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Decoy Wedding?!

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 03/07/2026 19:32

Apologies I haven't gone through any individual topic to see if there are threads.

But with all the shit in the world going on, and true escapism is anyone else thoroughly excited about the "potential" TS/TK nuptials?

I find I'm far too invested! Pathetic to be so interested? Very possibly but I don't care!

Again apologies if there's already something going... If there is can someone share!

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DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 10:20

RoundedRobin · 04/07/2026 10:12

I don't understand the attitude that it's wasteful to spend £20+ million on an event. It's not like they set fire to a pile of cash. The money hasn't ceased to exist. It's better for others if wealthy people spend their money not hoard it.

Multiple businesses have received income, ordinary people have been paid, florists, security guards, waiting staff, cleaners etc. That money is flowing into the economy rather than sitting making more and more money for already super rich people.

And they're probably getting paid double or triple time since it's taking place over a big US holiday weekend! Als Swift is known for having out nice bonuses to staff.

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 10:19

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 10:12

Yep, she earned it all herself, with talent and hard work.

Well, not quite. She manipulated fans with the “re-recordings” to tank the value of her masters, purchased the masters back and that rocketed her net worth - a long planned venture.

hahabahbag · 04/07/2026 10:19

it may not be to everyone’s taste - I prefer weddings in churches (or your place of worship) and less showy but the amount they spent will be trickling down all the suppliers, those working the event and overtime for nypd. They also made charitable donations roughly equal to the spend on top and said no gifts, give money to charity .. fair play to them, I don’t know about his background but she is mega wealthy by her talent and hard work, her family are pretty comfortable, but she achieved this herself.

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 10:18

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 10:12

Yep, she earned it all herself, with talent and hard work.

I really don’t understand why she gets so much hate.
There are plenty of artists who I don’t particularly like but I don’t feel the need to be so actively vitriolic or public about that dislike.
I listen to something else, I don’t read stories about them and I live my life.

There’s something very pathetic about people who make such a big deal about a person they apparently have no interest in.

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 10:16

Dawnintheageofaquariams · 04/07/2026 10:15

Name a wedding that isn't.

Dua Lipa’s wedding was gorgeous!

canklesmctacotits · 04/07/2026 10:15

I’m not so sure about the “young” and “role model” monikers. She’s 36. Same age as AOC, older than Zohran Mamdani. Well - 36, is 36.

And whilst she has an incredible work ethic and is top of her league professionally, I wouldn’t want my DD to look up to her for anything other than her professional commitment and drive.

As for MSG, I’ve been to various things there and “wedding venue” isn’t what springs to mind. They will have made it feel intimate and not arena-like (probably built a hall inside, it’s not like they will have kept the seats and jumbotron visible in thinking), but the neighbourhood is a bit Confused . Then again, maintaining privacy and having enough nice hotel rooms and drivers and MUAs and tailors etc for 1,000 people will have limited their choices.

Good luck to them. Hope they have a long and happy marriage.

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 10:15

CruCru · 04/07/2026 10:11

Do you think they had to stand and greet all 1000 guests?

Walking down a huge corridor shaking hands and cheek kissing would take the afternoon!

There must be only so many times you can hear "congratulations, you look lovely" without getting fed up of it. 🤣

I hope they have lots of large mantlepiece to display their cards!

Dawnintheageofaquariams · 04/07/2026 10:15

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 08:54

A very tacky affair all around 😬

Name a wedding that isn't.

vguil · 04/07/2026 10:14

I’m glad she spent a fortune on her wedding. She’s an absolute force of nature superstar who works her ass off. Eras tour was a gigantic feat. She deserves every good thing that comes her way.

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 10:14

This is where i thought she'd marry. I can just imagine the fresh sea breeze, as opposed to the fumes in Manhattan. It has five acres of land, so plenty of room for a marquee! I do wonder if Mr. Meat-head was behind the MSG thing.

Decoy Wedding?!
FloodlightsOnTheSquare · 04/07/2026 10:12

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 08:54

A very tacky affair all around 😬

Why is it tacky?

They can afford a huge celebration and invite everyone they know.

Is it tacky to have a big happy party? Since when?

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 10:12

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 10:11

True! Fair play to her.

I guess it will always bring out the miserable jealous people.

Yep, she earned it all herself, with talent and hard work.

RoundedRobin · 04/07/2026 10:12

estrogone · 03/07/2026 22:51

Two things can be true at the same time. Here's a thought - donate the 26m and DONT be a showy, wasteful, cant read the room in a time of social and environmental crises couple.

Use that fame and wealth to do it better.

I don't understand the attitude that it's wasteful to spend £20+ million on an event. It's not like they set fire to a pile of cash. The money hasn't ceased to exist. It's better for others if wealthy people spend their money not hoard it.

Multiple businesses have received income, ordinary people have been paid, florists, security guards, waiting staff, cleaners etc. That money is flowing into the economy rather than sitting making more and more money for already super rich people.

CruCru · 04/07/2026 10:11

Do you think they had to stand and greet all 1000 guests?

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 10:11

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 10:07

A multi-billionaire, at that!

True! Fair play to her.

I guess it will always bring out the miserable jealous people.

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 10:10

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 09:58

Yes, it does. Because you don’t need to invite the whole team.

It’s a disgusting, tacky display of wealth.

If you had some sort of event to celebrate your wedding and didn't have to invite people you'd rather not purely to avoid drama then you are lucky. Many people have to invite people they don't want to, just to avoid grief and falling out.

You know as well as I do that sonehow the guest list will be released or worked out. If TK didn't invite his coach for instance, gossip papers would claim he was "snubbed" and make up some big argument they had or run stories about how they hate each other. That would be embarrassing for the coach and make TK look bad because it's not like he can blame "budget or venue constrants" for not inviting him.

With weddings like this there are often poltical/business invites too.

Plus, as I said, maybe they just wanted a big wedding. Lots of people do.

My wedding had 40 people and we have a very small family and social circle and didn't invite any work colleagues. It's easy to see how someone with lots of people around them has to upscale that significantly.

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 10:09

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 01:47

If there were no cameras/security then they wouldn’t be making ridiculous amounts of money from limited talents.

Why so salty? Do their actions impact you in anyway?

If you’re not interested then move on.

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 10:07

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 10:02

Seriously, you sound unhinged and jealous. She’s literally a billionaire. She can do whatever the fuck she wants for her wedding.

You obviously hate her so why are you investing so much time and energy on discussing her? Weird.

A multi-billionaire, at that!

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 10:06

@thingsarefine I'm sure the way they decorated it isn't tacky. Her concerts weren't tacky. She made the stadiums look incredible.

I know what you mean. It's a lot bigger and flashier than I expected. I really thought she would have a huge marquee on the lawn at her beautiful seaside home with a few hundred guests. It's a couple of hundred miles up the coast in Rhode Island. It's on a clifftop and is a beautiful setting. Plus NY - fumes, yuck. RI would definitely have been a classier affair and much more what I'd have expected from her.

Travis is the sports star and a beer-swilling jack-the-lad. Perhaps it's HIM who wanted MSG?

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 10:02

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 09:58

Yes, it does. Because you don’t need to invite the whole team.

It’s a disgusting, tacky display of wealth.

Seriously, you sound unhinged and jealous. She’s literally a billionaire. She can do whatever the fuck she wants for her wedding.

You obviously hate her so why are you investing so much time and energy on discussing her? Weird.

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 10:01

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 09:58

Yes, it does. Because you don’t need to invite the whole team.

It’s a disgusting, tacky display of wealth.

But when you're so famous and have so many people surrounding you, there's a huge chance of people getting offended if they don't get invited. I think a thousand is actually quite restrained, given how many people they must know between them.

MickyMoonshine · 04/07/2026 10:00

@thingsarefinehave you got a bet with someone as to how many times you can write the word tacky? 😂

It’s making you sound a little too invested. Who cares anyway? If you’re not a fan then move on, read a book or something.

DimwittedSkater · 04/07/2026 09:59

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 09:42

Aw, such a big heart to be a billionaire!

Give over. She wanted the spectacle, and that’s fine, but it was tacky as hell.

She donates countless millions, you know.

MSG and such a huge bash wouldn't be my cup of tea. But we are all different. Having played so many massive stadiums, perhaps it doesn't seem that huge to her. It seats about 18,000, depending on the type of event. Contrast that with Wembley, which is 90,000. Many of her Eras venues were 68-72,000. MSG is practically miniature compared to that! 🤣

And she could have made a lot more money if she hadn't turned off the surge pricing for her concerts.

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 09:58

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 09:53

For example, in an American Football team has 53 players plus coaches, physios etc (according to Google). In a normal workplace you could just invite your immediate team but let's be honest, if they invited half of the team then there would be drama made about those they didn't invite and ig falling outs would be fabricated so it's probably easier just to invite everyone.

So with coaches etc round it up to 100. Add in partners and that makes 200 people just for his work colleagues. Suddenly 1000+ people doesn't seem excessive does it?

Plus, lots of people here have/want big weddings but presumably don't have such a big social circle or need to worry about politics quite as much as these 2.

And how very dare they want their wedding ti be about them and make a fuss?

Yes, it does. Because you don’t need to invite the whole team.

It’s a disgusting, tacky display of wealth.

VerifiedAccount · 04/07/2026 09:56

thingsarefine · 04/07/2026 09:45

Okay. I guess I don’t feel the need to sit and defend a billionaire online all day, because someone dared to think her choices were tacky.

And yet you bought it up.

As I said earlier, she gets so much grief that seems really unfair.

Plus I'm trying to put off doing sonething I really don't want to do.