Invited the wrong child by mistake

It'll be ok seeing as no other boy is going

Just explain it

Would be silky to have him come and your daughter's friend miss out

Same !

This.

You can’t uninvite him that would be cruel. Can’t you add just one more surely it wouldn’t be that more expensive. How would your DD feel if she was suddenly uninvited knowing that others were there. Lesson learned I’d say be more careful next time

I would my hands up with the mum explain what has happened and who is coming. Tell her he is more than welcome to come but if he doesn't want to please don't feel obligate to say yes.
Then I would work out whether it's best to have the family friend there or the best friend.

What is your usual contact with the school parents? We have a WhatsApp group for the class and I then saved everyone's number as parent name, child's name. It helps with play dates and making sure I'm talking to the right parents!

I think it’s solvable, explain that there was an error in thr number list as dd meant to invite girl school friends only.

Was the error yours or the list sender’s?

FHB .... family hold back!

Maybe he could have learned to play with girls whilst there? My eight year old girl will play with boys. He might have had fun.

Best idea I think.

Only boy from the class, sorry.
No lie.

This. You dont have to explain that it was a mistake, just say "i just wanted to let you know that we've had the rsvps back and X will be the only boy from school going. Of course he is still very welcome but I just wanted to give you the heads up, as I know sometimes they care about that stuff at their age! If he doesnt fancy it we wont be offended if he wants to pull out, but if hes still up for it we look forward to seeing you on x day!"

Ideally speak to her in person rather than text.

If he still wants to come i think you have to suck it up unfortunately.

But he won’t be the only boy, and he could end up finding that out if he hears the girls talking about the party in school afterwards, so why lie?

Find the money for one extra child - how expensive is this place? People saying explain to the mum. She will probably understand but what about the boy? He's probably excited, like any child is when they've been invited to a party (even a girls party). Can you imagine how crushed he will feel?

I'd invite other friends to.come for a play date instead.

I had a situation once where I had invited 9 boys and 3 girls - and only one of the girls was able to come.
We had intended to invite her but I let the mum know she was the only girl.
So I might tell the mum that he would be the only boy (no need to explain why, just that it "happened") as a heads up. And if someone else can't make it, I'd add the missing girl. (I'd try to add missing girl anyway and suck up the cost).

(I remember DS getting the funnest present from the one girl, he still has it 10 years later!)

You can't uninvite the boy, that's really cruel. Surely you can squeeze one more child into the party?

You could try my DD included him but I now realise he will be the only boy will he be OK with that.

Of course DD may spill the beans at school and say what an idiot her mum is inviting the wrong child and spoiling her party, you really have to invite the best friend one way or another.

Hopefully one of the invited girls will say they can’t go and the originally intended boy (with the same name?! 😂) can come too. I suppose if he’s a family friend rather than a school friend you could do something separate with him? See if anyone drops out first I guess!

I'd explain to the mum, and say that of course he is still welcome, as you wouldn't dream of uninviting him, but she might like to be warned that he'll be the only boy from the class. It's possible that if she tells him "by the way, none of the other boys are going", he'll be less keen to go, and your problem might be solved. (He doesn't need to know he was invited by accident, just that he's the only boy.)

I would txt her and explain its a mix up with numbers and all the other invites are girls. That you're really sorry and could you take DD and her son out on a playdaye somewhere nice on a separate day as it was an all girls thing.

why does he need another boy??

Take the left out best friend on a special outing with your DD afterwards. You need to talk to the BF's parents to let them know there was a mixup.

Or you need to have a different event for the family friends. Inviting two sets of kids who don't know each other can make for a weird party regardless of the boy situation.

I don't think you can uninvite him either but you could give his mother the opportunity to duck out.

Maybe have parties not limited by numbers and cost next time, or have a better way of contacting parents.

You'd need to be very tactful.

Another vote for a) hoping someone can’t make it so the missed out child can come.
b) changing plans for either family friends/cousins etc that are likely to be more understanding
c) suck it up and pay the extra
i would not uninvite someone. Thats a crappy thing to do.

Do not uninvite the boy! You have one other boy going who is a family friend so he may be glad of the company. Either find the money to invite an extra guest, hope someone can't make it or plan something special with the left out friend. Maybe also contact the class rep and say there was a mistake in the list you received?