“Too self absorbed to be a mum”

🙄you clearly know nothing about the topic. If GLP1s work with no lifestyle change then you had a medical problem. If you need to also change your diet or exercise, then its work.
You seem to be the one getting pleasure out of bringing others down. Youve just made a pretty nasty (uneducated) dig about GLP1 users. Have a think about why this bothers you that other people with medical problems have medication to help get them healthier. Says a lot about you.

Nah, you are the one being disingenuous, and I think YOU know it.
There are many people who have medical reasons for being overweight, to imply that everyone is only taking medicine as a quick fix shows that you must be really sheltered, or completely lacking in empathy. Oh, you didnt say 'everyone'? Well, neither did I.
people take GLP1 for many reasons, they were originally a diabetes drug after all.
But you know this.

I suppose right now she's actually correct, you are too self absorbed to be a mum because for you your priority is losing weight and being "that" woman and getting abs. Not conceiving and gaining weight. And there's nothing wrong with that either. It's fine to focus on your physical health and prioritise it just now and always. Self absorbed isnt a nice way of saying it, but for now you're focusing on yourself and your desires you have for your physical appearance.

You should have told her to fuck off and mind her own business.
As an aside, if you have a tone muscled body, it’ll bounce back within weeks of giving birth. Pregnancy doesn’t destroy your body if you continue to eat a healthy diet and work out moderately throughout the pregnancy.

@Broks well done for making yourself happy!! You already have the career, savings, house, good marriage. Now you're concentrating on making yourself the best version of you, you can be! Never mind your MIL!

Now, PLEASE tell me your routine and how you toned up? 💪

She could go to being a yoga mum with a fit ball to sit and stretch on at home and an absolute star at aqua aerobics, and when her toddler starts martial arts or dance class or riding or anything, she can join as an adult learner. FFS don't be a downer.

I’ve lost 5 stone on the injections, I bloody love them. Don’t be daft though, the reason most of us love them is that it is much easier with them. I did everything right, changed eating patterns, moved more and now I’ve come off them as I’m at goal
weight the struggle is back. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with using them and I may do again but it is definitely easier. Just expensive.

Not exactly. Career success supports a family. We wouldn’t have the options we do now if I hadn’t worked my butt off to get to a decent level before having a family and being unable to just work late in busy periods or weekends or to the same intensity.

I got it was half a stone. 24 lbs is amazing from someone who is size 12-14 - it is a massive difference and harder to lose than from someone who is significantly larger.

You should be proud of achieving this and the hard work you are putting in. I am on mounjaro and can tell you it is a zillion times easier than losing weight without it. I hope you enjoy being fitter and feeling ore confident, it sounds like you are and really should.

Personally, I would not be rushing to spend time with such a rude MiL, take yourself for a spa day instead - that'll wind her up.

What an awful thing for her to say, cruel and unnecessary. Well done for losing the weight and feeling confident in your body.

If you dont mind me asking, what did you do to tone up?

As I say to my DD, and try to implement (imperfectly) myself: you can’t control what other people say or do, only how you react. There will always be someone…don’t let them spoil your day.

And the no GLP comment seems uncalled for. Losing weight for health is fine whether or not you use GLPs, so if she's on them, maybe due to a medical issue, it might have seemed rude or smug to her!

Good grief. How unpleasant.

It's peak the female condition that it's being suggested you should centre your life around a child who doesn't yet exist and who may never exist above yourself, who does! Not disimilar to the men who respect the imaginary boyfriends and husbands we tell them we have above us, the actual woman they just chatted up, saying no.
I wouldn't bring it up if they don't, but if they try again then I'd shut it down. Yes you are being self centred, as we all should if it doesn't impact badly on others. Yes you're focusing on yourself, yes you are enjoying the fruits of your labours because there is nothing wrong with that.
And as for the continual grandkids questions - answer in a way that makes it clear how intrusive that is. Why yes, MIL, your darling son fucked me senseless on Sunday afternoon. Yes, raw dogging. Bit of misionary, lots of me on top because that makes him cum really hard. He filled me right up. Was that what you wanted to know?

How rude, she sounds bitter that she didn't get the opportunity to prioritise herself when she was younger.

I'd have said, "You think that setting an example of having a healthy lifestyle and ensuring I have energy and health to provide optimal care to my children is self-absorbed? How strange."

Quite. I would love to lose 24 pounds!

I know!😂

But actually I can see him pulling the lemon yoghurt card too!

‘Not so sure about pie and chips but a valrhona chocolate mousse is way more sexy than low fat lemon yoghurt as a big break-out treat.’

@Calliopespa before you commit to the idea of chocolate mousse being sexy you should know/be reminded that it was a central ingredient in Alan Partridge’s seduction technique on at least one occasion.

Come on, you're being disingenuous and you know it.

WLI have changed the lives of countless amounts of people in the world who couldn't stick to their diets because of 'food noise' and being hungry all the time.

That's why for the majority, they make losing weight easier with them than without.

But you know this.

Some peoples bodies dont work properly any more and for those people its a medicine they need to get their body working properly again.

🙄and in the real world most people take it because it is a quick and easy way to lose weight with no thought or work needed.
The OP has done amazing and she should be incredibly proud of herself, especially when there is an incredibly easy, but expensive, option out there.
Well done @Broks ! Ignore the MIL, as you can see from this thread, some women don't need much of a reason to try and bring another woman down. These types of women are best ignored.

Well done OP, that's fantastic! You can tell from your posts that you're feeling happy and confident which I think is brilliant.

MIL sounds catty and that was so unnecessary of her to say. Very cruel. If she says anything else I'd have some responses saved in my head ready to go (hopefully you won't need them!)

@JudgeJ that seems a very different type of comment from your DM and I’d have probably reacted like you did. It’s not singling you out or criticising your personality and choices.

No, the point is its completely irrelevant. Different people have different challenges, different medical needs, and needing GLP1 as your body doesnt function properly isnt 'easier'.

Well honestly I don't know.

I mean if I were trying to conceive and my DH did that, you can bet I'd be calling it self-absorbed.

I'm not sure I agree men are allowed more leeway on this. My friend's teen son does a facial routine each night and has been told he is vain and self-absorbed. Yet think how many girls do that as standard maintenance.