AIBU to worry about my 15-year-old missing 2-3 period?

I don’t agree that it’s so dreadful to ask her to do a pregnancy test.

You can frame it as “Of course I believe you, but if we end up needing to see a doctor about this, it’s the first thing they will ask, so best to rule it out for that reason”.

I agree that thyroid and PCOS are possible explanations. If you/she suspect these then eating low carb should help. Any other PCOS symptoms like hairiness or acne? Not everyone has all the symptoms though.

If you really must get her a pregnancy test, it needs to come with the caveat: I understand you aren’t having sex, and I believe that. But, just in case you were and hadn’t felt comfortable telling me, here is a test. If you do the test I won’t presume that means you are having sex, you could just be putting my mind at ease. And if you do want to talk about anything I’m here.

But I am betting that it is nothing to worry about, and that time will bring the period. If not then GP

Ive never been regular so to me missing few periods when 15 are not red flags.

However close you are with your daughter, you cannot be sure she absolutely has not ever been sexually active.

Irregular periods at 15 are not uncommon. Mine were all over the place at that age, as were my daughter's.

Please don't make her take a pregnancy test if she tells you she is not sexually active. That's just going to humiliate her and make her think you don't trust her. (and I'm sure she's capable of getting a test herself if she is lying to you).

OP- in your case it might be peri-menopause.

I have had times when I didn’t menstruate because my body was stressed with continuous hot weather. In a hot country, so I don’t know if a 4 day heat wave would do that, but it might

get a urine sample bottle from the GP surgery to take with you to a doctors appointment (and then do a pregnancy test)

Sudden weight-loss could also be a factor - anorexia, or other ED - but it doesn't sound like that is the case?

In the UK you need at least 2 out of the 3 main symptoms. If you don’t have these you will not be diagnosed with the condition.

What if the boy is 15 or 14?

Hi,
Firstly I recommend that you book an appointment with the GP.
Secondly, taking a multivitamin supplement could be useful.
My daughter was in a similar situation and when I booked a GP appointment, she was given some blood tests. Her vitamin levels were low. My daughter says eating a vitamin supplement helps her periods stay regular.
In my daughter's case it was the vitamin B12 and iron that she was low in.
Hope this reply helps and best wishes.

DD didn't have a period for several months. I knew that she wasn't having sex. She was under a Paeds Consultant for something else and I asked them to refer her for PCOS.

DD was 16/17 and the Gynie Consultant said they don't usually diagnose that young but there were 3 symptoms for diagnosis and DD had all 3. She lost some weight and her periods returned.

I would sit down with your DD and calmly and gently talk to her to see if there is any chance that she could be pregnant. Otherwise, all you can do is take her to the GP and see if they will refer her anywhere.

I agree take her to the GP. As a sexual health nurse, I see teens every day that don’t tell their parents they are sexually active, so you really cannot be certain, but the GP will want to do a pregnancy test so at least you won’t have to be the one to ask her to take one.

Definitely take her to the GP. A pregnancy test will be the first thing they do so warn her of this. Take a urine sample.

I’d take her to gp as first step.
As long as you are not pregnant it’s probably peri

I agree with this .

There are so many more symptoms of PMOS than just irregular periods and (visible signs of) high androgen levels. Ignorance of the condition is one of the main reasons why it has been renamed. It is entirely possible to have very few of the classic symptoms during teenage years, only for them to manifest later.

This.

I advised someone with sinus eye pain to see an optician before the GP as it’s the first thing they ask, so better to do it before contacting GP so you don’t get stopped at the first hurdle. Same idea really.

I would buy a pregnancy test and put it to her that if she goes to the GP they will !00% ask her to do one anyway, just to rule it out before they continue

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Buy the pregnancy test and if negative, ask GP to test for PCOS.

I think insisting on a pregnancy test will unnecessarily humiliate her. She’s said she isn’t sexually active so you should trust this, particularly if there’s limited chance she even could have had sex. I don’t know how open your relationship is with her but I know my teen DD’s would tell me if they had sex and 100% if they thought they could be pregnant.

Surely if you don’t have irregularly periods and you don’t have high androgen levels, which is generally the reason for weight gain in these cases, you can’t meet 2 of the criteria? The only thing left is cysts which in its own isn’t pcos.

Ask her to pee in a cup for the gp and do a pregnancy test yourself first to be sure. Is she stressed, my periods stopped during exams and restarted afterwards when I relaxed.

My DD hadn’t have a period at all, so different. But by 15 she was understandably concerned. I booked a doctor’s appointment, and asked if she wanted me to come with her. She very much did. I told her that they would ask me to leave the room at some point to ask if she could be pregnant, and that I would obviously go… but if she really didn’t want me to leave, I wouldn’t.

At no point did they even mention the possibility of pregnancy. I found that shocking. She was physically developed, btw, although slim. It’s the very first thing I would have expected them to raise.

So, no, they won’t necessarily assume pregnancy.