To have told my sister she was unprofessional and inappropriate? * [Content warning: concerns baby loss]

We've had a relatively recent baby death within the family and it's been life-changing for us.My daughter and her husband went to full term with a baby they knew could only live for around 24 hours.He was perfect in appearance with his Dad's hair coloring , Mum's long limbs but his condition was incompatible with life.
Some of the photos of him when he had passed away were particularly important to his parents because they had got to change him , wash and dress him.
Good on you for challenging your sister, I'd move on from it now as it seems inappropriate in every way.I do hope everyone has deleted the photos.

She actually sounds psychopathic. How could anybody reach a point in their life whereby they actually find it brings them happiness to sneer at a baby who has died and to mock the grieving parents for caring about and loving their baby? Much less to actually want to share her evil, macabre joy with others?

None of this is harmless ,its a gross misconduct situation.
I've been in some awful houses and I would never even say to anyone what I saw .
Tbh I would be just coming out of this group chat because your condoning this nasty side of your sister by participating in recieving these videos.
If I was your sisters employer, I would be doing everything to get her sacked once this comes to light .

Some people absolutely need judging. Your sister being one of them. Sounds like she didn’t get enough judging growing up or she might not have ended up such a horrible human being.

Bit disappointing your partner didn’t back you up. I can’t stand all that keep the peace malarkey. She’s not bothered about keeping the peace with her vile behaviour and her doubling down by attacking you.

Well done for saying what everyone else should have said.

As she's self employed, I'm guessing she's an estate agent? I could be wrong but that's the first thing that came into my head.

If she is, there is a regulatory body for estate agents, but it would be obvious who reported her.

I think what she did was really nasty. I get being curious about the picture, but to actually take a photo of it and send it on to your family saying something as cold and callous as "it's dead" is unthinkable.

This is truly shocking. Tbh the other videos of people's homes passing judgement are shocking, but this really is beyond comprehension. You're the one who has been brave enough to call her out OP, well done.

Is your mum a similar age to me? 50s/60s? I’d like to tell her that she needs to speak very firmly to her daughter and do some sadly overdue parenting. If my DS26 behaved like this I would be horrified. He would be in no doubt that I was disgusted by his behaviour.

It’s certainly reportable. I am horrified.

Absolutely this. She needs to give her head a wobble. Just disgusting!!!

Your sister is a disrespectful cunt. Hope that never happens to her, she won’t think it’s so funny then.

I'd be less than impressed if someone who came into my home did something like that and would lodge a complaint if I found out. Is your sister always a thoughtless idiot?

I would ask her to delete it and remove it from any public places. If she refused I would report her to her employer. I couldn’t pretend to have an ordinary relationship with someone who would seek to do something so harmful.

Send her this thread. She needs to know what other women think of her behaviour. And she should not be going a job that gives her access to people’s homes if she behaves like a thoughtless, nasty teenager.

Utterly appalling for anyone to do such a thing.

I don't even understand the point of what she was trying to say? Why would a photograph of a strangers baby, dead or alive, be of any interest to anyone?!

And of course she shouldn't be taking photos of the contents of her clients homes. What's next..quick snap of both sides of these bank cards here in this wallet?!

Definitely tell her she'll get fired if she keeps sharing private images of things in people's homes. She's definitely unprofessional, rude and pretty pathetic if she thinks sending that was in any way amusing?

This very serious. I don’t suppose you will reveal what profession she is in. She is a reflection of that profession and I am sure the majority of people that do have access to people’s homes and private lives are very professional and respect confidentiality and then there are bad ones that get in and do whatever the industry is, disrepute. Report her and tell her that you are doing it.

I would be telling her she should be grateful I’m not reporting her although I’m appalled by her behaviour. Callous doesn’t cover it. Unbelievably nasty and cruel.

Your mum saying nothing makes her just as bad imo.

Your sister is vile. The people whose homes she visiting have a right to know who they are letting into their home.

You're absolutely right that this crossed a different line, but the other videos aren't harmless. She's invading her clients' privacy and breaching their trust. Not to mention bringing her profession into disrepute, as it could damage people's trust in them as a whole.

That could have been my best friend’s photograph on her wall. Very sad!

Horrific. My friends have a picture up of their son who sadly passed away in childbirth. Absolutely abhorrent to think that someone coming in to their home would take a picture of it and send it to other people. As if the pain of losing a child isn’t enough.
Your sister is a disgusting human. I’d report her to her employer and hope she loses her job

I can't think of any job in the world where it wouldn't be. Absolutely vile behaviour op. She should be reported to her employer without any hesitation.

That’s fucking disgusting. I would be cutting her off hope one day she goes through the agony of loosing a child and learns what it feels like.

Do not apologise, don’t get drawn into an argument - stick to the facts. Tell her she knows fine well that she’d get sacked for that, or would she be happy with her employer know she’s sharing a picture of a deceased baby with strangers (of the mother) to take the piss. She shouldn’t be in that job if she thinks it’s acceptable behaviour.