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IrnBruAndDietCoke · 01/07/2026 17:41

tilypu · 01/07/2026 17:33

Exactly this!

But I have to wonder if their opinion would change if it was their daughter/wife/sister that was raped. And if they would be happy for their female relatives to be alone in a taxi with him.

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Unfortunately with these types of people, they would likely still blame their female relative if they possibly could.
At the end of the day I think a lot of blokes can’t imagine that sex could be unwanted or agonisingly painful for women, let alone the trauma and violation, so they don’t see the problem with rape beyond damage of some other bloke’s property.
That’s my theory after recently talking to an absolute idiot who didn’t understand why rape is against the law and thought women who complained about it were professional victims out to get what they could and damage men’s reputations. They walk among us.

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tilypu · 01/07/2026 17:33

ginasevern · 01/07/2026 17:31

Oh I'm sure they do. It's a boy's club isn't it. If it was something that affected their livelihoods, land or property he'd soon lose his license. But it's just a girl.

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Exactly this!

But I have to wonder if their opinion would change if it was their daughter/wife/sister that was raped. And if they would be happy for their female relatives to be alone in a taxi with him.

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ginasevern · 01/07/2026 17:31

Gooseling · 01/07/2026 17:22

They don’t think.

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Oh I'm sure they do. It's a boy's club isn't it. If it was something that affected their livelihoods, land or property he'd soon lose his license. But it's just a girl.

Gooseling · 01/07/2026 17:22

ErrolTheDragon · 01/07/2026 17:16

What the hell are those men thinking?Angry

They don’t think.

Raccoonsmacaroons · 01/07/2026 17:19

Do none of these men have daughters or wives ffs?

Someone start a petition and let’s get promoting it.

ErrolTheDragon · 01/07/2026 17:16

What the hell are those men thinking?Angry

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tilypu · 01/07/2026 17:08

nogainjustpain · 01/07/2026 16:50

It should be shocking, but sadly it is not. Like the other cases where boys/men’s futures and careers are prioritised over justice for VAWG. It’s despicable. That poor young woman. That man is clearly not safe to hold any type of license.

I agree, there are. The shocking thing about this one is that he has been given a licence to do the job by a public authority to do the work that gave him the opportunity to rape in the first place.

These, presumably mostly men, are not fit for the job. If any of them represented me I would be making myself heard. I hope that the local population are doing just that.

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NebulousSadTimes · 01/07/2026 17:07

I knew it was going to be this story by your title @tilypu .

Six male councillors voted for him to keep his licence, despite Police Scotland objecting, and four female councillors voted against.

Thankfully "Highland Council said the decision has now been temporarily halted and will be reviewed by the full council". Here's hoping for a more appropriate decision. We will be watching.

ThisAmpleCritic · 01/07/2026 16:54

First response nailed it. We live in such a shitty world where women and girls are hated and treated as such.

nogainjustpain · 01/07/2026 16:50

It should be shocking, but sadly it is not. Like the other cases where boys/men’s futures and careers are prioritised over justice for VAWG. It’s despicable. That poor young woman. That man is clearly not safe to hold any type of license.