To be annoyed SIL showed DS her lactating breast

No, I get what you mean. 4 year olds are getting to grips with private parts and he was absolutely fine to be curious but she did not need to do that to show him. She could have just explained while baby was on the boob. That’s too specific and crossed a major boundary to do in front of him. Very inappropriate and I would have to have words about this. As for PPs she could have just left it as her baby breastfeeding and explained from there. No need at all to do what she did. He didn’t need to be explicitly shown like that. That’s not okay.

Yes, you cannot truthfully say that hands or mouths are completely without sexual function either.

And no, a breast can be sexual because adult foreplay which includes breasts sucking stimulates sexual arousal in many women.

So, if your hand does sexually arouse you it would be a viable comparison, but as that is unlikely it's not

Try to keep up :)

Hope that helps.

Hmm, your behaviour is extremely odd. Really bizarre to get so angry and sarcastic about an OP who has the right to ask a question and wondered if a person related by marriage had overstepped boundaries.

If a breast is sexual because some people use it sexually …then there are lots of other scary body parts used in sex…hands 😱 AND mouths

It's weird behaviour yes. But I don't think harmful for a 4 year old, just a bit ew for us.

But then I was always a very reserved breastfeeder, hidden away with nothing showing.

I've always been amazed at the women who were comfortable getting a big boob out and going for it without covering! I could imagine some of these women being very matter of fact about how the milk comes out with a toddler and it just being how they are.

Oh yeah it’s so deeply sinister…the SIL left a full voicemail explanation 🤦‍♀️

Oh dear, I thought I was talking to an adult capable of having a conversation and make reasonable comparisons.

You're not such an adult. Goodbye :)

Absolutely OP added the bat signal lol

Meanwhile SIL answered DS kindly leaving him nothing to be worried about …but she’s a bad person. Right

A person related by marriage waited till OP was out of the room then showed her child her breast up close.

OP has questions. Calling her prudish makes you sound like you have an agenda and are unable to understand normal parental concerns over overstepping boundaries.

I wouldn't like that. Unnecessary and inappropriate.

Maybe on that argument we should cover our mouths then? It’s not comparable at all

Ha, you didn't get enough outrage from your OP, so you updated it to her expressing milk 'in his face', still no outrage so you've updated her (who you referred to as she/her throughout) to a they/them? You're really scrambling here.

Totally inappropriate behaviour on her part.

She “squeezed milk in his face” as in actually squirted it into his face? Or she just showed him how a bit comes out when you squeeze your nipple?

Assuming it’s the latter, you’re being ridiculous. It’s just a nipple, get over it.

Oh dear :(

Honestly, if you are this prudish, your SIL has done your son a favour. We need to be normalising breastfeeding, not clutching pearls about it.

Ew.

I would have a problem with an older child, but not a four year old, life is very simplistic then and he asked a question which she answered and demonstrated. Its just nature.

Having said that, its something I would do with my kids, its a bit weird when they are not your kids when I think about it but I guess its the same principle and its his Aunty not some random stranger,

I think it's insane that you would reply to a perfectly reasonable response with "I think it's insane".

Obviously it's more concerning if a man shows his penis to a child, because men are by far the more predatory and dangerous sex.

But there is, indeed a comparison.

And your assertion that breasts serve no sexual function is factually false.

I disagree, but hopefully you're right.

I think you are being quite OTT here. It’s a woman nursing a baby and a bit of boob and some milk. She wasn’t giving graphic sex explanations. Breastfeeding isn’t a 12A sort thing.

I think it’s insane that you can’t see that an older male relative showing a young child their penis is completely different to a breastfeeding woman.

A milky nip is not the same as a pissy penis now is it?