AIBU to object to an older child sitting directly in a food trolley?

You are a fun sponge. The rats run amok in those trolleys at night, the handle probably has not been wiped with an antibacterial wipe since Covid. Trolley’s are filthy. I’d think the child could catch a disease before passing one on.?

Trolleys are filthy anyway. You are being daft (and I speak as somebody with a phobia around contamination).

I’m with you OP, I don’t like seeing kids sitting in trolleys either, but I’d have silently judged…and not said anything.

MOre casual ageism

I mean object all you like, doesn’t stop other people doing what they please. Also the state of the trolleys anyway is gross. I wouldn’t pay it much thought.

So now and old lady is lifting an 8 year old in and out of a trolley. Ok, leave it there shall we. No-one wants to listen to this shite!

YANBU. People are so thoughtless.

Whilst I appreciate the comments about foxes, etc, I have my own moan.

I was once in a fish and chip shop and Quite A Famous Person was in the queue ahead of me. The QAFP put her 2 year old (estimated) to sit on the counter - the same counter where food wrapped only in paper is passed over - while she waited. WIBU to think about germs from a child's bum being passed to the food - MY food - slid across?

I’m sorry, if they can climb into the trolley they can’t have such a condition? Can they not ?? What research is that based off? Because to me climbing into a trolley and walking for a significant period of time are two different things, using various different muscles and a certain amount of energy. You can’t just say ‘ they can’t have a condition’ purely because you say so. People with disabilities can do a myriad of things that might look hard to you and then not be able to do things that look more simple, it’s not black and white? Also no mention in original post of the girl being seen to climb into and out of the trolley, the presumed grandma could have lifted her for all we know

YANBU it is gross, and I would likely have reacted as you did. Granny in this case probably thinks it’s ok for her to do this but would be aghast if someone else did it.

Seriously trolleys are one of the dirtiest things around.

Urine, snot, faeces etc. All the people who never wash their hands and wheel the trolley. It's a cease pit and just a fact of life.

Personally I would have just minded my own business and had a chuckle at the child in the trolley and the granny. I also would have retorted too if I was the granny but I'm petty !!!

You think the metal is clean? Feet or none it won’t ever be cleaned.

and also - get a hobby.

I’ve used the main trolley before for my older child who has an invisible disability. The disabled trolleys are few and far between. I also tend to leave the house without a sandwich board attached to her announcing to the public what her invisible disability is, so to you and other people who maybe aren’t well versed in disabilities that aren’t accompanied by ‘obvious’ symptoms , it might look like a parent who’s shoved their child in the trolley for sheer convenience . But for me it means I can do the shopping safely for my children, and my disabled daughter can enjoy the experience and feel it’s accessible to her.

You have ZERO clue if this child was disabled. There are a vast amount of conditions that are now considered disabled so you are being wholly unreasonable and completely ignorant and ableist to make such a sweeping generalisation based off of a few minutes of observation.

Everyone who is saying its ok as the trolleys are not clean, whould they be saying the same thing if covid was still a danger.
I think putting an older child inside a trolly is disgusting. They are not a fun fair ride.l

Its pretty grim and generally either lazy parenting or entitlement. I know people will argue the child may have a disability etc but I have a disabled teenager. He was hell to shop with when he was younger because of his disabilities however I would never have risked his safety by sitting him in trolley basket area. I read a story of a parent whose did it and put the baby in the baby seat. The trolley tipped and both kids got injured (one badly). She then tried to sue the supermarket. The court threw it out and put the blame purely back on the mother for failing to safeguard her child. The poor kids though.

Were you planning on licking the trolley, OP? A child’s feet are the least of your worries! Leaking meat juices, potential rodent/bird excrement if stored outside… I could go on. I never assume that a trolley is clean, nor would I put any unwrapped food in contact with one.

When DD was young and I needed to fit in an after school shop then she very often sat in the trolley - as a single mum, anything that made life easier in a busy shop with a tired 6yo was worth doing.

The person who should ‘get a life’ is the nosey Parker who decided to ruin someone’s day over a total non issue. It wasn’t dangerous and the germ factor is minimal. Eye rolling and tutting is the polite response, I’m sure many would have been much more vocal if op said this to them.

Hmmn!

Have you ever heard of the Zero Tolerance approach?
Let the little things slide and you you will soon be sitting under an avalanche.

Difficult concept to grasp isn't it! 😄

Never mind, plenty do understand it and it will benefit those who don't-that includes you and you're very welcome.

I think this comment is a little OTT. There are trollies designed for older children to sit in if needed but if they can climb into a trolley then they can't have such a condition. And sitting in where people place their food is nothing like being pushed around in a stroller.

When you have seen the conditions in which items are stored and transported, someone’s shoes in a trolley pale into insignificance. It’s not worth worrying about OP.

It’s a shopping trolley? you were rude and unpleasant

I put YABU for this reason - just because you saw a child walking for 30 seconds, doesnt mean you can tell their ability to stand and walk around for a longer period of time. While he doesnt sit in a trolley, my friends primary school age son has muscular issues and sometimes had to be pushed in a stroller on longer days out. He can walk, but not for hours. Nosey people would make comments about too old for a stroller, they have no idea.

I do think it's unhygienic and I do think it's unpleasant but I also think you should ask yourself would you have challenged a man doing this with his child or a younger woman doing this with her child or did you just feel that it was okay to do this to an older lady

I must admit I hate it when I see a child of any age inside the trolley as I too think it unhygienic - but if it's true what is said above that rats etc. are climbing round in them overnight then maybe I should stop thinking it's that dirty!
But having worked in a supermarket and seen (and heard) children fall out of trollies, I think it's a pretty stupid thing to do. I'll never forget the bang of a child's head on the floor, it haunts me, so I never understand why people put their children in such danger - just lazy parenting!

I hate when people involve themselves in other people's business. You're lucky Grandma didn't tell you to fuck off. It's literally nothing to do with you.

I've put my kids in trollies loads of times and I love the idea that someone walking near me was fuming.