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Decoy Wedding?!

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 03/07/2026 19:32

Apologies I haven't gone through any individual topic to see if there are threads.

But with all the shit in the world going on, and true escapism is anyone else thoroughly excited about the "potential" TS/TK nuptials?

I find I'm far too invested! Pathetic to be so interested? Very possibly but I don't care!

Again apologies if there's already something going... If there is can someone share!

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MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 15:30

QuintadosMalvados · 04/07/2026 15:27

Not in my case it isn't. I direct the word vacuous towards male pop stars, too.

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Your post was dripping in misogyny.

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 15:29

QuintadosMalvados · 04/07/2026 15:22

I direct the word vacuous towards music by male pop stars, too.

Take That- vacuous.
George Ezra - vacuous.
Ed Sheeran - vacuous.

None of them are King Crimson.

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Do you criticise other women for being a fan on any of these people?
Do you comment on the fact that they’ve written/performed songs about relationships?
Do you comment on what they wear?

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · 04/07/2026 15:29

QuintadosMalvados · 04/07/2026 15:13

I totally agree. While I am neutral about her (TS) she is like a weird non-sexual crush for older women.
I mean nobody could deny she has business sense and that's to be praised but so do a lot of famous women.
Where's the admiration for them?

The rest is vacuous pop songs about exes which she seems to perform half-naked.

Never mind I suppose this whole spectacle will be good for the inevitable divorce album.
Which I won't be buying as I'm not 12.

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How ignorant and arrogant do you have to be to post that someone with a catalogue of close to 300 songs on topics as wide ranging as cancer, miscarriage, Shakespeare, mental health and ancient mythology only writes songs about their exes? Maybe for your next pompous soliloquy you can fill us all on on a book you've never bothered to read.

QuintadosMalvados · 04/07/2026 15:27

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 15:23

Pure misogyny.

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Not in my case it isn't. I direct the word vacuous towards male pop stars, too.

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 15:25

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 15:22

I suppose it’s never too early to influence small children. I think it’s a little depressing that celeb culture is so invasive now.

I remember liking pop music but not being invested in the actual stars at that age.

But being AUDHD (undiagnosed til middle age) I would have been mightily pissed off at the assumption that everyone was interested in something like this.

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It’s also good to teach children that the world doesn’t revolve around them. A lesson based on something that isn’t specifically link to your interests won’t kill you.

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 15:23

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 15:18

Vacuous = a criticism never ever levelled at a man.

Pure misogyny.

QuintadosMalvados · 04/07/2026 15:22

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 15:18

Vacuous = a criticism never ever levelled at a man.

I direct the word vacuous towards music by male pop stars, too.

Take That- vacuous.
George Ezra - vacuous.
Ed Sheeran - vacuous.

None of them are King Crimson.

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 15:22

RocksByThePool · 04/07/2026 13:04

There were some little girls who went to a Taylor Swift dance party. We all know what happened there. It is not 'vacuous celebrity culture' it is music/dancing/time with friends. I agree there is a balance to get right with age and how it is explored/taught - like Barbie, influencers, smartphones, anything else that carries loyalty as a brand.

Of course they will know about her and want to dance to her songs like I did to the Spice Girls. I remember the interest when it was David and Victoria.

I suppose it’s never too early to influence small children. I think it’s a little depressing that celeb culture is so invasive now.

I remember liking pop music but not being invested in the actual stars at that age.

But being AUDHD (undiagnosed til middle age) I would have been mightily pissed off at the assumption that everyone was interested in something like this.

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 15:22

QuintadosMalvados · 04/07/2026 15:13

I totally agree. While I am neutral about her (TS) she is like a weird non-sexual crush for older women.
I mean nobody could deny she has business sense and that's to be praised but so do a lot of famous women.
Where's the admiration for them?

The rest is vacuous pop songs about exes which she seems to perform half-naked.

Never mind I suppose this whole spectacle will be good for the inevitable divorce album.
Which I won't be buying as I'm not 12.

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Do you feel better having posted this?

I have to wonder what makes an adult comment on something that doesn’t interest them just to have a sly dig at people who are interested in that topic. It’s just nasty.

What happened to scrolling on by and spending time on your actual interests?

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 15:18

Vacuous = a criticism never ever levelled at a man.

QuintadosMalvados · 04/07/2026 15:13

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 15:01

She is no more significant than any other popular pop star.

Her wedding - not remotely significant

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I totally agree. While I am neutral about her (TS) she is like a weird non-sexual crush for older women.
I mean nobody could deny she has business sense and that's to be praised but so do a lot of famous women.
Where's the admiration for them?

The rest is vacuous pop songs about exes which she seems to perform half-naked.

Never mind I suppose this whole spectacle will be good for the inevitable divorce album.
Which I won't be buying as I'm not 12.

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 15:06

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 15:01

She is no more significant than any other popular pop star.

Her wedding - not remotely significant

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Yet here you are, spending your weekend commenting on a wedding and a person who is apparently completely insignificant to you.

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 15:01

PanickingOnASunday · 04/07/2026 14:18

You just sound a bit sad to be honest. Love or hate her she is historically significant. Sorry you can't cope with that.

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She is no more significant than any other popular pop star.

Her wedding - not remotely significant

PanickingOnASunday · 04/07/2026 14:21

KrazyKatty · 04/07/2026 11:18

I’ve heard of her, not of him and I couldn’t tell you a single song she’s written. I do think the money wasted on this ridiculous event is utterly obscene. 🤷🏻‍♀️

They've just given $26m to charity though?

You also have no idea how much her wedding cost. What's it got to do with you?

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 14:19

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 14:12

She doesn't have a crown!

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👏👏
That was theme tune to our living room discos during lockdown. In our house if someone needs to calm down we say ‘ you need to Taylor Swift’. 😂

PanickingOnASunday · 04/07/2026 14:18

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 12:43

Hardly historically or culturally significant events. In fact hardly an event.

As for ‘interesting’ - it’s a wedding between a pop star and a guy that most people in the world would never have heard of if he wasn’t with her.

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You just sound a bit sad to be honest. Love or hate her she is historically significant. Sorry you can't cope with that.

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 14:12

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 12:55

Why are you so bitter and angry?

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She doesn't have a crown!

Decoy Wedding?!
RocksByThePool · 04/07/2026 13:04

There were some little girls who went to a Taylor Swift dance party. We all know what happened there. It is not 'vacuous celebrity culture' it is music/dancing/time with friends. I agree there is a balance to get right with age and how it is explored/taught - like Barbie, influencers, smartphones, anything else that carries loyalty as a brand.

Of course they will know about her and want to dance to her songs like I did to the Spice Girls. I remember the interest when it was David and Victoria.

Notonthestairs · 04/07/2026 13:02

JoyousWriter · 04/07/2026 12:22

Who?

Weddings are so boring.

Not so joyous after all.

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 12:55

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 12:43

Hardly historically or culturally significant events. In fact hardly an event.

As for ‘interesting’ - it’s a wedding between a pop star and a guy that most people in the world would never have heard of if he wasn’t with her.

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Why are you so bitter and angry?

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 12:48

mydogisthebest · 04/07/2026 12:41

She can spend as much money as she wants but personally I never see the point of big showoff tacky weddings. It is meant to be about getting married to someone you love, someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Lets hope their marriage is more successful than most celebrity marriages

does every additional guest mean it’s less real?

Whats the tipping point? Is 100 ok? 200? 500 and it’s never gonna last? What if you just know a lot of people and want to share your happiness with them?

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 12:48

SoScarletItWas · 04/07/2026 11:47

Exactly. Woman uses her talent and hard work to become a billionaire, donates shitloads to charity all over the world, gives her crew life-changing amounts in bonuses, pulls off a commercial masterstroke to regain her masters which creates a system for other artists to benefit from and people are STILL finding things to froth about 🤷‍♀️

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The internalised misogyny is there for all to see. Sad that some people still struggle with a women being super successful.

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 12:47

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 12:43

Hardly historically or culturally significant events. In fact hardly an event.

As for ‘interesting’ - it’s a wedding between a pop star and a guy that most people in the world would never have heard of if he wasn’t with her.

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Oh shurruuupp. Honestly. Lots of kids love Taylor Swift.

They’ve not learned to be a massive jaded judgemental bore quite yet.

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 12:46

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 12:27

I wonder if the parents did. Why is vacuous celeb culture the basis of a lesson for children of that age? I think that is terrible.

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You’re not a teacher are you?

It’s clear she wasn’t teaching the children about Taylor Swift as a person or a celebrity. She used it as the theme for teaching phonics. It’s an example of good practice in my opinion. Using popular culture as a hook is a good idea.
As an eduction professional, governor and parent of a primary school child I’d be more than happy with this approach.

During the eras tour a school I work with used words from her songs as a theme ‘words of the day’ when working on vocabulary.

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 12:43

FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 12:39

Yeah imagining using current interesting events to help childrens’s education urgh 🤣

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Hardly historically or culturally significant events. In fact hardly an event.

As for ‘interesting’ - it’s a wedding between a pop star and a guy that most people in the world would never have heard of if he wasn’t with her.