“All the trimmings” - to find this quite vile?

Fuck me you’re persistent 🤦🏻‍♀️

I’m not a back tracker at all and it’s not what I implied. I said what I said and I meant it. That you don’t have the capabiliy to interpret and understand it correctly is not my problem. I’ve tried explaining what the problem is with what he said. As have many others. I’m going to have one last try at clarifying that particular statement, and then you’re going to have to ask someone else to explain it to you, because I don’t have the patience for you.

I said "because there will always be women whose bar is on the floor and who will just laugh it off as banter." That does NOT mean that women who deal with situations with humour are ‘lesser’. Of course it fucking doesn’t mean that! What it does mean is that there are instances where a man’s ’jokey’ comment should not be treated as banter but where he should be pulled up and not be allowed to get away with it. And even if a woman’s bar is on the floor, that still doesn’t make her less than any other woman. Is that clear now? Because if it isn’t, then you’ll just have to draw a line under it and move on.

I haven’t got the energy or the patience to explain it again.

I haven’t got the energy or the patience to explain it again.

I haven’t got the energy or the patience to explain it again.

Methinks he/she protests too much. 😏

Fuck me you’re persistent 🤦🏻‍♀️

I’m not a back tracker at all and it’s not what I implied. I said what I said and I meant it. That you don’t have the capabiliy to interpret and understand it correctly is not my problem. I’ve tried explaining what the problem is with what he said. As have many others. I’m going to have one last try at clarifying that particular statement, and then you’re going to have to ask someone else to explain it to you, because I don’t have the patience for you.

I said "because there will always be women whose bar is on the floor and who will just laugh it off as banter." That does NOT mean that women who deal with situations with humour are ‘lesser’. Of course it fucking doesn’t mean that! What it does mean is that there are instances where a man’s ’jokey’ comment should not be treated as banter but where he should be pulled up and not be allowed to get away with it. And even if a woman’s bar is on the floor, that still doesn’t make her less than any other woman. Is that clear now? Because if it isn’t, then you’ll just have to draw a line under it and move on.

He sounds like a keeper... if you don't like it I hope you've told him.

My ex used to say: "Can't wait to see you and looking forward to being as close as two people can be." It was romantic, it was sweet and both knew what it meant (!) but he never asked me what I would be wearing. Yuck.

It's exactly what you implied....back tracker.

"because there will always be women whose bar is on the floor and who will just laugh it off as banter."

🤦‍♀️ Fucking hell.

No. That’s not what I said. It’s not what I meant. It’s not what I implied. It’s not how I feel. It’s not what I think. You have spectacularly misunderstood. And, just like @Piknik I no longer have the energy to keep explaining it.

We’ve had a lovely weekend away, he has been very apologetic and we are both happy to move forward.

No. It. Doesn’t.

Misses. The. Point.

We’ve had a lovely weekend away, he has been very apologetic and we are both happy to move forward.

I thought this was going to be about pigs in blankets and stuffing balls……

We’ve had a lovely weekend away, he has been very apologetic and we are both happy to move forward.

Thank you – I probably should've clarified why!

But as I said, I just find it itchy and uncomfortable anyway! I'm just not the sort to bother with that fuss and expense.
And the way OP's partner addressed it sounded so impersonal and entitled, as though OP needs to dress up to please him, and just being herself isn't enough (unless of course, she's established that she loves wearing fancy lingerie)!

when did being desired by your partner become an issue? If you are offended by the term then grow up and speak to him. If not, well grow up anyway. Consenting adults are allowed to enjoy sex.

This man's throwaway remark has far deeper meanings for some women, and obviously no one wants to demean their feelings.

But for many women, it wouldnt be a big deal,they would either go along with it or they would put him in his place with humour.
The OP says she 'reprimanded him' and would not be sleeping with him, which suggests she either took it as an order, and if he is the type to bark orders why is she going away with him in the first place?...or she is a prude.
Either way, they are obviously mismatched, if they stay together I see the man walking around with shrivelled balls in years to come.

We’ve had a lovely weekend away, he has been very apologetic and we are both happy to move forward.