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AIBU - I want to find my first love

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LostMyFirstLove · 02/07/2026 12:32

Long time lurker, name changed to ensure this isn’t outing.

just as it says in the title really, I want to find him - more than anything just to know he’s ok (alive tbh, he was a biker!). I have no inclination to ‘rock the boat’ or run away with him or anything silly.

I’ve always had a recurring dream where I know where he is and can see him but can’t get to him. Just recently, this has morphed into a dream where I can see him and talk to him.

Over the years, I’ve often thought of him and wondered how he was doing, and I just really want to he’s ok and has had a good life. I’ve tried all the usual ways to find him - Facebook and instagram but he has a spectacularly common name so is proving quite difficult.

OP posts:
MissMoneyFairy · 02/07/2026 12:41

If he wanted to keep in touch he would, leave the memories in the past

MegMortimer · 02/07/2026 12:41

Don't bother, you'll regret it.

LostMyFirstLove · 02/07/2026 12:39

Valid8me · 02/07/2026 12:35

Why do you need to know how he's doing?

How long ago are we talking since you last saw him or had contact?

I don’t know really, it’s always just played in my mind as to whether he had a good life.

we went out separate ways in early 2000’s

OP posts:
Valid8me · 02/07/2026 12:35

Why do you need to know how he's doing?

How long ago are we talking since you last saw him or had contact?

MissMoneyFairy · 02/07/2026 12:34

Don't stalk an ex, no good comes of it.