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If you dont post your dc on social media

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Namechanged2910 · 02/07/2026 10:56

Dc are 2 and 4. I want to preface this by saying I get on well with my ILs generally but am struggling to see if iabu. Mil is great with the dc and generally goes with how we want things done and when they arent I generally dont really mind or bring it up as its not a big deal. My 2 main asks if that the children dont have photos taken of them in just a nappy, and no photos at all on social media. I recently got sent a photo of dc in a nappy which I asked her to delete and she did and last week mil changed her whatsapp profile picture to one of the dc. I havent said anything but it is really bothering me. I want to ask for it to be deleted but if you dont show your dc on social media would you be ok with this?

Aibu to ask her to delete it or blur the dc?

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NuffSaidSam · 02/07/2026 11:13

I think if she sends photos to friends and family (and you're ok with that) then having a picture of her grandchildren in her WhatsApp picture is also fine (because that's also only friends and family).

But also, if it makes you uncomfortable and she's a reasonable person, asking her to delete it should be ok.

blankcanvas3 · 02/07/2026 11:13

I don’t show my two youngest on social media and wouldn’t be happy if anybody had a photo of them as their whatsapp picture!

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Namechanged2910 · 02/07/2026 11:10

Thank you I didnt want to mention it if others think iabu but wanted a non biased opinions. I have never posted my dc online, whether blurred, back of head etc, and everyone else has respected this. I have never posted anyone elses dc either. Mil does send photos to all friends and family which is why I reminded her we don't take those photos and asked her to delete them so they cant be sent on. I am aware I am being overly protective but unsure of where the limit is of internet safety so would feel safer them not being seen online at all

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Dreamerinme · 02/07/2026 11:02

We don’t photos of our DC on SM, aside from the only two photos I have put on Facebook which are distance shots with no face visible (they were scenery photos with them on it). One family friend once put a few photos on when DC was about 3 but other than that, we don’t have family and friends who post photos of other people’s children, but if we did then I would politely ask them to remove them.

Ipsevenenabibas · 02/07/2026 10:59

I don't use social media. I think it's a bit much to ask them to delete the WhatsApp profile picture though. As long as the child is dressed appropriately it wouldn't be an issue for me.