Am I a terrible mum?

Try to focus on all the people that stopped to help you rather than the one negative person.

Compare her to all the others who kindly helped you. She’s clearly in the minority!

I’d have told her to mind her own business with many swear words. You’re not a bad mum at all ❤️ we’ve all been there. I remember when ds was a baby and dd was 3. She was sick all over me on the bus and I was trying to clean it up and we were all crying and this old lady told me to get a fucking grip. I told her to fuck off and die. In front of my 3 yo. 🤷🏻‍♀️ she doesn’t remember it and we’re all fine! So just be kind to yourself.

Try to think about the people who stepped in to offer you some help. They saw the situation for what it was: a stressed out woman who could use an extra pair of hands. Your son will be ok with an occasional bit of shouting, it’s not like that is the basis of your relationship.

OP, you are not being unreasonable. I've been there too and it's the worst feeling but you are doing a great job and please don't forget that

I was literally on the beach on holiday in Greece last summer and my daughter was stropping , she’s 10 , and i shouted ‘ for the love of god will you just bloody stop ‘ and I mean shouted , certainly not one of my finer moments 🤦🏼‍♀️ ,
but behind me from a sunbed pipes up this Scottish lady,
‘Ay we’ve all been there hen, i promise it does get better ‘ , and I actually bit my lip to stop myself crying .
I shouldn’t have sworn or shouted at her , but it was my last nerve and she was twanging it 🤬.
But it stayed with me as we have all been there with our children and if you haven’t well you’re one of the very very lucky few .
You did nothing wrong x

Yep terrible mum how dare you parent your child and stop them getting hit by a car.

That sounds like a very stressful situation! You definitely did the right thing!!!

Been there OP! The passerby can go fuck themselves !

"AIBU to have told her to mind her own business?"

I mean, I would've told her to "fuck off" personally, but yeah, "mind your own business" is good too.
Sounds like you were doing a great job OP in managing both kids out and about. Don't let this bother you.

I’d have told the woman to mind her own business too but I’d have probably added an expletive into the mix.

Any good person would have offered to help you as the other people did. That woman is a dick.

Have a cuppa and forget about her. It's not easy wrestling a tantruming toddler!

Should of told her to mind her own business and fuck off

She’s lucky she didn’t get more than “mind your own business”, I’d have hit the roof, an already very stressful and potentially dangerous situation and this is what she thinks is her best contribution?! Btw well done on navigating this situation, I’ve been out alone with my baby and two year old many times and even at the best of times it’s still never easy, so I think you did really well to remain composed and calm for what sounds like the vast majority of the time that this was going on. So I vote you are definitely NOT being unreasonable!

Unless you dropped him in the road mid-tantrum and begged passing motorists to drive over him, I reckon you're doing well...

You did the right thing, we've all had to rugby ball carry a kid to a car.
Don't worry

“A woman who'd been walking behind me then shouted asking what the hell I thought i was doing and how dare I shout at my child.”

She’s probably the sort who would have had a gi at you for being a rubbish parent if you hadn’t said anything! How dare she interfere when she didn’t know the full situation? I remember many years ago one of mine having a tantrum by the freezer cabinets in a supermarket - the comments from passers-by were both unhelpful and unwanted. Just ignore, OP - every child will have a “moment” and you were doing your best to keep yours safe. I might consider a set of reins for the next outing!

We’ve all been there. You’re not a bad mum at all.
A bad mum wouldn’t care enough to ask herself the question.

been there. She definitely needed to mind her own business. It’s a phase and he’ll get past it too.