already taken place.

I read that there’s no application for a marriage license in MSG filed on this date, so whatever they’re doing inside it isn’t the official stuff.

Agree with PP that MSG was ideal to avoid the drones, helicopters etc. And NYC can deal with the disruption caused by an influx of paparazzi and required security in a way that a small rural town near a ranch could not.

Personally I’m more interested in her music than her life (but I’ve said on the LOAS thread that I did not need a song about his dick). I am interested in her frock!

I agree with your general sentiment about them, the wedding and why MSG makes some sense.

I read that there’s no application for a marriage license in MSG filed on this date, so whatever they’re doing inside it isn’t the official stuff.

But as a New Yorker, who was married in NYC, the date, time and location are filled out by the officiant or clerk after the wedding.

Re road closures - they get closed all the time for all kinds of things. No biggie.

ClinkeyMonkey · 04/07/2026 11:25

Christ. The thread title kept coming to my attention on Active. I avoided it because, even though I had no idea who or what it was about, I instinctively knew it would irritate the hell out of me. Why did I cave?🤣

tinaabbot · 04/07/2026 11:24

Bagwyllydiart · 04/07/2026 07:16

I have a habit of drunk posting (I know), but thank you for the explanation. I will Google the names and discover who they are.

Never heard of Taylor Swift? Come on, did you arrive from space an hour ago and just discovered google? Wait until you hear about Donald Trump 😆

the80sweregreat · 04/07/2026 11:23

Yep, they seem very aware of their privilege and give loads to charity.

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 11:23

KrazyKatty · 04/07/2026 11:18

I’ve heard of her, not of him and I couldn’t tell you a single song she’s written. I do think the money wasted on this ridiculous event is utterly obscene. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why is wasted? She’s a multi billionaire. It’s their money to spend how they like.
The money will have paid people to provide goods and services. Why is that a bad thing?

They’ve also donated millions to charity.

dottiedodah · 04/07/2026 11:22

The80sweregreat They have given 20m dollars of their own money to charity .Iike TS very much and feel she is a genuinely good person

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 11:22

But it’s their money to spend 🤷‍♀️ and now it’s gone back into the economy instead of sitting in a bank account.

They also donated £26 million to various charities. The obscenity!

KrazyKatty · 04/07/2026 11:18

I’ve heard of her, not of him and I couldn’t tell you a single song she’s written. I do think the money wasted on this ridiculous event is utterly obscene. 🤷🏻‍♀️

RocksByThePool · 04/07/2026 11:06

It does make sense as a venue for both of them. She lives in New York. They have both spoken about the shared fact of playing in large arenas for their jobs. They can control the space and security in that venue. An outdoor/farm/beach wedding would have potentially had drones/helicopters/long range cameras trying to catch it from the media or anywhere, even with top security.

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 11:04

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 10:52

AND, she wore this to someone else's wedding! I've got Dennis Waterman's voice in my head, going "Classy biiird!" 🤣

At least her privates were covered I guess?

Pistacheeo · 04/07/2026 10:59

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 10:35

Could they close the airspace? I’ve no idea. But in the event that a helicopter chooses to breach it, what’s gonna happen, the military shoots it down?

SO romantic 🤣🤣🤣

It's giving Ride of the Valkyries.

MSG is positively quaint in comparison to what could have happened at a public venue.

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