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Aibu to overthink this??

63 replies

rachel55488 · 01/07/2026 13:37

So the other day when my partner was leaving his son home. As he usually does (Near a coastal area) he told me he left his son home then went a drive round the coastal area by himself because it was sunny and he was listening to music. He told me this as soon as he got to my house. He told me he originally asked his son did he want to go a drive round the coastal area but he’s 13 so he just likes gaming so went on home. So he told me it was sunny and he was listening to good music so he just went a drive around it. Is this normal? He messaged me around 6pm saying see you soon then came to my house around 6.50 and said oh I just went a drive by myself (he is really big into music) I accused him and asked was he away meeting a girl 🤣 does anybody else do this when it’s sunny

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UpDownAllAround1 · 03/07/2026 13:35

Is this the multi toothbrush guy?

Rondayvu · 03/07/2026 13:02

Congratulations on your boyfriends son getting two years younger in the last few months. Any tips on how to do this? I could do with stopping my own aging process.

Minasama · 03/07/2026 12:34

What’s the problem here? Seems very normal to go for a drive and listen to music, especially in beautiful scenery.
But if you think he is meeting a girl you need to judge whether you are normally quite paranoid or whether there is a reason he’s given you to think this. It wouldn’t occur to me to think my husband was meeting a girl if he went for a drive.

MovedlikeHarlowinMonteCarlo · 03/07/2026 12:33

havingoneofthosedays · 03/07/2026 11:25

Defo was meeting another woman.

He needs to. Maybe it would be a happier relationship for him.

ponyprincess · 03/07/2026 12:30

Accidentally said YANBU

YABU it's normal if you like to drive

KilkennyCats · 03/07/2026 12:27

rachel55488 · 03/07/2026 11:26

What? You think?

Oh, stop it 🙄
You are beyond ridiculous.

rachel55488 · 03/07/2026 11:26

havingoneofthosedays · 03/07/2026 11:25

Defo was meeting another woman.

What? You think?

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havingoneofthosedays · 03/07/2026 11:25

Defo was meeting another woman.

YorksMa · 02/07/2026 22:52

rachel55488 · 02/07/2026 20:23

Does it definitly not sound like he was meeting a girl?

No, it does not sound like he was meeting a 'girl', but I wouldn't blame him if he was. You are weird and controlling.

MrsPapillon · 02/07/2026 22:24

KilkennyCats · 02/07/2026 21:57

Christ alive! This isn’t the “should I leave my boyfriend because he won’t stop eating crisps?” saddo, is it? 🤦‍♀️

I doubt it. The thread would have been titled “My boyfriend was eating crisps. Should I be worried?”

KilkennyCats · 02/07/2026 21:57

MrsPapillon · 01/07/2026 15:22

You have started 7 threads about various innocuous behaviours that you overthink about your partner.

You really shouldn’t be in a relationship. If you’re highlighting all these “issues” with him from his SM profile picture to a new toothbrush, it probably falls into the ‘abuse’ category. You need to let him go and sort your head out.

Christ alive! This isn’t the “should I leave my boyfriend because he won’t stop eating crisps?” saddo, is it? 🤦‍♀️

PurpleLovecats · 02/07/2026 21:53

I mean, he didn’t exactly have time to shag about did he 😂😂

You really need to chill out about this relationship, he will leave you and rightly so.

HortiGal · 02/07/2026 21:38

@YorksMa I’ve had a read too, OP is mad as a brush, she needs to be single.

blackrabbitwhiterabbit · 02/07/2026 21:00

This thread is CakeBrew

blankcanvas3 · 02/07/2026 20:59

I do this all the time

ChickenBananaBanana · 02/07/2026 20:58

rachel55488 · 02/07/2026 20:23

Does it definitly not sound like he was meeting a girl?

For what 4 minutes?!? Is he a 2 pump chump who wears velcro stripper clothes?

TY78910 · 02/07/2026 20:54

Can you just stop and do the maths a second? So he left at 6pm and took FIFTY minutes to get in his car, drive to another girl, spend time with her, get back in his car and drive to you? Are you ok?

rachel55488 · 02/07/2026 20:23

YorksMa · 01/07/2026 15:31

I've just been reading all your other posts about your poor boyfriend, many of them more concerning than this one. I think there are three possibilities:

  1. You're winding us all up.
  2. You're way too immature to be in any kind of relationship (you sound about 14)
  3. You're paranoid, controlling and abusive
Whichever one it is, you're being very unreasonable.

Does it definitly not sound like he was meeting a girl?

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YorksMa · 01/07/2026 15:31

I've just been reading all your other posts about your poor boyfriend, many of them more concerning than this one. I think there are three possibilities:

  1. You're winding us all up.
  2. You're way too immature to be in any kind of relationship (you sound about 14)
  3. You're paranoid, controlling and abusive
Whichever one it is, you're being very unreasonable.
ChickenBananaBanana · 01/07/2026 15:27

Jesus girl you again with this bull?

You need actual MH help.

MrsPapillon · 01/07/2026 15:22

You have started 7 threads about various innocuous behaviours that you overthink about your partner.

You really shouldn’t be in a relationship. If you’re highlighting all these “issues” with him from his SM profile picture to a new toothbrush, it probably falls into the ‘abuse’ category. You need to let him go and sort your head out.

Wishimaywishimight · 01/07/2026 15:22

If he has any sense he will run a mile...

Blueberries0761 · 01/07/2026 15:12

His behaviour is normal.
Your response to it isn't.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 01/07/2026 15:10

BudgetBuster · 01/07/2026 14:03

Ohhhh new day... new thread 🙄
You'll see told the same thing you are told every thread... GROW UP AND LEAVE YOUR BOYFRIEND BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT 13!

Oh Lord, another one from her?!

How bored must you be to do this

patooties · 01/07/2026 14:05

During lockdown we used to take it in turns to drive round the M60