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Affair or not

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ohh · 01/07/2026 13:07

My sisters husband has been messaging a lady saying she is beautiful and they have obviously been manipulated as elderly and the ‘ lady’ asked for money for a dress as in my body would look good in this.

He has paid so far £609 to her and they have in the past been friends. Not very close just knew each other sane circles etc.

aware she kissed him only.

I said he is having an affair or trying to.

sister said not

am I being unreasonable?

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JJMama · 02/07/2026 18:01

Given the age could be start of dementia

QueenietheGreat · 03/07/2026 17:47

@ohh
Your sister is living on the banks of 'de nile' she is.
When was the last time he lavished money on/complimented her then??

Buddhalover · 03/07/2026 18:41

Oh dear, something definitely not right here! Could be due to his medication OR he's looking for a last fling! The lady he is lavishing money/gifts on, is taking advantage of him I would say!

Glitchymn1 · 03/07/2026 18:45

Well what else is it? I’d call it an affair, he’s being very foolish and she’s a gold digger by the sounds of it. Tale as old as time.

Walker1178 · 03/07/2026 19:20

I think it’s irrelevant what you label it as. For me it would cross a boundary and I wouldn’t stay with him. If your sister thinks it is ok let her crack on, hopefully she’ll see the light before it’s too late

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