“All the trimmings” - to find this quite vile?

Maybe…

But it’s still weird in my opinion. Why don’t people redirect their anger at their parents where it belongs (joking). The internet is what we make of it.

Not at all, we’ve all worn those and it’s all very tame.

It’s not what he asked. It’s the clumsy way he asked to see her in them. The build up to sex is aural as well as physical and visual. If he can’t find a better, more arousing way to tell her what he likes, rather than just putting his orders in and making her feel like a customised Happy Meal, then it doesn’t sound like she’s in for a fun weekend, does it? That’s what many of us are turning our noses up at.

OP read him the riot act for that comment alone?
How long have they been together?
What is their usual language around sex?
Have they've even had sex yet?

To say, "I'll still go away" but I've told him we're not having sex, is bizarre. It really is.

If you already have a happy sexual relationship there is no need to be offended. Take something nice. Wouldn't you do that anyway?
or, and I like this one, do as a previous poster suggested and pack granny pants, night cap and long flannel nightdress. I'd go all out with curlers in my hair and pop reading specs on.

I'd act all excited coming out of the bathroom saying, I'm ready!!! 👵🩷

It's making me think of that old program about prostitutes in Bradford. Band of gold I think it was called. That prostitute who had to put the stockings on for that old man and he got super peeved if she tore them.

I know. We’re obviously brazen hussies 😂.

It is quite a long time since they were standard underwear (as in everyday) but a lot of women, of all ages, do buy them (worked in a shop and an online company so can confirm all age groups). Some women find them more comfortable, apparently. Less sweaty, I guess, though I wouldn't bother with them or tights most of the time! Obviously no one has to wear anything they don't want, but I wouldn't say it's weird.

I still have them well, they have a string of pearls in that area. The scandal!

I definitely remember wearing stockings and suspenders from the mid 80s to early 90s before moving onto hold ups 😁

I wore them in the 80s/90s and shock horror may have donned crotch less knickers too for added spice

I meant sexy lingerie. I think that's obvious, don't be obtuse.

I genuinely thought you were on about a roast dinner 🤣

I buy them for example. And I can’t be alone as I don’t have enough to sustain an industry. 🤣

You only wear lingerie “sometimes”?

I wouldn't have a problem with the suggestion, but his wording is 🤢

He, like many men, do seem to find stockings sexy and I've always been happy to wear them, though he didn't ask,I just know he likes them.

Yes, to actually say and expect it could be seen as a turn off but also interpreted that he would love it. In return, ask him to wear a mankini or sth you would you would find sexy.

All I can think about is those little paper crowns they put on poultry

🤮

Was looking forward to a thread about Sunday lunch!
Anyway, what special thing is he doing for you?

Hell I would have basque, suspenders and stockings packed for a weekend away!! Think maybe you 2 aren't sexually compatible but if you are willing and he likes it why not? Getting to know your partner and exploring different things is good. As long as you can both say no to things that make you uncomfortable or do nothing for you then great. Vanilla sex is great but so is a little spicy sex sometimes. Nothing wrong with stockings and suspenders and as I said I love a basque. I wear them because it makes me feel good not for anyone else but if they get pleasure from it then win win 😉@

This thread reads like a parody in Viz.

If that boyfriend has enough self-respect he should end it after being spoken to like that by the OP.

I think maybe communication needs to be a priority.

This may be unpopular but some of the responses here are the reasons that OF and online SW is thriving- these men are lonely and their partners don’t communicate/listen to them in general but also with their sexual needs- Im sure women are the same but may have different approaches to meeting that need!

You only have to watch Olivia Attwood to come to that conclusion!

Just tell him he could maybe phrase things a little bit differently and don’t do anything that you are not comfortable with- if you can not get on the same page with sexual boundaries- its game over!!

Good Luck

"Trimmings" That's really the Ick isn't it?

Ask him if he's been reading too much Jilly Cooper... the early ones written in the 80s.

Alternatively, you could play him at his own game and say you've packed your (insert name of some over the top or scarey "trimmings" for him) and see if he panics.

Honestly don't see the problem. It's just a goofy joke type thing guys say.

This instantly gave me the ick....i hate being told what to wear to make things sexy...it needs to be spontaneous! The fact that he said 'all the trimmings' made me cringe

Sorry- you think wearing stocking and suspenders makes you a sex worker?

All the trimmings?

I'd be bringing stuffing balls, cauliflower cheese and pigs in blankets.