To send a close friend a small cat ornament when she has lost her precious cat?

I'd send a card. The pebble was also thoughtful. I'd not want a cat ornament unless it looked exactly like my cat.

I have had good friends do this for me so I think it’s lovely but would just say to wait a couple of weeks before you do so as it’s not still raw. Bless you for being a good friend x

Im also not a fan of plants for the garden I’m afraid. I might buy my own plant in time but atm it’s too raw and I’d have to be watering it all the time in the heatwave. Then it might die and I’d feel guilty. Flowers and a card much broader appeal , but you know your friend.

It’s a kind thought, but is she an ornament person? I don’t know a single one, even old ladies. I’d rather flowers or a plant for the garden.

I’ve just lost a pet and I’d hate this. Depends on the person. I’ve appreciated the cards and flowers because I will be able to get rid of them soon.

It would upset me at the moment, I would think I don’t want an ornament of my pet I want my pet and I am heartbroken that they are gone. I am upset by being given something to remember them by. I don’t want to remember I want to forget. I want to remember in my own way when I am ready. I have of course graciously thanked the giver and do very much appreciate that it was very kindly meant.

So if you do give your cat ornament make it clear that you don’t know if it will be what they want and give them permission to pass it on to a charity shop if it’s not their thing atm.

I would be pleased to receive this, it's a lovely way of acknowledging her loss.

People are just so different, I’d be so touched by this xx

Such a lovely idea OP. I must admit I prefer the pebble that @NotInMyyNamejust posted but either way it’s such a kind gesture.

Does she like ornaments? Otherwise, together with a nice message, it's clearly a thoughtful gesture. Someone would have to be pre disposed to misery to think a good friend is doing that to be mean.

@38woman I think it’s a lovely gesture. When my sweet dog passed my friends did something similar and I was so grateful.

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I lost my beloved grey boy cat a few weeks ago and I would love this, it shows that you care and also something to remember them by. But I like ornaments and gifts and thoughtful gestures, even if it wasn’t to my taste I would put it next to the photo I have framed of my cat and feel grateful for a lovely friend.

If it was me,i would so love the idea,it’s very sweet of you xx

I don't do ornaments and would hate it I'm afraid. We received a packet of forget me not seeds from our vet. We've planted them around where our cat is buried and the bees have been very grateful. It's a pretty reminder which isn't clutter (we don't do clutter!)

I would love this.

I don’t really like ornaments but if a friend sent me something like this when I had lost a pet, I would be really touched, as it’s so obviously intended as a kind gesture and I’d be touched that the person was thinking of me. I would find somewhere to display it in my home (assuming it’s a fairly small item) for a while and perhaps eventually retire it to a charity shop after some time had passed.

Seems a bit weird to me.

I've just lost my cat & I'd be very touched by this. It would upset me a bit but in a good way, if that makes sense

I have sent something like when a pet has died. It can be kept or put on the grave/ ashes?

I wouldn’t say it was mean but everyone responds differently as you have seen by the responses. How do you think your friend would respond - me personally would find it upsetting but I know a friend of mine would love it. I think if you are having to seek opinions you aren’t confident about how your friend will respond so it might be better to err on the side of caution and not send it at the moment.

I don't think that's mean. I think its lovely. After my Mum lost her beloved cat, for her birthday i gave her a framed photo of her cat, she loved it and said it was a lovely thought.

It is not mean. And I really disagree with the people saying you shouldn't send it. It's a lovely thing to do and absolutely send it

I would be very touched by this gesture.

I agree with this. The sentiment is lovely, but I personally don't think I'd want to receive anything as 'on the nose'. I'm also not an ornaments person (although do recognise that she might be).

YANBU but if it were me, I’d buy something less direct like a rose bush.