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AIBU to be angry about primary school iPads without parent consultation?

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Doormouse79 · 03/07/2026 12:29

AIBU to be furious that our primary school trust pushed through iPads for Year 3/4 without engaging with parents?

Posting because I’m honestly so frustrated and I’d really appreciate some advice from other parents.
My child is at a Surrey school within Xavier Catholic Education Trust. The Trust has rolled out a 1:1 iPad scheme for Year 3 and Year 4 children: so we’re talking about 7, 8 and 9-year-olds, not teenagers.
The issue isn’t that I’m anti-technology. I’m really not. I understand schools use iPads and apps now. But this feels like a huge change to the way young children are being taught, and it seems to have been pushed through before parents were properly asked, informed or listened to. The Trust seems heavily involved with a Hong Kong-based/ international venture-capital backed company who appear to be developing their products based on our children's data. That's not necessarily suspect or wrong, but shouldn't we be entitled to explanations? Surely this cannot be right?
A large group of parents (around 40 across the three year groups) raised concerns. These weren’t just people moaning about screen time. Parents asked reasonable questions like:

  1. Are iPads really needed every day for children this young?
  2. What is the educational benefit?
  3. How much screen time are they actually getting?
  4. What happens to the children’s work and information once it’s uploaded?
  5. Where is the children's data going and being stored in the world?
  6. Who can see what they’re doing?
  7. What checks were done before this was introduced?
  8. Can parents opt out or have an alternative? (We have been told NO).

Instead of being properly engaged with, parents feel we’ve been fobbed off.
Requests for a proper meeting were declined. We’ve had generic reassurances and glossy-sounding explanations, but not clear answers to the actual questions being asked.
One of the things that really bothers me is that, as far as we’ve been told, there wasn’t a proper written risk assessment (a "Data Protection Impact Assessment") done before this was rolled out. Given this involves young children using iPads, school apps, online platforms, stored schoolwork and teacher monitoring, I find that hard to understand.
There is also apparently a system where teachers can monitor what pupils are doing on the iPads in real time. I’m not saying teachers shouldn’t supervise children — of course they should. But surely parents are entitled to know exactly how this works, what the limits are, and what safeguards are in place?
Another thing that feels uncomfortable is that staff from the Trust seem to have been involved in presenting alongside Goodnotes / EdTech projects connected with the sort of technology now being used in classrooms. Maybe that’s all perfectly above board, but if the Trust is that closely involved with promoting this kind of thing, shouldn’t they be extra careful to show parents that they’ve properly and independently checked whether it’s right for our children?
What’s also maddening is that this scheme was apparently still “in development” when introduced, and there didn’t seem to be solid evidence yet that it actually improves learning for children this young. Yet it has still been pushed ahead and expanded.
Parents haven’t been offered any meaningful alternative either. So in practice, it feels compulsory. You either go along with it or your child risks being the odd one out.
The tone from the Trust has really upset people too. Rather than treating parents as people with legitimate concerns about their children, the response has felt defensive and dismissive, almost as though we are being awkward for asking basic questions.
I just don’t think this is good enough.
This is about young children. It’s about how they learn, how much time they spend on screens, what happens to their schoolwork and personal information, and whether parents are being respected.
AIBU to think a school trust should not be rolling out something this significant without proper consultation, clear answers and proper checks first?
Has anyone else challenged an academy trust over something like this? Where would you go next — governors, the Trust board, the Diocese, ICO, Ofsted, MP?
I don’t want to be labelled “that parent”, but I also don’t think parents should be expected to just shut up and trust the system when the system won’t answer straightforward questions.
Would you escalate this formally? And where would you start?

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DecoratingDiva · 03/07/2026 19:06

Realistically it is very difficult to challenge an academy over this kind of thing. You should have a local board for your school but they are likely to have the role of implementing the decisions made by the academy chain board.

There should be a published complaints policy on the school website so check that and see what it says to do. Usual process is complain to Headteacher, then local governing body, then trust board, then DfE. You also need to be clear about whether you are complaining about Operational or Governance issues as they can be handled differently (I would think in this case it is a failure of governance).

Noodles1234 · 03/07/2026 19:02

In some ways I am all for tech in lessons, kids are way more engaged with tech and it gives a way more visual learning experience which does seem to knit into their memories more.

However, if anyone has seen the Hugh Grant clip I am anti bung them an iPad generation of learning. I am with you, just seems too casual when it is all the time.

Switcher · 03/07/2026 19:00

ECGG · 03/07/2026 17:30

Your child is being prepared to enter a digitally driven workforce. They need to learn to use technology properly and appropriately. I find it a little odd that my DC uses books at school and we only get to see it at parents evening. I think you have 2 choices either embrace this, it's the future or pop on your tinfoil hat and move schools.

No they don't. They learn tech every bloody minute of the day. It's like saying they need to learn video games.

busymomtoone · 03/07/2026 18:51

This is a really tricky one and as I work in a school with iPads I’ll try and be fair. Huge reservations initially for obvious reasons others have stated - however:
For EAL children the iPad can translate ( we simply don’t have enough staff to do that)
Schools no longer have enough budgets to buy books to keep up with ever continually changing curriculum demands - so books can be photographed for comprehension and each child can have “ their own”
Children are ( some might say overly) familiar and comfortable with technology- so they are happier and more motivated to do spelling games, times tables etc on there
Work ( that has been WRITTEN in a book) can be photographed and sent home immediately, ditto homework, which saves the endless taking home and forgetting books / waiting for parents evening to catch up with what’s going on in the curriculum.
Children can have access to ( controlled) links ( eg kids geographic etc) which they can access at their own pace rather than only one screenshot on a board. This caters for different abilities/ different paces of learning.
There are many benefits to iPads , but I agree there are also disadvantages- it’s a very different system to 10 years ago.
However if it’s any consolation at all - the teacher’s iPad can also see what any child is doing on the tablet at any given moment; and the controls are 10x as strict as the strongest home controls ( other than a blanket non usage!)

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 03/07/2026 18:51

When my DD and her DH were looking at secondary schools for their DC they specifically discounted schools which were using ipads. Her DH works in tech and is definitely against it being used by children. Parents can talk with their feet!

Switcher · 03/07/2026 18:49

Try 5 year olds. Our children's trust introduced them all the way through from reception onwards. My three kids can all barely write. Maybe they're all dyslexic. Who knows.

Rachie1974 · 03/07/2026 18:44

Friend of mine went to view a local school for her youngest that our now Yr12 kids attended previously,they proudly showed off their Yr1 kids all sat using iPads, she turned around and left! Shame because otherwise it's a really good school.

AlwaysGotAnOpinion · 03/07/2026 18:25

Doormouse79 · 03/07/2026 12:29

AIBU to be furious that our primary school trust pushed through iPads for Year 3/4 without engaging with parents?

Posting because I’m honestly so frustrated and I’d really appreciate some advice from other parents.
My child is at a Surrey school within Xavier Catholic Education Trust. The Trust has rolled out a 1:1 iPad scheme for Year 3 and Year 4 children: so we’re talking about 7, 8 and 9-year-olds, not teenagers.
The issue isn’t that I’m anti-technology. I’m really not. I understand schools use iPads and apps now. But this feels like a huge change to the way young children are being taught, and it seems to have been pushed through before parents were properly asked, informed or listened to. The Trust seems heavily involved with a Hong Kong-based/ international venture-capital backed company who appear to be developing their products based on our children's data. That's not necessarily suspect or wrong, but shouldn't we be entitled to explanations? Surely this cannot be right?
A large group of parents (around 40 across the three year groups) raised concerns. These weren’t just people moaning about screen time. Parents asked reasonable questions like:

  1. Are iPads really needed every day for children this young?
  2. What is the educational benefit?
  3. How much screen time are they actually getting?
  4. What happens to the children’s work and information once it’s uploaded?
  5. Where is the children's data going and being stored in the world?
  6. Who can see what they’re doing?
  7. What checks were done before this was introduced?
  8. Can parents opt out or have an alternative? (We have been told NO).

Instead of being properly engaged with, parents feel we’ve been fobbed off.
Requests for a proper meeting were declined. We’ve had generic reassurances and glossy-sounding explanations, but not clear answers to the actual questions being asked.
One of the things that really bothers me is that, as far as we’ve been told, there wasn’t a proper written risk assessment (a "Data Protection Impact Assessment") done before this was rolled out. Given this involves young children using iPads, school apps, online platforms, stored schoolwork and teacher monitoring, I find that hard to understand.
There is also apparently a system where teachers can monitor what pupils are doing on the iPads in real time. I’m not saying teachers shouldn’t supervise children — of course they should. But surely parents are entitled to know exactly how this works, what the limits are, and what safeguards are in place?
Another thing that feels uncomfortable is that staff from the Trust seem to have been involved in presenting alongside Goodnotes / EdTech projects connected with the sort of technology now being used in classrooms. Maybe that’s all perfectly above board, but if the Trust is that closely involved with promoting this kind of thing, shouldn’t they be extra careful to show parents that they’ve properly and independently checked whether it’s right for our children?
What’s also maddening is that this scheme was apparently still “in development” when introduced, and there didn’t seem to be solid evidence yet that it actually improves learning for children this young. Yet it has still been pushed ahead and expanded.
Parents haven’t been offered any meaningful alternative either. So in practice, it feels compulsory. You either go along with it or your child risks being the odd one out.
The tone from the Trust has really upset people too. Rather than treating parents as people with legitimate concerns about their children, the response has felt defensive and dismissive, almost as though we are being awkward for asking basic questions.
I just don’t think this is good enough.
This is about young children. It’s about how they learn, how much time they spend on screens, what happens to their schoolwork and personal information, and whether parents are being respected.
AIBU to think a school trust should not be rolling out something this significant without proper consultation, clear answers and proper checks first?
Has anyone else challenged an academy trust over something like this? Where would you go next — governors, the Trust board, the Diocese, ICO, Ofsted, MP?
I don’t want to be labelled “that parent”, but I also don’t think parents should be expected to just shut up and trust the system when the system won’t answer straightforward questions.
Would you escalate this formally? And where would you start?

I wish I could chat directly to you - I am also a parent in the trust and wonder which area your school is in!

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 03/07/2026 18:22

I think they really owe you an explanation of how much they're using devices and for which subjects. In our school they do times tables (ttrs), maths homework and assessments on them (atom learning) but otherwise everything else is traditional. I really dislike even the homework being on an app/screen tbh, but i see the benefit when the maths systems mark the work for a teacher and provide reports for them - its more efficient for a teacher than hand marking sheets. I think if they're just doing simple things like times tables or maths that can be wrong or right, then that's fair enough, but if it's more complicated lessons then I think they don't really work, how are they asking questions or discussing things if they're all on individual pads. I also think at that age they're likely to get damaged/lost/broken, who is responsible for that, and they're so bad for concentration. I also think things like posture can be impacted if they're leaning over devices. All the current research shows they're not effective either, so it's not like they're going to be able to say the learning outcomes will improve. It's also a massive investment for a state school if every ks2 pupil is bought a pad, when that money could've been spent on other things.

I think I'd be contacting the governors to get some solid answers on what/how much they're getting used, how that decision has been made and what other options are open to parents. If you can't get that info or they're being used an excessive amount, I'd definitely move. It's a massive change and I suspect if you'd looked around a school where all the kids were on ipads, you'd not have chosen it.

JustSawJohnny · 03/07/2026 18:03

IT has been very broadly used in all school settings for decades. Schools are going to go with the technology options that best suit their budget and storage. A laptop trolley takes up a lot less room than a computer room full of monitors!

Your kids doing research in lessons does not mean you have to buy them a tablet for at home.

Absolutely weirdly controlling, IMO.

ImGonnaKeepOnDancing · 03/07/2026 18:00

Doormouse79 · 03/07/2026 12:29

AIBU to be furious that our primary school trust pushed through iPads for Year 3/4 without engaging with parents?

Posting because I’m honestly so frustrated and I’d really appreciate some advice from other parents.
My child is at a Surrey school within Xavier Catholic Education Trust. The Trust has rolled out a 1:1 iPad scheme for Year 3 and Year 4 children: so we’re talking about 7, 8 and 9-year-olds, not teenagers.
The issue isn’t that I’m anti-technology. I’m really not. I understand schools use iPads and apps now. But this feels like a huge change to the way young children are being taught, and it seems to have been pushed through before parents were properly asked, informed or listened to. The Trust seems heavily involved with a Hong Kong-based/ international venture-capital backed company who appear to be developing their products based on our children's data. That's not necessarily suspect or wrong, but shouldn't we be entitled to explanations? Surely this cannot be right?
A large group of parents (around 40 across the three year groups) raised concerns. These weren’t just people moaning about screen time. Parents asked reasonable questions like:

  1. Are iPads really needed every day for children this young?
  2. What is the educational benefit?
  3. How much screen time are they actually getting?
  4. What happens to the children’s work and information once it’s uploaded?
  5. Where is the children's data going and being stored in the world?
  6. Who can see what they’re doing?
  7. What checks were done before this was introduced?
  8. Can parents opt out or have an alternative? (We have been told NO).

Instead of being properly engaged with, parents feel we’ve been fobbed off.
Requests for a proper meeting were declined. We’ve had generic reassurances and glossy-sounding explanations, but not clear answers to the actual questions being asked.
One of the things that really bothers me is that, as far as we’ve been told, there wasn’t a proper written risk assessment (a "Data Protection Impact Assessment") done before this was rolled out. Given this involves young children using iPads, school apps, online platforms, stored schoolwork and teacher monitoring, I find that hard to understand.
There is also apparently a system where teachers can monitor what pupils are doing on the iPads in real time. I’m not saying teachers shouldn’t supervise children — of course they should. But surely parents are entitled to know exactly how this works, what the limits are, and what safeguards are in place?
Another thing that feels uncomfortable is that staff from the Trust seem to have been involved in presenting alongside Goodnotes / EdTech projects connected with the sort of technology now being used in classrooms. Maybe that’s all perfectly above board, but if the Trust is that closely involved with promoting this kind of thing, shouldn’t they be extra careful to show parents that they’ve properly and independently checked whether it’s right for our children?
What’s also maddening is that this scheme was apparently still “in development” when introduced, and there didn’t seem to be solid evidence yet that it actually improves learning for children this young. Yet it has still been pushed ahead and expanded.
Parents haven’t been offered any meaningful alternative either. So in practice, it feels compulsory. You either go along with it or your child risks being the odd one out.
The tone from the Trust has really upset people too. Rather than treating parents as people with legitimate concerns about their children, the response has felt defensive and dismissive, almost as though we are being awkward for asking basic questions.
I just don’t think this is good enough.
This is about young children. It’s about how they learn, how much time they spend on screens, what happens to their schoolwork and personal information, and whether parents are being respected.
AIBU to think a school trust should not be rolling out something this significant without proper consultation, clear answers and proper checks first?
Has anyone else challenged an academy trust over something like this? Where would you go next — governors, the Trust board, the Diocese, ICO, Ofsted, MP?
I don’t want to be labelled “that parent”, but I also don’t think parents should be expected to just shut up and trust the system when the system won’t answer straightforward questions.
Would you escalate this formally? And where would you start?

My daughter is in year 4 and laptop/ipad time has been essential to her learning this year as they used them a lot to practice their maths and TT Rock Stars for their MTC test they did in June. If they hadn’t had that extra practice time my daughter wouldn’t have gotten in the practice that she needed under teacher supervision. Obviously she did it at home using our own laptop/iPad but I do think that as children get older they need to use the equipment that can help them learn - especially TTRS as the MTC was based off the Soundtrack TTRS game. Doing that using pen and paper wouldn’t have been anywhere near as effective for her class.

Toadflaxx · 03/07/2026 18:00

Bhoomor · 03/07/2026 13:25

There are many many issues, as you have highlighted, but the main one for me is that there is no evidence introducing ipads and other edtech actually improves kids' learning, alongside plenty of risks associated with doing it.

The school have fobbed you and everyone else off, so it's time to go nuclear. Contact the governors, contact the press, refuse to send your kids to school until there is a proper discussion. If you band together as parents they will be forced to engage with you. For me it's a straightforward no. I would not send my kids to a school that did this.

Agree with this

Imlazyandiknowit99 · 03/07/2026 17:51

Doormouse79 · 03/07/2026 13:38

I really appreciate all of these responses...I've felt some overwhelmed with it all, trying to do the right thing for my kids, whilst also respecting the school. I love the school...the teachers are all amazing...its the Trust's leadership and governance that is failing in this situation.
About ten parents are all currently looking at new schools, but this in itself is a challenge, because with so many parents looking at the same time, spaces which were already limited, are even more so now. The whole thing just feels so hopeless.

Tbh this would make me pull my children out. I home educate my 3 wndnits the best thing I've ever done. We read books all thr time and I limit screen time

Disenchantedone · 03/07/2026 17:51

Hi OP If you have no choice then please do the following.
As well as the ipad, still teach your child to read from real books. Still reach your child how to write on lined and unlined paper and spelling from books and cards. Use the ipad for research. Learn how the school programs work as they are a good way of seeing your childs progress.
I speak as a person who sees children using these abominations on a daily basis!

bendmeoverbackwards · 03/07/2026 17:39

Simonjt · 03/07/2026 17:33

We live in Sweden, yes it has been removed and reading progress quickly started returning to previous levels and behaviour of children improved. Schools still have tech of course, at our sons school computers are only used to learn how to code, use word, excel and powerpoint in his age group, next year they bring in more web use and web safety.

No reading apps, no maths apps etc.

This is fantastic to hear @Simonjt

YANBU at all OP. I find it deeply ironic that we all moan that children with young developing brains have too much screen time and as parents are are constantly battling to reduce it, yet schools bring in more and more screen based learning.

Simonjt · 03/07/2026 17:33

notnorman · 03/07/2026 13:48

Sweden (I think) were one of the first implementers of this- and have since taken it out of classrooms again and now are back to traditional learning and teaching. It was on radio 4 yesterday about 5.30 ish

We live in Sweden, yes it has been removed and reading progress quickly started returning to previous levels and behaviour of children improved. Schools still have tech of course, at our sons school computers are only used to learn how to code, use word, excel and powerpoint in his age group, next year they bring in more web use and web safety.

No reading apps, no maths apps etc.

RoseOliviaAu · 03/07/2026 17:33

ECGG · 03/07/2026 17:30

Your child is being prepared to enter a digitally driven workforce. They need to learn to use technology properly and appropriately. I find it a little odd that my DC uses books at school and we only get to see it at parents evening. I think you have 2 choices either embrace this, it's the future or pop on your tinfoil hat and move schools.

This is nonsense. They can learn to use it when they’re older and their brains and eyes are developed.

Half of Gen Z already don’t have legible handwriting. This will make it worse. There are skills formed through books and pens and paper… not just screens that damage their eyes

Smoggy1 · 03/07/2026 17:33

Until recently, I was a teacher and taught in schools with iPads. If I was deciding on schools for my own child, whether or not they have iPads would be a huge factor in that choice. I loathe them. Giving kids devices that young absolutely wrecks their attention span. You can't even stick a film on for a nice lesson anymore because they can't sit and watch it without getting bored after 30 seconds and starting their own conversations or trying to go on a device. In a classroom, it's a constant game of wack-a-mole trying to get them off whatever game or YouTube video they've found and back to their work.

ECGG · 03/07/2026 17:30

Your child is being prepared to enter a digitally driven workforce. They need to learn to use technology properly and appropriately. I find it a little odd that my DC uses books at school and we only get to see it at parents evening. I think you have 2 choices either embrace this, it's the future or pop on your tinfoil hat and move schools.

RoseOliviaAu · 03/07/2026 17:28

Yes I would be angry. My child would not be using them. Notebooks and pens or I’m moving them.

VaccineSticker · 03/07/2026 17:23

Could you explain what type of learning children do on their iPads? Apart from apps like Times tables rockstars or spelling apps for ten minutes and the one they use from computing lessons, children don’t access iPads in daily lessons. I don’t understand the uproar? When are your children using iPads?

NoSausage · 03/07/2026 17:20

I'd probably start by setting out a letter explaining that my child is Forbidden from using an ipad and if they can't offer a reasonable alternative then they are to send my child home as an exclusion. Daily.

You will then follow the necessary process to secure an alternative school placement and that youre coping in your local suthority and MP for awareness that the school are preventing your child from accessing an education on the grounds that the change has been pushed through and St a point where you cannot reasonably find an alternative school or go through the necessary application step in time.

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 03/07/2026 17:16

I think this is the first step towards classes of 50-100 being delivered lectures on an IPAD then work thru AI. It is terrifying in all honesty. Children have ALWAYS learned within their communities from trusted adults and the rich will continue to do so. The poor will be give tech and expected to 'download' an education.

Easterchicken · 03/07/2026 17:14

Are parents consulted on change of what brand of pencil or pen is used

It's modern lazy teaching

Lesson plans are bought in and teachers just supervise
However it's modern tech and they need to learn how to use it.... And I imagine every kid in the class has access to a device at home

Rumors1 · 03/07/2026 13:52

I came on to say about Sweden, they have realised it doesnt work. My teenagers have it in secondary and they have all hacked the chromebooks to access games during lessons. They say half the class are playing games instead of learning.

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