AIBU to ask my parents to stay in a hotel?

I’m not quite sure why you have them. It’s fairly obvious older people want a quieter house and you resent their needs so why did anyone think this would work? Suggest they go home and monitor the building work and make coffees for the builders like everyone else does. Pretty easy to suggest this.

A cruise sounds like a great idea and they’re paying!!

Another vote for saying this, it's straightforward and fair, not unkind or sounding like you're actively trying to kick them out.

What's that old saying about house guests? Like fish, after 3 days they start to smell...

Agree with the above posters. Its your DCs' house, and your dogs' house too! Your parents are the guests and you are doing them a massive favour. I would keep saying I am not locking the dogs away and the DC can carry on, its not for them to comment on. Maybe ask if they would feel more comfortable elsewhere and you can help find an air bnb and they could just pop over for dinner or something, but honestly this is so rude and entitled of them!

Definitely sounds like they need to get somewhere that works for them rather than getting other people to adjust their lives to suit them

I don't think you specifically ave to ask them to leave but you can say, "This is our home and the children are behaving in ways we consider completely acceptable. if it doesn't work for you, you are of course very welcome to go stay in a hotel."

Then, if they keep moaning,

"I can't keep listening to the moaning. I've already told you - either accept this, or go somewhere else."

Just tell them that it is your house and nothing is going to change. If they’re unhappy then they’re welcome to to a hotel.

Definitely send them on a cruise ... maybe a month?

It’s lifestyle incompatibility. My mum thinks it’s ridiculous my 20 yr old goes out at 11pm for evening or I allowed a female friend of hers to stay without knowing full particulars about her.
There’s an undercurrent of I shouldn’t be allowing it.
My dd is abroad working in her uni summer. It’s lovely your dc are at home you don’t want your summer spoiled because grandparents think everyone should have tea at 5pm and be in bed by 9pm. And up at 7am even if they are working until 2am or want to go to a concert.
Could the work be put off until a later date or alternative accommodation arranged.

feel like asking my parents to leave and go to a hotel until their house is ready if they don’t like it but I know this won’t go down well.

So? Do you have problems standing up to them?

Whoever said "my house my rules" - that is inspired and is what so many of us were told as kids!

You are 100% not being unreasonable. They can either shut up or fuck off IMO!

I think you need a frank conversation with your parents. It’s not working.
It’s a shame if they are spoiling one of your dc’s last summers at home. It sounds like you are quite happy with dc’s plans and they are considerate.
I can imagine you feel like piggy in middle.

They are being incredibly rude and entitled. You need to make it very clear that your kids will not be modifying their behaviour in their own home, as neither you nor your husband have a problem with it.
If the situation isn’t working for them as they thought, you can helpfully suggest an Airb&b or hotel.

There is a thing some parents of adult children do, where they just don't take on board that they are no longer in a position to arbitrate the way life ought to be lived. Your parents sound as if they're doing this. They think they're entitled to set boundaries for your children and make decisions about where pets go, and so on.

I would sit them down and say, 'mum, dad ... we like that [adult children's names] are enjoing summer with their friends. Please don't complain at them - we've worked hard to make them feel they can have this sort of lifestyle in our home and we really don't want them to feel unwelcome.' And 'we like having the dogs upstairs; it's one of our favourite things about having pets'.

They need to see clearly that the things they think are inconveniences they, in their wisdom, can correct for you, are actually valued parts of your lifestyle. If they can't understand this, yes, they ought to go!

My parents are dreadful and I've largely given up (and would never have them stay like this!), but I remember one time my dad explained he'd been to my brother's house and had helpfully instituted a rule about how much their then-toddler daughter spoke at mealtimes. He genuinely believed it'd been a useful intervention. I remember it striking me very clearly!

Parents are supposed to annoy you. My dad has moved in twice in the last 5 years. You just need to breathe and smile through a clenched jaw til it's over. Don't kick them out.

How long will they be staying (if you don't kick them out first!)?

If it's another week or two I'd try and get on with it by ignoring their moaning and breezily changing the subject every time they mention it.

If, on the other hand we are talking weeks or months, I'd have words - similar to those already mentioned above, "you are welcome, but this is our home and how we all live, we won't be changing anything, so maybe you need to adapt to our lifestyle. If that is not possible, maybe you'd like to stay somewhere else etc., and please do not complain anymore because none of us will be listening, thanks".

Holiday lodges are very nice this time of year. Tell them not to worry about the cost as they can treat it as a holiday and this time next year they won’t miss what they will have spent on it. Book it quick before schools break up.

"The kids - and us, and the dogs - live here, and you don't; our normal family life isn't going to change. So it's just going to be a question of putting up with it for a bit longer. But if you decide you need to go, we won't take offence". Then ball's in their court, and they understand that it's them who need to make an effort to not be a nuisance to you, not the other way round. They don't get the peace and privacy of a holiday cottage without paying for one.

Tell them to leave, this is probably your last handful of years where your dc are still coming home, and you sound like you have a lovely dynamic, don’t let your miserable parents taint it for any of you.

^ absolutely this!

They can buy their own earplugs

I would remind them it’s your house and you live how you want. You’re doing them a favour, not the other way around. Maybe it is best they go home, get an Airbnb or a hotel (in the UK or abroad)?

Last time my mum was staying and started being like this. I reminded her; my house, my rules. She didn’t like it but there you go

If your parents are that bothered about the noise from your children, have you bought them earplugs?

They aren't being great guests but, more importantly, it wouldn't hurt your DC to be more considerate hosts. A life lesson for them? Irritating as it may be,life isn't all about them either.
Your parents need to accept that communal areas are not under their control - they need to at least help themselves by using their room or going out.
A family meeting is required to discuss compromises.