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AIBU to think my daughter cannot afford this holiday abroad?

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ThisTealLeader · 30/06/2026 21:48

Daughter (18) has booked a holiday with friends abroad, didn’t tell us the full amount and then lied about how much spending money she has. They are going bed and breakfast. She will have less than £200 spending money for a week’s holiday. She has used savings to pay for the holiday.
She is saying that her friend will be lending her money if she falls short, which she will I am sure.
My point is she is not being sensible with her money. She only works one day a week and so she cannot actually afford it and hasn’t thought it through.
I think she needs to cancel as it is irresponsible in my opinion to be going abroad with no backup. As far as I am aware she hasn’t booked travel insurance and is reluctant to do so as this will eat into her spending money.
Would like people’s thoughts on this?

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AbzMoz · 30/06/2026 21:53

She absolutely needs travel insurance. A lot of bank cards have it included with other deals and perks back so it may end up ‘free.’

If they are Airbnb and cooking etc then maybe she can stretch to £200, and maybe it’ll incentivise her to work more than one day per week? I can totally get the fomo and a reality check might do her good

letmedowngentle · 30/06/2026 21:53

She’s 18. This is what happens.

Insurance will be £2.

ARingtoit · 30/06/2026 21:52

If you could afford it, could you lend her some and have her pay you back gradually? If not, maybe let her get on with it. It would be a shame for her to miss out on a holiday with her friends and to never be able to share those memories with them. If you make her cancel I'm concerned it could negatively impact your relationship in future.