To have told my sister she was unprofessional and inappropriate? * [Content warning: concerns baby loss]

That is appalling. Your sister is a cunt and anybody saying she isn't is not right in the head. Honestly she deserves sacking and if her service user knew what she'd done that would be her job gone. You were right to tell her.

@SilverTotoro I'm so sorry for your loss. Please never feel that you can't put up photos of your baby if you want to. Just in the same way as we put up photos of the babies and children still with us ❤️
Anybody that would pass judgement on that simply isn't worth knowing.

I'm so sorry, that's very sad

Speaking as someone who employs carers for my father, I am disgusted by your sister's actions and if I were her employer or any of the people whose homes she enters, I would expect to be informed of this breach of trust, and then I would fire her. If you're still unsure that you may be overreacting, ask her what her employer would say about it.

Of course she was in the wrong. And she knows it. But people don't usually respond well to criticism

You were absolutely right to challenge her

Absolutely sickening

Gross breach of privacy and basic human decency. In some jobs this would mean automatic termination. What does she do? If she's a cleaner or carer she most likely has a non disclosure agreement. At the least she could be subject to a civil suit for invasion of privacy. It could even be a criminal offence. Shame on her.

@Girlsonahill Did you ask her what possessed her to.do it? I can imagine to that family the photo of their beautiful baby who has passed is so incredibly precious and it ultimately is disrespectful to a) Take a photo of someone else's baby without permission and b) To post it to a group and mock it.
Besides, she shouldn't even be taking photos in other people's homes without express consent.
I would be angry with her too.

Of course you’re not unreasonable and quite honestly there’s something wrong with people like your sister; a weird almost sociopathic lack of empathy. She sounds awful.

This makes me so sad. Our first baby was still born and I treasure the pictures we took of him. Your sisters reaction is why I’d never display the pictures in our home, I have a memory box instead. People who haven’t experienced this type of loss can never understand the fact that you’ve lost your child but it’s still the only chance you ever get to hold them and look at their little face so you just want to cling on to that.

What an utterly dreadful thing to do. She absolutely took advantage of the reason she was in someone’s else’s home and then felt entitled to judge and criticize. She’s totally in the wrong.

She’s only upset because you called her out on her bad behaviour. Easier to blame you than have to accept she did something truly awful. People don’t like to feel badly about themselves.

Some people don’t react well to shame. Just let it blow over, you’re in the right and she knows it but is attacking because she doesn’t want to admit it.

Tell her to her boss and the person who's privacy and trust she broke.
What a utter bitch.

How on earth can she try to justify doing such an appalling thing? Why would it even cross her mind to do it in the first place?

@Watchoutfortheslowaraf I understand that. But what I am saying is re the "dead baby" comment. My brother is autistic. As a younger man he didn't really understand the "gravity" of death as a concept. And he also didn't understand the difference between sleeping and having passed away. As a child he would say sleeping dogs on a greetings card, for example, had "died."
I am unsure if the OP meant the baby had already passed when the photo was taken. To me, and having lost pregnancies myself, that is a beautiful and fitting tribute. But my brother may not understand this in the same way and might well think it a bit "unusual" for want of a better way of putting it.

She unsettled your peace!

That’s an awful caption to a baby photo. And soooo unnecessary. You’ve done nothing wrong @Girlsonahill and well done for not just accepting a vile message. She should be ashamed of herself.

That’s what sisters are for - to tell you when you’re doing something out of order. Well done OP.

Are you sure she took the photo herself of one of her clients? I can just very well imagine that kind of dark humour being posted in some nursing group chats I’ve seen. It’s still not ok.

Isn't that a sackable offence?

Autistic people can understand that you don’t go and take a photo of a service users deceased baby and share it on your family WhatsApp