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To be annoyed SIL showed DS her lactating breast

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dodomin · 30/06/2026 23:07

DS just turned 4 and he walked in on SIL breastfeeding. He asked what she's doing and she said this is how I feed the baby milk. All fine with me. She asked him if he wants to see and he said yes. So she squeezed her nipples to show milk come out. I feel like that is unnecessary.. I feel like even I wouldn't have done that if I was breastfeeding.

AIBU to feel annoyed. Yes, I understand breasts are not sexual and they're functional parts etc. But it is still taught as a private part to children and I just don't appreciate it.

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LBFseBrom · 30/06/2026 23:18

Nothing wrong with that. I remember seeing my cousin feeding her baby when I was little. It made sense, that was why women had things on their chests!

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dodomin · 30/06/2026 23:17

SaltyCara · 30/06/2026 23:13

Breasts aren't solely a private part though, as you say yourself they are (primarily) a functional part of the body producing nutrition. Your SIL demonstrated this function to your child after he initiated a conversation about it. What exactly are you annoyed about? What effect do you think the demonstration will have had on him, aside from giving him a good understanding of the natural function of the human body?

I mean if DS was a girl and her uncle was weeing in the toilet and she said "what are you doing?" it would be inappropriate to be like "look this is where wee comes out of". That too serves a function.

I think showing him was excessive. Explaining it is not.

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FWC2026 · 30/06/2026 23:17

SaltyCara · 30/06/2026 23:13

Breasts aren't solely a private part though, as you say yourself they are (primarily) a functional part of the body producing nutrition. Your SIL demonstrated this function to your child after he initiated a conversation about it. What exactly are you annoyed about? What effect do you think the demonstration will have had on him, aside from giving him a good understanding of the natural function of the human body?

This!

YABVU & ridiculous.

AgnesMcDoo · 30/06/2026 23:16

He’s 4 and being shown how a baby is fed. She’s teaching him what’s normal. You could learn from her.

Minasama · 30/06/2026 23:15

Gosh I am with you OP. This seems inappropriate to me, although I’msure it was done with the best of intentions.
Let’s hope he doesn’t ask any other women if milk comes out their boobs if they squeeze them!!!
When he’s a teenager he’s going to remember this and be horrified!

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dodomin · 30/06/2026 23:15

I think part of it is that we are not close. She is my husband's sister. They do not have much of a relationship and she has met DS maybe 4 times ever.

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SaltyCara · 30/06/2026 23:13

Breasts aren't solely a private part though, as you say yourself they are (primarily) a functional part of the body producing nutrition. Your SIL demonstrated this function to your child after he initiated a conversation about it. What exactly are you annoyed about? What effect do you think the demonstration will have had on him, aside from giving him a good understanding of the natural function of the human body?

giddyaunt19 · 30/06/2026 23:13

I kinda get what you mean. There’s nothing wrong with it but I guess it’s not something I’d ever do myself and especially not with a child
who’s not mine?

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dodomin · 30/06/2026 23:12

Am I really? I'm a bit surprised. I don't have a problem with breastfeeding or feeding in public at all. But to squeeze your nipple to show a kid... That's the bit I find excessive. He also didn't ask to see it.

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VoltaireMittyDream · 30/06/2026 23:11

You’re being ridiculous.

SoozyWoozy5 · 30/06/2026 23:09

He’s 4. Not 14.. get a grip