To have told my sister she was unprofessional and inappropriate? * [Content warning: concerns baby loss]

Has she taken it down?
Pretty sure that's stackable and rightly so.

If someone came into my home and unbeknownst to me, took a picture of my daughter who was stillborn, and whose picture we have around the house, shared it around presumably in a judgemental, ‘look these people have a dead baby picture on their wall’, I would be devastated and horrified. It is a disgusting thing to do and a total professionalism breach. I’d have been blasting her all over social media but I recognise you can’t do that as she’s your sister. I’d be cutting ties with her though, she’s a vile human.

According to Google, self employed ea are regulated by the national trading standards estate and letting agents team, I'd start there.

There will be someone who oversees her, safeguarding is one route, is she a member of any ea organisation.

She's not a carer she's an estate agent. A self-employed estate agent.

Might still be registered with the council or social services, she must have applied for a dbs check and hopefully undertaken some training. You can report self employed carers to social services safeguarding teams and the police.

She's self-employed!

Shje IS unprofessional and she SHOULD be sacked! What she did is reportable IMO!

Not only is it wildly unprofessional and callous, it is a breach of GDPR. As a sole trader, she is the responsible person who is meant to ensure compliance.

IANAL so I don’t know if what she’s done would reach the threshold of criminality, but even if it does not, it is extremely serious. Try showing her this, OP, as a way of attempting to convey that she, not you, is the one in the wrong.

Is she capable of change, do you think? If you think she is not, then reporting her to the trading standards link already posted and to the ICO are the only way you are going to be able to bring it about and protect her unsuspecting clients from this inexcusable behaviour. And I mean the whole thing of sharing photos, not only the baby picture - though that, of course, is a whole new level of unacceptable.

As I see it, you have 3 options:

• having said your piece, keep quiet in future - possibly distancing yourself from her so you don’t have to see it. But that does nothing to protect the -public
• Try to persuade her to change her ways, drawing on ammunition you’ve been given here to show her she needs to
• Report her

Good luck.

Take videos inside her home, post them on a Whatapp chat you are having with friends and then tell your sister what you’ve done - I imagine the penny might drop then.

i mean most people think estate agents are lying scum but honestly this is beyond the pale.

In fact, people with autism tend to be quite good at following policies and procedures and working in a rule bound way (if we are going to throw generalisations around!). What a terrible person.

Is she a member of any sort of estate agents trade association, eg the National Estate Agents Association? I bet they would take a very dim view of this.

I'm not actually suggesting you should report her because I can see it would cause huge family problems, but it might do her good to think about what would happen if you or someone else did.

Your sister is a terrible, terrible person. Well done to you for calling her out.

I wouldn’t let this rest, personally. If that means fall out from her family of enablers, so be it.

It’s absolutely awful, and terribly upsetting.

I lost my little girl during my 2nd pregnancy and if I found out someone had taken pictures of her photos or keepsakes without my consent and then shared them, making light out of our heartbreak I would go scorched earth on them. I would not rest until their reputation was in ruins. People like your sister deserve all the bad karma that comes their way. I hope she never has to experience child loss. I'm so sorry you are related to such a horrible person.

hello RTFT she is self employed.

Yanbu. Your sister is deeply unpleasant. If you report it she will likely get a warning or sacked. Unless you are completely ok with being nc I wouldn't do this.However, I would mute the chat and message your mum directly when needed.

You are not overreacting and not saying something ‘to keep the peace’ ,in my opinion, implies someone is okay with what’s been done. You are not okay with it - I wouldn’t be either - and I think it’s beholden on us to speak out in those circumstances - especially when it’s family. Good for you.

That is a truly awful thing to do 😢!

It's hard to do the right thing when you know you're going to dislodge someone's view of themselves as perfect, but you've absolutely done the right thing.

I would imagine that’s gross misconduct

Yes - here: National Trading Standards Estate and Letting Agency Teams - National Trading Standards . I posted it upthread. @Girlsonahill - please can you reassure the distressed and affected posters on this thread that you, or someone on your behalf, will be reporting this. It's too serious to ignore, if true. Thank you.

She's self-employed. She's hardly going to dismiss herself.

Sister wants to hope her employers don’t find out……definitely a sackable offence!

You are absolutely not in the wrong. Your sister sounds totally without empathy and is not the right person to be going into people 's homes. Because she is your sister I don't suppose you want to report her. But if somebody did she could possibly face dismissal from her job.