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Aibu to overthink this??

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rachel55488 · 01/07/2026 13:37

So the other day when my partner was leaving his son home. As he usually does (Near a coastal area) he told me he left his son home then went a drive round the coastal area by himself because it was sunny and he was listening to music. He told me this as soon as he got to my house. He told me he originally asked his son did he want to go a drive round the coastal area but he’s 13 so he just likes gaming so went on home. So he told me it was sunny and he was listening to good music so he just went a drive around it. Is this normal? He messaged me around 6pm saying see you soon then came to my house around 6.50 and said oh I just went a drive by myself (he is really big into music) I accused him and asked was he away meeting a girl 🤣 does anybody else do this when it’s sunny

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Sunburstclocklover · 14/07/2026 17:23

Eightdayz · 03/07/2026 21:40

Deffo cheating.

Next time demand to smell his penis. This will confirm your fears.

Missing the laughing emoji big time with this post!

Mcoco · 11/07/2026 08:25

I doubt this is real and you are making things up OP. You sound like a young teenager or someone bored making up stories for attention.

LBFseBrom · 10/07/2026 01:40

Lots of people do, sounds lovely.

Blades2 · 10/07/2026 01:00

Why don’t you trust him?

because he’s not real and this is absolute tripe?

Lollipop81 · 08/07/2026 18:21

Your boyfriend should run for the hills. Carry on the way you are and he will

pouletvous · 07/07/2026 19:57

Was he driving around leering at women?

AnnoyedAsAllHeck · 06/07/2026 20:56

Rondayvu · 03/07/2026 13:02

Congratulations on your boyfriends son getting two years younger in the last few months. Any tips on how to do this? I could do with stopping my own aging process.

I could use a few years off my age. Maybe I can donate a couple of years back to her "BF's DS"?

OP I hope you get help because you are either doing this for attention or because you are batshite cray-cray. Either way, you need a lot more help than anyone here can provide.

Nourishinghandcream · 06/07/2026 19:21

The OP is either lacking in communication & relationship skills or a troll as there is a string of threads each as unreasonable as the previous one.

If real, please do yourself and your partner a favour and end the relationship as this is not healthy for either of you.

MoonWoman69 · 06/07/2026 19:00

What an absolutely bizarre post. You're coming across as a weirdo. Are you a teenager? I don't think you're mature enough to be in a relationship from what I've just read!
No, it isn't unusual to go out for a drive and listen to music, as you will see from the comments on here. And especially as he was at a loose end once he'd dropped his son off.
I suspect he decided to stay out to have some time on his own, away from the drama you seem to like creating!
I know I certainly would!

MrsMoastyToasty · 06/07/2026 18:02

If he's got an air conditioned car then he's probably in the best place.

Wildefish · 06/07/2026 17:58

YorksMa · 01/07/2026 15:31

I've just been reading all your other posts about your poor boyfriend, many of them more concerning than this one. I think there are three possibilities:

  1. You're winding us all up.
  2. You're way too immature to be in any kind of relationship (you sound about 14)
  3. You're paranoid, controlling and abusive
Whichever one it is, you're being very unreasonable.

I’m going for No 1.

Wildefish · 06/07/2026 17:55

rachel55488 · 01/07/2026 13:37

So the other day when my partner was leaving his son home. As he usually does (Near a coastal area) he told me he left his son home then went a drive round the coastal area by himself because it was sunny and he was listening to music. He told me this as soon as he got to my house. He told me he originally asked his son did he want to go a drive round the coastal area but he’s 13 so he just likes gaming so went on home. So he told me it was sunny and he was listening to good music so he just went a drive around it. Is this normal? He messaged me around 6pm saying see you soon then came to my house around 6.50 and said oh I just went a drive by myself (he is really big into music) I accused him and asked was he away meeting a girl 🤣 does anybody else do this when it’s sunny

FFS… I love a drive on a sunny day and could quite easily do it in my own even without good music.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 03/07/2026 21:58

Eightdayz · 03/07/2026 21:40

Deffo cheating.

Next time demand to smell his penis. This will confirm your fears.

😁

Eightdayz · 03/07/2026 21:40

Deffo cheating.

Next time demand to smell his penis. This will confirm your fears.

ClaredeBear · 03/07/2026 21:11

I’m not too sure what the question is!

FieryA · 03/07/2026 20:59

How do people like you get a partner? You sound very paranoid, immature, and quite silly. If you are constantly doubting every action of your partner, what's the point? How exhausting. Leave him and be free of all worry.

NotEnoughtGin · 03/07/2026 20:45

Oh fuck, it's you again! I feel sorry for your poor boyfriend, he sounds like a normal person and you are an immature fuckwit.

If he wants to go for a drive on a nice day, that's fairly normal. Your obsession over his driving/toothbrush/spreaking to people is just weird.

Dump him, he deserves better. Then get some therapy because you have issues

ChalkOutlines · 03/07/2026 18:45

Go outside and touch some grass. Then break up with this guy, do A LOT of work on yourself and then maybe, just maybe you might be ready to date again. Atm you’re toxic . To him and yourself.

BudgetBuster · 03/07/2026 18:40

rachel55488 · 03/07/2026 17:40

But when we where out for dinner last night he told me aw that’s the wee chippy I pulled in at on Sunday night to text you back like when he went a drive himself, why would he text me instead of ringing?? he then said I was gonna bring us a chippy but just went a drive himself. Why would he say about bringing me food when he knew I had a pizza with my daughter?

Have you sought a counsellor yet?
Because you need A LOT of therapy.

Frazzled89 · 03/07/2026 18:27

You sound insecure and borderline controlling, poor bloke. You should not be in any relationship at all.

SunnyRedSnail · 03/07/2026 18:13

@rachel55488 either this post is a wind up, or you are incredibly insecure, or you are somewhat deranged!!!

Lots of people go for a scenic drive when its nice. I do when I visit my parents at the coast.

Lostworlds · 03/07/2026 17:56

I go for drives all the time and listen to music. It’s nice to get some down time and just have a quiet moment, especially if it’s a nice day and a nice drive.
He text you, he told you what he was up to, is there any reason that you’re not able to trust him?

Unless he has a history of cheating then I think you’re over reacting.

PurpleLovecats · 03/07/2026 17:49

rachel55488 · 03/07/2026 17:40

But when we where out for dinner last night he told me aw that’s the wee chippy I pulled in at on Sunday night to text you back like when he went a drive himself, why would he text me instead of ringing?? he then said I was gonna bring us a chippy but just went a drive himself. Why would he say about bringing me food when he knew I had a pizza with my daughter?

You need to stop this. You are being absolutely ridiculous. Honestly, if I were your bf I would be ending the relationship as you are paranoid..

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rachel55488 · 03/07/2026 17:40

But when we where out for dinner last night he told me aw that’s the wee chippy I pulled in at on Sunday night to text you back like when he went a drive himself, why would he text me instead of ringing?? he then said I was gonna bring us a chippy but just went a drive himself. Why would he say about bringing me food when he knew I had a pizza with my daughter?

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BudgetBuster · 03/07/2026 13:47

Rondayvu · 03/07/2026 13:02

Congratulations on your boyfriends son getting two years younger in the last few months. Any tips on how to do this? I could do with stopping my own aging process.

😂😂 I actually copped this too but thought she had enough problems going on than to point out that even her paranoid rants aren't consistent anymore

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