To have told my sister she was unprofessional and inappropriate? * [Content warning: concerns baby loss]

Her employment should be terminated.

Sister or no sister I'd report it to her employer (and show them the videos), and get the bitch sacked.

Just seen your post that she's self employed. Name and shame her on all social media and if she has a regulatory body report her to them.

I would absolutely be outing her in public - whatever form of social media she uses. And as others have suggested, I would be reporting her to whatever regulatory body overseas her work if any. I'd also be minded to contact the police as well.

Disgraceful human being. One thing to take photos of someone's home, quite another to take photos of memories of their dead children and laugh.

Honestly, you must be so ashamed of being related to such vermin.

Again - please report her (anonymously if you can) here: National Trading Standards Estate and Letting Agency Teams - National Trading Standards . I believe you must. These poor people have already lost their baby. For someone to use their home, their loss and their privacy for clicks'n'giggles is inhuman and will cause immense suffering. Don't be the person who knows about this and does nothing. Please.

From what you have said, it's unlikely you're the only people she has shared these images with. She shouldn't be sharing any images of homes she's been in. What a horrible person.
Sorry that doesn't help you other than to re-assure you that you are right to feel what she is doing is wrong. I hope you delete all these images from your phone. I would mention to your Mum that your DSis is totally out of order

I know it's absolutely not the main point here, but what did she even find weird or amusing about a photo of a deceased family member on display? Loads of people have photos on their walls of parents, grandparents and other loved ones who are no longer with us - it's very normal. Stately homes even have massive portraits of ancestors who lived centuries ago proudly on display.

Aside from her pure nastiness, I genuinely don't even see why she thinks it noteworthy. If she were a compassionate person, she may notice it and feel a moment of condolence for the parents; but she clearly isn't, so why would she even care about some (to her) random everyday fixture?

Your sister is horrible. I know you say that she is self-employed but if her role has a regulating body I would actually report it to them.

That is one of the most appalling things I’ve read on here. What a disgusting ‘human’ being she is. I would have nothing more to do with her.

Why are people constantly referring to "a sackable offence" and reporting to her employer, when she's self-employed? She's not going to sack herself or reprimand herself.

@IStillHearTheWavesAnother poster than seems incapable of intelligent debate without using a swear word.

@Ponoka7 I have worked with many, many autistic people as part of my job role (24 years in) who don't understand the finality of death.
But as another poster has rightly said, OP has confirmed sister is not neurodivergent.
So it's a moot point.

Don't read it then.

The majority of people don't like the warped behaviour of OP's sister. The fact you're inventing excuses for that while pulling someone up on their language is, in my opinon, absolutely fucked up.

Absolutely. I'm sorry, but your sister is not suited to her role OP.
She will not be allowed to take pictures in the homes she visits - that alone is a disciplinary offence. Sharing the image is definitely a sackable offence.
Then we move on to the attitude - I have no words.
I feel sorry for you being in this position.
She's disgusting. Utter cow. Very immature.
I would of been duty bound to report a colleague who did this - for many reasons.

@IStillHearTheWaves There simply is no need for so much swearing when posting. Personally I don't like the use of the "c" word and it is entirely unecessary. You can absolutely disagree with a point of view, but you don't need to use offensive language in order to get your point across.

Because it's an out of taking any responsibility for awful behaviour these days.

No wonder society is so fucked when excuses are always being made.

@AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle of course you're right, it was a knee jerk reaction. My apologies.

What the actual fuck is wrong with your sister???

Disgusting.

@Cheeseandolivesplease your post is so offensive, it's unreal. Attitudes like yours will set autistic people back in the workplace, especially in settings such as hospitals and social care. To suggest that a full adult, who works in a semi professional role, doesn't understand that death is final, because they are autistic, is ridiculous.

U sound very normal and the reaction u had was normal !
I would feel exact same way !.
Your sister literally can't have any empathy what she has done is callous and cruel and very unprofessional u were correct in pulling her up it seems to some people that anything is acceptable theses days and that in itself is a scary thought
Don't question yourself u did the right thing u should report your sister she has crossed over into untrusted territory of the family ever found out they would be horrified !!

When you sign a contract with an estate agent, they declare why they take photos and how they will be used, show her this thread because she has broken her contract and data protection. I hope this is picked up by the media because there may not be many people selling, who have a picture of their baby, who has died, on their wall. You should have shut her down long ago tbh. I'd be telling her it stops, or you will report what's been happening.

Your sister sounds like abit of a cunt

And as others have noted, there should be nothing gentle about how she is spoken to about her appalling conduct. I would probably be screaming at mine down the phone.

why is everyone banging on about neurodivergence. OP has said the sister is not.

The idea of someone taking and sharing pictures of my precious dead child for entertainment / mockery makes me feel physically sick.

Please show your DM my post. I’m 59 and I would bollock the living daylights out of my DS26 or my DS18 if either of them did this. I would be devastated at having brought up someone who could he so vile.