Invited the wrong child by mistake

Send the mum a message explaining you sent the invitation by accident and it’s a girls only party. Say he’s still more than welcome to come but will he mind being the only boy.
Chances are she will pull out and no one’s feelings get hurt.

Not everyone is as funny about playing with kids of the opposite sex as you and your family though. If she’s already told her son and he’s excited it’d be very rude to uninvite him. Plus he won’t be the only boy, he might not know the other boy but there will be another one there.

You can’t uninvite him, did you not see the whole thread on here a short while ago where the birthday girls mum uninvited a couple of children because they had too many…
It created a lot of ill feeling and even more pulled out of the party, which isn’t a big surprise as it’s totally rude to uninvite someone.
I would however invite the extra person that got missed, someone will end up not coming due to something and if they don’t it’s only one extra to pay for. My son had a soft play party and was allowed to invite 16 as part of the party package. We had a few extras turn up (siblings) that I hadn’t expected and their parents agreed to pay for them in addition.
Its always risky asking someone else for contact information, we knew the parents by sight for most of the children so I handed the invitation directly to the parents before the kids were let out.
The couple of children I didn’t know I asked the teacher to pop it into the bookbags.

Talk to the parents of the boy you accidentally invited. He might not want to come once he finds out he’s the only boy.

How about giving the boy's mum a choice? Admit the mistake, say DD likes him and is fine with him coming if he wants to but you're aware he may not want to if it's only girls from school other than him. That way a) he's not going to be embarrassed coming to a party with all girls (some boys would mind, others wouldn't) and b) you may free up a space.

It can't be that expensive to add one more child. This is your mistake so you need to suck it up. It would be so rude to withdraw the invitation now.

i mean you could say, sorry it was a mistake and if you dont want to come you will understand

Oh just tell the mum you are only inviting girls and there was a mix up with the phone numbers. The mum will probably be glad, 1 less party to waste her afternoon at and 1 less gift to buy! I have 5 and 8 year old boys, they wouldnt be happy if they got to a party and it was only girls from the class there, I actually pulled out of a party recently when no other boys were going (at my 8 year old's request).

If at all possible I’d give the child your DD meant to invite an extra invitation and find the money to include one extra child.

It would be horribly rude to uninvite a child.

Don’t invite him. That would be unkind. Let him come.

Oh that’s awful. Cringy.

Ha I did this! We had only been at the school a year - son is summer born so party at the end of the year. It was going to be all the boys in class so I asked the teacher for the class list (you voluntarily put your contact details on). I went over it with my son (he was about 9 or 10) and he said that he didn’t recognise one name. I thought maybe quiet boy and I didn’t want to leave anyone out, so asked him anyway (my son said ok). So party rolls around and this boy arrives and my son says to me ‘never met him in my life’. The mum comes up to me and says ‘thank you so much for inviting Nick! He hasn’t made many friends at his new school so nice to see his old friends’. So he had left the school but was still on the list! I mean it was fine my son didn’t mind it was an outdoor activity thing and one more didn’t really add to the cost but it was so funny that she accepted knowing that her son had never met mine.
In your case I’d try to squeeze the missed out frond in (no need to add another for this boy).

I once had the mum of the party boy open his presents for him whilst the party was ongoing. She was a bit weird to be fair. As if to judge if we had given a decent present.

If it was someone my child wasn't particularly friends with I would understand it was a mistake. I'm very surprised that the class rep was allowed to give you names & phone numbers of the parents though

Mistakes happen - I think in this instance I would just suck up the cost of adding one more on to the party and inviting the child your daughter wants.

We’ve done similar before in making a mistake with a person that was invited - my son gave me a name and I hunted down the mum to invite the child - he turned up and it wasn’t the kid my son thought it was going to be 😂😂

Not everyone will accept the invitation, so you should have enough money for one more.

I would find the money for one extra, even if this meant baked beans for a week. You can’t uninvite the boy.

😂

I agree. It would be horribly rude to uninvite somebody.

How expensive are we talking, for one extra child? Surely of you daughter is that disappointed you could make it work and squeeze one more child…
imagine how would you/your daughter feel of the boot was on another foot and you for uninvited

Yeah this happened to me when my daughter was young except it was a girl in her class rather than a boy. She didn't particularly like this girl (but they actually became very good friends when they were older) I just paid for the extra person, i couldn't un-invite her after she's accepted and told my daughter how excited she was to be going 😶The fact that it's a boy though and only girls from the class are going it wouldn't be as bad to admit it was an accident

Well you can’t uninvite the kid, so I’d try and find the money for 1 extra

You may well have drop outs so can invite the right one as well

Not all will be able to attend so just add the girl and job done.

You have a choice
a) let the boy come because you invited him
b) contact the mother and explain you were given the wrong details.

If you do b) I think you need to do it now and be honest. You never know maybe she accepted just to be polite.