Invited the wrong child by mistake

You don't need to be conscious of anything or make out like it's awkward.

You've invited him and he's accepted.

If it's a hard limit then you need to ask the family friend to step back as a favour to you to help ypu get out of a tight spot.

I don't think you can uninvited the boy or let DD have a party wothout her best friend when they all go to the same school, so it has to be the family friend if you can't pay extra.

Both of my DS have been the only boys at Infant school parties ( ages 4-7). Definitely not accidently invited and didn't mind at all. I wouldn't have thought it odd.

If you can afford soft play for 10 you can make some savings somewhere and pay for 11 . It's what £20? You can't uninvite a child

If all invited have accepted, and more kids cannot be invited due to capacity, you cannot un-invite the boy.

OP, I know this has put you in a tricky spot but I agree with you and others, that you can't uninvite the poor boy. Hopefully someone says they can't attend, so it opens up a spot for the child your daughter wants to invite. Has everyone responded to the invite?

I don't think there's any need to let the mum know that he's the only boy from class as he won't be the only boy at the party. If he doesn't attend won't the family friend be the only boy at the party, were you going to let his mum know this?

What weird system is this? Is class rep a paid role to deal with all this admin? A whole class WhatsApp would solve this issue because you'd just have all the parents numbers.

Anyway, I'd just explain to the mum that there's been a mix up, I'm sure she'll be fine. I've got a DS who would hate to be the only boy and it would be pretty obvious when we got there that it was a mistake which is even more awkward than just messaging.

Admittedly I hadn’t considered the angle that perhaps the boy wouldn’t want to go in the circumstances… I’m jumping onto the fence now maybe.

Honestly, as a boy mum, I think you should fess up and say you were given the wrong number and had intended to invite Chloe not Ben.

Tell her that Ben is welcome to come as you don’t wish to disappoint him but to be aware that he’ll be the only boy there.

In those circs, Ben would probably rather not go and you’ve given them the option to back out graciously.

Otherwise the mum will realise you cocked up on the day of the party when Ben is the only lad there, and she’ll also think you’re a bit of a twat for not owning up to the mistake!

You should tell the mum about the error. It will be bloody obvious on the day so don't set them up for embarrassment then just because you're too embarrassed to tell them now.

Then you can leave it up to her what to do.

Absolutely definitely do not uninvited him, that would be an appalling social faux pas and would be so upsetting for the poor kid if he is already aware of the party. Either stump up extra for (ideally!) two more, the friend missed in error and a mate for the little boy invited in error OR bump the family friends to another day (they’re much more likely to be accepting of this without causing offence) and invite the actual friend that way. What a pickle.

Are they siblings. Is her best friend in the same class group as her or are they the same year so have breaks together but different classes and your child is in his class.

Go Oldskool next time get your daughter to use pen, paper and envelope invites - there will be no mix up when she hands the invites out in person. Much more personal too I used to love writing my party invites 🩷

Why do people make an error and then try and claim they dont have any money! It drives me bananas. How much are we talking about £15-£20?

Its like those people who go abroad and then start a Go Fund Me because they couldnt be arsed to get any travel insurance.

You cannot uninvite this poor boy.

Don’t do this. Just don’t.

I would write to her and tell her what happened and say that he's very welcome to come if he wants to but none of the other boys will be there... if he's anything like my son he will be grateful for the opportunity to bail. At that point you can invite DD's friend. If he still wants to come then I don't think you can uninvite him

You can’t uninvite him.
I think you’ll just have to either find the money for an extra or invite this girl out for a separate birthday treat with just DD, park and ice cream etc.

I agree to let the mum know about the mix up without uninviting to see if they withdraw. If they don't, and everyone else can come, I'd see if I could borrow the money to invite one extra.

I would message his mum and say I’ve just realised he’s the only boy and there’s no space to add another, will he be ok with this? Hopefully he won’t and then the problems fixed for you.

If the child that was meant to be invited is dd’s best friend, I’d explain to her mum what’s happened and organise a sleepover or another activity just for the two of them

Phone up the events place tell them your mistake ask if you can pay the £40 extra or whatever in 4 weekly instalments or see if they will allow that one extra due to your oversight

I really wouldn't . . .

If money was tight I'd ask the family friends to pay their own way - say sorry, you've ended up having to invite more children, classroom politics, you know how it is, you'll take them out for a pint or something to say thanks later. Ask at least one other child the extra kid is friends with too. Don't get too het up about boys and girls at 7, mine were all still very happy to play in mixed groups until way later than that. Still are, really.

I honestly would try to shell out to do this if at all possible (assuming no-one declines). You can't uninvite the boy, that would be unkind, but its really sad for dd not to get one of her best friends there.

You can't uninvite him and if your DD doesn't get to invite her best friend, that might cause some problems for her too, no small child is going to buy 'my mum accidentally invited the wrong person' so she'll be upset.

Then tell the accidental invite kids mum whats happened and hopefully, knowing none of the other boys are going, he will decline. If not, you'll have to cough up for one extra but it was your error so that seems fair really!