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“All the trimmings” - to find this quite vile?

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Penelopefly · 02/07/2026 20:58

I’m away with my boyfriend at the weekend. In the course of messaging about our respective days, I’ve mentioned I am starting to pack. He said ‘remember some nice lingerie with all the trimmings’. I queried what trimmings meant - he clarified stockings and suspenders.

I feel like a piece of meat!

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GoodGuessButNotRight · 02/07/2026 22:44

Icky!

It reminds me of the time a friend’s bf was moaning to my bf about lack of sex from said friend. She wasn’t forthcoming with giving him his ‘portion!’ 🤢
Sad thing is, she went and married him 😬 I probably should have told her.

Yogafiend · 02/07/2026 22:42

vichill · 02/07/2026 21:35

many say their man reciprocates in other ways…but do they? Explain how men ever demean themselves with porn props? Or is it buying things?

What do you mean by demeaning yourself with porn props? You mean wearing lingerie? If so, Some women like to wear lingerie and don’t feel demeaned by it. If that’s your interpretation of wearing lingerie that’s perfectly fine and of course you don’t have to wear it but not everyone feels the same. My husband reciprocates in different manners that works for us in our relationship.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 02/07/2026 22:30

Well, I'd be packing granny knickers and hiking socks after that!

PinkNailPolish2026 · 02/07/2026 22:30

Random321 · 02/07/2026 22:15

This wouldn't bother me.

He's only having a bit of fun.

Surely everyone brings nice lingerie on a weekend away.

Not everyone, it’s personal choice of they do or not. Absolutely no-one wants to be compared to a roast dinner being served up for the other half of the relationship.

chocoluv · 02/07/2026 22:29

I don’t really see the issue here.

It’s just a saying.

Unless you dislike roast dinners, then I can’t see a negative connotation to it.

BringBackCatsEyes · 02/07/2026 22:28

Anyahyacinth · 02/07/2026 22:26

It's a bit bossy and controlling though isn't it? Unequal

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Really? Asking your GF to pack some nice things for a w/e away is controlling?

Alittlefrustrated · 02/07/2026 22:27

Take a a strap on.
This would cancel the weekend for me - he's mistaken you for an escort service.

AD1509 · 02/07/2026 22:26

Tell him to make sure packs a range penis decorations for the event

Anyahyacinth · 02/07/2026 22:26

SaraHoliday · 02/07/2026 21:06

He's just hoping for an exciting weekend with you. I wouldn't have a problem with this comment.

It's a bit bossy and controlling though isn't it? Unequal

WinterBlues26 · 02/07/2026 22:22

Tell him you will if he will, and you expect to see his stockings with the black line down the back 😆

Seriously though, this would give me the ick. He sees you as an object.

nocoolnamesleft · 02/07/2026 22:18

likelysuspect · 02/07/2026 21:52

I was getting ready with my red cabbage recipe.

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I love a good red cabbage recipe.

Maddy70 · 02/07/2026 22:17

Gross. You are not a roast dinner. I think that would be the ick for me

Random321 · 02/07/2026 22:15

This wouldn't bother me.

He's only having a bit of fun.

Surely everyone brings nice lingerie on a weekend away.

BringBackCatsEyes · 02/07/2026 22:15

PashaMinaMio · 02/07/2026 22:11

This is what has always hacked me off about blokes who expect or anticipate their women will “dress up!” It’s so crude.

Tell him to pack his thong and anything else you can think of! I’m afraid Im out of touch but you get the picture… ?

Frankly, I’d plan to dump him.

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Either party in a relationship can ask for “props”, can’t they?

whoactuallyreallycares · 02/07/2026 22:15

Yuck

Myfridgeiscool · 02/07/2026 22:11

I’d be ditching the bloke and going for a roast.
It’s the expectation that you’ll dress up and perform. What effort is he making?

PashaMinaMio · 02/07/2026 22:11

SaltyCara · 02/07/2026 21:20

What does he plan to pack to gussy himself up in for your viewing pleasure?

This is what has always hacked me off about blokes who expect or anticipate their women will “dress up!” It’s so crude.

Tell him to pack his thong and anything else you can think of! I’m afraid Im out of touch but you get the picture… ?

Frankly, I’d plan to dump him.

Pinkchickenwine · 02/07/2026 22:11

coronafiona · 02/07/2026 21:04

I dare you to pack Yorkshire puddings, roast potatoes and parsnips. Those are trimmings in my book!

And broccoli 🥦

PhaedraTwo · 02/07/2026 22:09

AnyDayNowChuckJacksonNSoul · 02/07/2026 21:58

Well op is a third of the way there
She's got the pig.
His choice of words were piss poor.

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That's insulting to pigs.

PinkNailPolish2026 · 02/07/2026 22:07

He’d be spending the weekend on the trip alone if he’d messaged me that, what a repulsive little man. I decide what I want to wear and when I wear it, I dress for myself and not anyone else. If you choose to go take a mankiki and lay it on the bed for him.

PlantGrowLove · 02/07/2026 22:05

Buy him some cringey sexy underwear, for him to wear.

Screamingabdabz · 02/07/2026 22:02

I’ve never quite understood the use of props if the sex you’re having is already hot and good. What does a pair of stockings add to it that some nice classy skims type underwear wouldn't? Just seems a bit cringey and Benny hill to me.

ohyesido · 02/07/2026 22:01

He actually likened you to a carvery dinner. Poor guy won’t even know he did it either

Switcher · 02/07/2026 21:59

Well I can't say that would bother or surprise me.

AnyDayNowChuckJacksonNSoul · 02/07/2026 21:58

FairViewRosie25 · 02/07/2026 21:54

Yeah yo need pigs in blankets and gravy

Well op is a third of the way there
She's got the pig.
His choice of words were piss poor.

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