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“All the trimmings” - to find this quite vile?

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Penelopefly · 02/07/2026 20:58

I’m away with my boyfriend at the weekend. In the course of messaging about our respective days, I’ve mentioned I am starting to pack. He said ‘remember some nice lingerie with all the trimmings’. I queried what trimmings meant - he clarified stockings and suspenders.

I feel like a piece of meat!

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Whatwouldnanado · 02/07/2026 23:16

I opened this thread hoping to have a giggle at someone being snooty a pub menu.
Here’s hoping this charmer has other redeeming qualities. Good luck. I would run.

hereforthelolz · 02/07/2026 23:16

Do people really hate dressing up that much?! I love it.

To answer a previous poster - it’s not it being comfortable or that it turns a man on… it makes ME feel good and turns me on.

It’s a bit of fun but if it’s not your bag, it’s not your bag.

This comment wouldn’t have bothered me - even if I wasn’t intending to dress up. To be honest it would barely even register enough for me to think about it after that moment. Is hardly an outrageous or offensive suggestion.

ButterflyLounge · 02/07/2026 23:13

Yorkies on your tits under the bra then when he asks why tell him it’s all the trimmings he’s asked for. Then leave him for being weird.

DimwittedSkater · 02/07/2026 23:13

GoodGuessButNotRight · 02/07/2026 22:44

Icky!

It reminds me of the time a friend’s bf was moaning to my bf about lack of sex from said friend. She wasn’t forthcoming with giving him his ‘portion!’ 🤢
Sad thing is, she went and married him 😬 I probably should have told her.

Giving him his portion? Like she's a vending machine? Yuck! How entitled!

icingonmycupcake · 02/07/2026 23:12

Has he just time warped from the '70's? Maybe send him back.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 02/07/2026 23:12

I don't have time to read the whole thread, are you sure he's not referring to bum stuff like plugs etc?

AImportantMermaid · 02/07/2026 23:11

He’s made you sound like a Toby Carvery - going for a nice pork with all the trimmings 😂

DimwittedSkater · 02/07/2026 23:11

OP, I believe the standard response to men who think that you take requests is to say "Sure, but only if you satisfy a desire of mine in return. I want nothing more than to peg you. I'll bring my trimmings if I can also bring my strap-on. And I want my turn first."

MissSold · 02/07/2026 23:10

NotTheMrMenAgain · 02/07/2026 21:20

I thought this was going to be about pigs in blankets and stuffing balls……

He’s hoping for stuffing balls 🤣

DimwittedSkater · 02/07/2026 23:09

Thisthreadhasbeendeleted · 02/07/2026 23:07

That's what he's packing.

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Thisthreadhasbeendeleted · 02/07/2026 23:07

NotTheMrMenAgain · 02/07/2026 21:20

I thought this was going to be about pigs in blankets and stuffing balls……

That's what he's packing.

vichill · 02/07/2026 23:05

The problem is there’s no male equivalent women could even conceive. If we wore suspenders everyday and they developed a fantasy around us then it’s kind of acceptable. To apply a sexual stereotype (almost 100 years old) to modern women who wouldn’t have ever worn them is icky. Ask him to enter the bedroom as a drenched Mr Darcy. It’s the same level of cosplay.

DimwittedSkater · 02/07/2026 23:04

RinielUrban · 02/07/2026 23:03

If I still decided to go, I’d wear the biggest knickers and non underwire bra

Exactly! I would do that and tell him I don't take requests.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 02/07/2026 23:04

🤮

DimwittedSkater · 02/07/2026 23:04

Actually, for that comment he deserves this underwear:

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RinielUrban · 02/07/2026 23:03

If I still decided to go, I’d wear the biggest knickers and non underwire bra

DimwittedSkater · 02/07/2026 23:02

OP, here's your bedroom outfit!

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DimwittedSkater · 02/07/2026 23:00

Thought this was going to be about Christmas dinner!

Yeah, I don't like it, either. It's one thing if you are moved to dress up for him of your own volition, but it's a turn-off when it's expected.

NormasArse · 02/07/2026 22:58

Ask him to pack a gimp mask for himself.

(he can eat his pigs in blankets and stuffing balls through it)

IStillHearTheWaves · 02/07/2026 22:57

Really gross terminology there, that would put me off too.

The absolute outrage about suspenders though is hilarious. Suspenders are suddenly akin to prostitution? 😂Fuck me, the pearls have been clutched to tightly, the string has broken and they're all over the floor.

Thanks for the laugh!

ruethewhirl · 02/07/2026 22:54

Does he have a cheeky sense of humour, OP, or is he serious? My DH would say this sort of thing as a joke but wouldn't actually expect me to do it.

Sensiblesal · 02/07/2026 22:54

How long have you been together & is this your first weekend away?

I’d find this funny if I’d been with someone a while. Kind of hard to explain why! but like reading it from the perspective of new fella and first weekend away, I’d feel like same & I’d suddenly not want his meat & veg because I’d think actually thats all he wants. Not a girlfriend a shag.

Its the expectation and the prostitute get up & maybe I’ve been on mumsnet too long

hahabahbag · 02/07/2026 22:47

To eaches own I suppose. My dh wouldn’t be brave enough to even mention such things, he’s not actually bothered by them thankfully, even on our wedding day he said be comfortable to me when I said i needed to buy something “decent” in the end I wore chub rub shorts under my dress, sexy or what Blush

GoodGuessButNotRight · 02/07/2026 22:44

Franjipanl8r · 02/07/2026 22:44

I didn’t even know people actually bought stockings and suspenders anymore, sounds a bit old fashioned. I’d be asking if he’s bringing his braces and bow tie.

😂

Franjipanl8r · 02/07/2026 22:44

I didn’t even know people actually bought stockings and suspenders anymore, sounds a bit old fashioned. I’d be asking if he’s bringing his braces and bow tie.

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